My name ain't Stella....

[Marlita 0]

I've been through the same thing. There are so many men, regardless of where they come from (women too) trying to take advantage and use people for their own gain.

For some strange reason I always attract men from other countries, American men don't seem to like my type...LMAO. But anyways, I met a guy from Kenya....and to make a long story short...came to find out after all the time he was telling me he loved me, and we were engaged to be married, found out he was seeing someone else and trying to use me to get a greencard.

In the process, his plan backfired, and WE got pregnant. I dumped him while I was only 5 months pregnant. He kept giving me excuses about why he couldn't go to doctors appointments with me because he had to do this that and the other with his friends....and eventually stopped calling, stopped coming around, but claimed that I was 'still' his woman.

So, I went through the pregnancy without him, gave birth without him, and been taking care of my daughter without him. She will be 2 in February, and he's NEVER bought her anything, and he never spends more than 5 minutes at a time when he visits her once every 4 months out of the year.

He gets on my freaking NERVES...because he comes to see her, takes pictures and acts like that' being a father, and then is gone 5 minutes later, and we see him 4 or 5 months down the road. People tell me I shouldn't let him see her at all...but...that's not my choice to make, no matter how dumb he is...he is her father, and she has a right to have whatever kind of pitiful relationship with him.

I swore I would never fall in love again but I did. And now my child's father, won't even give consent for her to get a passport, so that I can take her with me when I visit my SO whenever I so choose....so everytime I go, I have to leave her behind.

Sometimes I wonder what could have been, but I know we are better off without him, because he still hasn't learned. It hurts like hell to look at a child that looks so much like a person that you have grown to dislike....but just remember, that your child is a gift from the Creator, and even though its hard, you will be blessed, and you will make it through!

Now...where Jawi at with da story?

Lawd ah massi...JAWI, MI REACH, 2000+ post fi read. Whoaiii, weh mi ah go do. Time to get to di reading. I will see you all on page 140+ in a few days (mi read faass)...pray fi mi...

:lol: by the time you are finish you will have gotten quite afew hearts and the name mouthamassi.lol

Yo...mi love fi chat wid mi peeps.

phatmadame, I haven't read all the recent posts, but I get the impression that you have decided to part ways with your SO. I am so sorry to hear and I pray that God will ease your pain. Know that we love you lots and we will keep you up in prayers. I'll be standing in the gap for you love. (((HUGS)))

Thank you JaTam.......yes please keep me in your prayes........

I love you guys just the same too. What a great community we have built, all because of this fcuked-up-piece of sh!t-nogood-causing two timers to prey on innocent US citizen journey( do not take any offense to this, just venting).

How Jawi doing?

Jonesie's little one is here yet?

Alright...mi couldn't kibba mi mout'. Mi dis ah si di character dem an' mi caan wait fi si di movie!!!! What a 'tory. Jawi, hurry up and put di book together...mi ah wait fi buy it at Barnes & Nobles, Amazon.com...weh eva...ah di bes Christmas gift mi coulda gi. Aaron ah wonda wah mek mi a laugh out so...di tory sweet mi...

Nuh tell mi nuttin, but Melodee ah go limb up smaddy ra$$, nuh true.

I would love to see this on DVD..........Jawi you got a hit on your hands

WEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL , I guess we all gonna find out soon

I know that parents need to consent for their child to leave the country but why does he if you are not married nor he is in your lives? Did you put his name on her BC? Doesn't she have your last name? That seems odd that he gets this much control over her life when he's just in a sense...a sperm donor. I don't have children so I don't know whats its like to be in these situations, but I understand why some folks may say don't let him see her. I would think that it may be more damaging to her to know that her father is around but "chooses" not to spend time with her. So the coming in and out of her life may be more volatile in the long run that not being there at all. Like I said I am child less so I am just speculating what I may do in a situation like this. It sucks no matter what. But you sound like a great mom so that little one has someone great to look up to.

[Marlita 0]

PASSPORTS FOR MINORS

A minor is defined for passport purposes as an unmarried person under the age of 18 years. 22 CFR 51.27.

