Cultural differences US - in relationship with parents

[Feliz 0]

Here in US i guess it's rare to miss parents and to want to live with them, everyone is trying to be independent and move out and as far as possible...

I hope my kids never feel such way to me.

reading all immigration forums and in personal discussions - I almost feel guilty that i wanted to and actually lived half of the 3 years of my greencard time back in home country to be with both my husband and my mom, nobody thinks that it's a reason enough to jeopardize immigration, even if I in fact didn't and i have evidence i dint abandon my residency i paid taxes and i still have chance to get citizenship next year not 3 years later. well, we'll see, may be i will need a lawyer if i get rejected, but i feel i did the right thing.

some part of people seems just simply irritated with all foreigners and generally xenophobic, well... as long as they don't go Nazi or KKK, it's their right to live in constant hate.

[Jasman0717 9]

Here in US i guess it's rare to miss parents and to want to live with them, everyone is trying to be independent and move out and as far as possible...

I think my brother, may he rest in peace, will disagree. Up to the day of his death, and now his widow carries on the tradition, both his sons have lived with them most of their adult life. There are grand children living there and now a great grand child. I must say my sister-in-law and my brother have the patience of a saint, I couldn't handle two sons, two sons' girlfriends, five children as young as four and now a great grand child that is only a week old.

One son is 42 and the other is 40

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

I like to visit both my and Nani's parents and I like for them to visit us.

I couldn't imagine all living under the same roof, though.

[Caladan 19]

There's definitely an American ethic that says a successful young person is one who has moved away from his or her parents, married and has his or her own house. I suspect it's because we have (comparatively) so much cheap land. But it doesn't mean all Americans are cold towards their parents or families. It's just different.

[Feliz 0]

may be if my father was alive, i wouldn't want to live together so much, but i am my mom's only child and support, and she is older then 60, and in third world 60 is considered old :-( . Woman of her age start to seriously prepare for their funerals :-(.

has only me as her source of hope and news, and I even cant have child untill I bring her over, because it would be too cruel to her, to keep her apart from so long waited grandchild,

But i am telling her that here in US people get married at 60, i knew 2 professors that got married one 62 one 57 and they were happy and even look younger together. my husband's grandmother is 87, and she is still having plenty of life, visiting her friends and just stopped driving at age 84.

I guess i am just venting here :-(

[DeadPoolX 9]

There's definitely an American ethic that says a successful young person is one who has moved away from his or her parents, married and has his or her own house. I suspect it's because we have (comparatively) so much cheap land. But it doesn't mean all Americans are cold towards their parents or families. It's just different.

I wouldn't say it's purely an American ethic. I've seen this thought process quite often in Canada as well. So I suppose you could say it's a "North American" ethic.

[Caladan 19]

There's definitely an American ethic that says a successful young person is one who has moved away from his or her parents, married and has his or her own house. I suspect it's because we have (comparatively) so much cheap land. But it doesn't mean all Americans are cold towards their parents or families. It's just different.

I wouldn't say it's purely an American ethic. I've seen this thought process quite often in Canada as well. So I suppose you could say it's a "North American" ethic.

I didn't say 'purely.'

[Drew and Tik 0]

Yeah, it's just different. I like my family just fine, they're great, but when my plans didn't coincide with staying with them any longer we parted ways and it wasn't any real problem. We still see each other, about once a month or so on average, more or less. If they did live closer to my employment then I would consider living with them, but more for financial reasons than anything else.

Just different cultures, you know?

[DeadPoolX 9]

There's definitely an American ethic that says a successful young person is one who has moved away from his or her parents, married and has his or her own house. I suspect it's because we have (comparatively) so much cheap land. But it doesn't mean all Americans are cold towards their parents or families. It's just different.

I wouldn't say it's purely an American ethic. I've seen this thought process quite often in Canada as well. So I suppose you could say it's a "North American" ethic.

I didn't say 'purely.'

I know you didn't. However, the term "American" refers to the United States. Had you said "North American" I wouldn't have made that comment.

[Caladan 19]

There's definitely an American ethic that says a successful young person is one who has moved away from his or her parents, married and has his or her own house. I suspect it's because we have (comparatively) so much cheap land. But it doesn't mean all Americans are cold towards their parents or families. It's just different.

I wouldn't say it's purely an American ethic. I've seen this thought process quite often in Canada as well. So I suppose you could say it's a "North American" ethic.

I didn't say 'purely.'

I know you didn't. However, the term "American" refers to the United States. Had you said "North American" I wouldn't have made that comment.

Yes, I was talking about the United States. I said nothing about Canada, mostly on the grounds that the OP didn't emigrate to Canada. I did not say say, or imply, that said behavioral ethic was unique to the United States.

[panamania79 2]

I like to visit both my and Nani's parents and I like for them to visit us.

I couldn't imagine all living under the same roof, though.

I hear that loud and clear.I could actually breathe better after I moved away from home.The baby is soooo cute.

[*JG* 2]

While my own parent's lived with my grandmother for years, I don't think I could live with them.

I would kill my MIL if we lived under the same roof.

[Nessa 23]

[Marilyn. 340]

so...

it looks like not a lot of people saw this thread the first time around and it is still relevant...

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Ahmed and i just had a little of this discussion (morocco) he and his 2 younger brothers still live at home, he works, brothers dont, well they do part time in the store but they dont have a full time job of their own. His sister and her husband and child have their own house but still come home to the family home EVERY weekend. He says this is what his parents want and im saying if the parents didnt have to provide for all the kids they might have money they need for medicines etc. I know this is their ways of life but here we raise our children TO get out and be on their own...whose to say.... i have taken my kids back in if they have hard times but they are just temporarily there not forever.