Either parent, whether a U.S. citizen or not, may apply for the U.S. passport for their minor child. However, the Two Parent Consent Law, effective July 2, 2001, requires that, for a child under the age of 14, both parents must consent to issuance, or the applying parent must document his/her sole authority to obtain a passport for the child. Thus, before a passport is issued for such a child, Passport Services will require evidence of one of the following: sole custody, a court order allowing the parent to travel with the child; a written statement under penalty of perjury that the other parent agrees to issuance or is unavailable, a termination of the other parent’s parental rights, or compelling humanitarian reasons relating to the welfare of the child.

Phone: (202) 736-9124

Fax: (202) 736-9133

Ok, Jene' u wouldn't be commiting perjury if u signed a consent form, b/c he is not around..u can't be a part-time day...or perdiem....makes me mad..u go try for the passport and put it to God b4 u do and believe that u will get it....good luck

Yes I am very sure you will get it too. If the man is not in your life...no custody or no legal court orderd child support then the child is YOUR responsibility and you just need to let the "powers that be' know your story and you will get a passport for your daughter.

[Jengles 0]

Hello ladies, how is everyone doing,

I am on late today got about 6 pages to read since last night......wow

Hey Maddy,

Glad fi have yuh Gurl!!!! Yes, we been CHATTIN'!!!! How yuh duh?

Gill

I am fine mrs. gill, just deh ya a easy cack you nuh...............got me 4 bottles of wine, one going to dinner on Tuesday and well the next 3 .........

Dyam right Gurl...git f-ed hup call 'im and cuss his claat! Han end deh conversation wid "Yuh likkle pissa a sittin' neva duh nuttin' fuh mi hennyway!!!" BAM!! (Gurl, ain't nuttin' kill a yardmen more den telling dem dem cyaan hangle deh 'wuk'!!)

Jus' my 2 cents!

Love ya,

Gill

and after dat tell him Joe Grind hitting it better

[Marlita 0]

PASSPORTS FOR MINORS

A minor is defined for passport purposes as an unmarried person under the age of 18 years. 22 CFR 51.27.

Either parent, whether a U.S. citizen or not, may apply for the U.S. passport for their minor child. However, the Two Parent Consent Law, effective July 2, 2001, requires that, for a child under the age of 14, both parents must consent to issuance, or the applying parent must document his/her sole authority to obtain a passport for the child. Thus, before a passport is issued for such a child, Passport Services will require evidence of one of the following: sole custody, a court order allowing the parent to travel with the child; a written statement under penalty of perjury that the other parent agrees to issuance or is unavailable, a termination of the other parent’s parental rights, or compelling humanitarian reasons relating to the welfare of the child.

Phone: (202) 736-9124

Fax: (202) 736-9133

Ok, Jene' u wouldn't be commiting perjury if u signed a consent form, b/c he is not around..u can't be a part-time day...or perdiem....makes me mad..u go try for the passport and put it to God b4 u do and believe that u will get it....good luck

That's it Kimmy!!! That's what I did. Write a quick note either on the application ( I think they give you room) or attach a note stating what I said before...Viola Baby Girl's passport!! Good luck Chica!!

Bless,

Gill

PS- I found my 'Rebel Salute' outfit this morning! It's cute...it's all natural Khaki colored mosiac top and Kahki capri's!! Macy's has a wicked one day sale today! I got there at 7:15 and picked up some more x-mas ish! !! I through my R.S. outfit in for myself...'because I'm worth it'! *said in a deep sultry sexy voice*

Lawd! mi wuk near ah two ah dem! mi ah guh ova dere now! be back tuh read di res of di thread dem. Lata

[phatmadame81 0]

Ok so last night as I was trying not to smote my child because he didn't want to do his homework. mr jengles remarked how children up here get paid more attention. He said in JA kids come home from school and "fling dem bag in dem yard and dem gone" he says because we up here stay indoors more we pay more attention to our children. Now I don't think this is a JA thing but a carribean island thing and i'm asking because I never go a school in the west indies, but no from visting when younger. Mi gone all bout the place...

Now not trying to say kids are neglected or anything like dat,

he says our kids get into less trouble that way or have less opportunity for trouble.

what y'all tink

Mi nuh knoa bout dat one Jens...Mi neva guh a school inna JA. eiddah. But I tink pickney dehso is much more independent...However, mek report cyard time come han dem nuh hup to par...dat's a nex issue!!!

Suh if dem waan fi fling dem bag han gone...cool...However, dem betta mek sure deh work git done somehow and dema learn dem lesson. Cause truss mi I knoa Mama nah guh waste har good good dollas fi sen dem a school, fi dem skylark!

Gill

that is so trueeeeeeee the highlighted part yes mon, it was worst if you live with you grand parents dem..

I use to get my bu++ woooopppppppppped for sylarking after school, and if I had anything less than an A on my report card mi granny woulda kill mi wid lick, and then pappa would take his turn..........bout mi need fi bring up mi grades dem.....Not them little leather belts we have now , it was a switch from affah di tree, any one,all now mi feel de lick dem.

[Jengles 0]

but marlita u nuh easy! look good one day sale and mi haffa go a hospital *sucking teeth*

Edited December 19, 2007 by Jengles

[Forever Young 1]

Hello ladies, how is everyone doing,

I am on late today got about 6 pages to read since last night......wow

Hey Maddy,

Glad fi have yuh Gurl!!!! Yes, we been CHATTIN'!!!! How yuh duh?

Gill

I am fine mrs. gill, just deh ya a easy cack you nuh...............got me 4 bottles of wine, one going to dinner on Tuesday and well the next 3 .........

Dyam right Gurl...git f-ed hup call 'im and cuss his claat! Han end deh conversation wid "Yuh likkle pissa a sittin' neva duh nuttin' fuh mi hennyway!!!" BAM!! (Gurl, ain't nuttin' kill a yardmen more den telling dem dem cyaan hangle deh 'wuk'!!)

Jus' my 2 cents!

Love ya,

Gill

and after dat tell him Joe Grind hitting it better

...Hell tuh deh Yea!!!

[Jengles 0]

Ok so last night as I was trying not to smote my child because he didn't want to do his homework. mr jengles remarked how children up here get paid more attention. He said in JA kids come home from school and "fling dem bag in dem yard and dem gone" he says because we up here stay indoors more we pay more attention to our children. Now I don't think this is a JA thing but a carribean island thing and i'm asking because I never go a school in the west indies, but no from visting when younger. Mi gone all bout the place...

Now not trying to say kids are neglected or anything like dat,

he says our kids get into less trouble that way or have less opportunity for trouble.

what y'all tink

Mi nuh knoa bout dat one Jens...Mi neva guh a school inna JA. eiddah. But I tink pickney dehso is much more independent...However, mek report cyard time come han dem nuh hup to par...dat's a nex issue!!!

Suh if dem waan fi fling dem bag han gone...cool...However, dem betta mek sure deh work git done somehow and dema learn dem lesson. Cause truss mi I knoa Mama nah guh waste har good good dollas fi sen dem a school, fi dem skylark!

Gill

that is so trueeeeeeee the highlighted part yes mon, it was worst if you live with you grand parents dem..

I use to get my bu++ woooopppppppppped for sylarking after school, and if I had anything less than an A on my report card mi granny woulda kill mi wid lick, and then pappa would take his turn..........bout mi need fi bring up mi grades dem.....Not them little leather belts we have now , it was a switch from affah di tree, any one,all now mi feel de lick dem.

did dem mek u pick u owna switch. lol

[Jengles 0]

he also thinks schools up here better....but i had to correct a chiney man at my wuk today..chat bout education in JA nuh good... like im would no

[phatmadame81 0]

Actually, being a single mom of a child whose father is the worst dead-beat possible. I will say thateven though you try your hardest to raise the child by yourself the government is fed up with people stealing other people's child so they crack down on us, the innocent ones.

I tried for a while to get him to come with me to the post office and he said NO-illiterate ####### said I was trying to take his son from him.....what son stupid you have not been in his live( maybe for teh fist year and then you just a part time dad, part time is too much, he was less than that.

Then I asked him to sign the authorization, he said no again, so I am now in the situation where I have to get a court order.I just recently learned that if a parent takes teh authorizatiion form to the post office ( it has to be filled out and they should write on the back that the other parent is not in the picture...something to that effect and get it notorized) they should be able to get it.

I am actually about to file for sole custody of my baby so I could careless cause I am gonna ask the judge to give me full privalge over his travel and all.......shooootttttttttt I am the only parent he has aneways....

Back in 2005 when I was going ot visit my ex-SO in Jamaica, they tried turning me back with my son, because I did not have the paper, I had to beg his dad to send me a fax saying it is ok for him to go to Jamaica for 2 weeks.........now that they are saying that everyone needs a passport it might be a little easier to get one..........

I know it just sucks that theses no good piece of ####### were there to donate sperm but has not stuck around to help out, but if we has parent want to take them away for a while we have to get their permission....

[*JG* 2]

Ok so last night as I was trying not to smote my child because he didn't want to do his homework. mr jengles remarked how children up here get paid more attention. He said in JA kids come home from school and "fling dem bag in dem yard and dem gone" he says because we up here stay indoors more we pay more attention to our children. Now I don't think this is a JA thing but a carribean island thing and i'm asking because I never go a school in the west indies, but no from visting when younger. Mi gone all bout the place...

Now not trying to say kids are neglected or anything like dat,

he says our kids get into less trouble that way or have less opportunity for trouble.

what y'all tink

It's what I saw with my nieces, nephews, SILs and BIL....As long as there was daylight, they changed clothes and were gone. Homework was done after dark.

[phatmadame81 0]

Hello ladies, how is everyone doing,

I am on late today got about 6 pages to read since last night......wow

Hey Maddy,

Glad fi have yuh Gurl!!!! Yes, we been CHATTIN'!!!! How yuh duh?

Gill

I am fine mrs. gill, just deh ya a easy cack you nuh...............got me 4 bottles of wine, one going to dinner on Tuesday and well the next 3 .........

Dyam right Gurl...git f-ed hup call 'im and cuss his claat! Han end deh conversation wid "Yuh likkle pissa a sittin' neva duh nuttin' fuh mi hennyway!!!" BAM!! (Gurl, ain't nuttin' kill a yardmen more den telling dem dem cyaan hangle deh 'wuk'!!)

Jus' my 2 cents!

Love ya,

Gill

and after dat tell him Joe Grind hitting it better

you ladies crack me up , that would be good if it were true......mi back so oily you can wipe it off and use it fi fry dumpling

[*JG* 2]

he also thinks schools up here better....but i had to correct a chiney man at my wuk today..chat bout education in JA nuh good... like im would no

Recent Gleaner articles support this stance. Maybe he read them.

[phatmadame81 0]

Ok so last night as I was trying not to smote my child because he didn't want to do his homework. mr jengles remarked how children up here get paid more attention. He said in JA kids come home from school and "fling dem bag in dem yard and dem gone" he says because we up here stay indoors more we pay more attention to our children. Now I don't think this is a JA thing but a carribean island thing and i'm asking because I never go a school in the west indies, but no from visting when younger. Mi gone all bout the place...

Now not trying to say kids are neglected or anything like dat,

he says our kids get into less trouble that way or have less opportunity for trouble.

what y'all tink

Mi nuh knoa bout dat one Jens...Mi neva guh a school inna JA. eiddah. But I tink pickney dehso is much more independent...However, mek report cyard time come han dem nuh hup to par...dat's a nex issue!!!

Suh if dem waan fi fling dem bag han gone...cool...However, dem betta mek sure deh work git done somehow and dema learn dem lesson. Cause truss mi I knoa Mama nah guh waste har good good dollas fi sen dem a school, fi dem skylark!

Gill

that is so trueeeeeeee the highlighted part yes mon, it was worst if you live with you grand parents dem..

I use to get my bu++ woooopppppppppped for sylarking after school, and if I had anything less than an A on my report card mi granny woulda kill mi wid lick, and then pappa would take his turn..........bout mi need fi bring up mi grades dem.....Not them little leather belts we have now , it was a switch from affah di tree, any one,all now mi feel de lick dem.

did dem mek u pick u owna switch. lol

Hell yeah, and if mi nevah bring a good size one it was a extra whooping

[Jengles 0]

phatmadam,

Please if he was so concerned about his child he would be living with him...