What is the worst they have done ?

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

Hi there

Lately I've been felling like I just don't have to only justify myself over the fact that I met my love on the internet ,but also because We've been married for 7 months now but not living together .It is so dificult for people to understand this long process when they are not going through it.

They keep asking me this awful questions like .

When are you going to leave ? Does he still call you like when you were dating ? Don't you think he is cheating on you ?or even worst like this lady I ran into and she said I though you were already gone .Is that you repent of leaving .Did you realize the mistake you were making and now you are staying here?.

Those are the things that make you think either she is really jelous because I found the most amazing man to spend the rest of my life with or she is just mean and cruel.

I'm so sorry.

All I can say is that you and your spouse know in your hearts what the truth is. Let people ask their stupid and cruel questions, I'm sure most of them don't realize how much they are hurting you. They probably think they are just innocent questions. Many people don't understand how complicated the immigration process is.

Best of luck with the rest of your journey..I hope it goes quickly.

Hugs

Laura

Edited October 26, 2007 by ~Laura and Nick~

[C and J 1]

I'm so sorry.

All I can say is that you and your spouse know in your hearts what the truth is. Let people ask their stupid and cruel questions, I'm sure most of them don't realize how much they are hurting you. They probably think they are just innocent questions. Many people don't understand how complicated the immigration process is.

Best of luck with the rest of your journey..I hope it goes quickly.

Hugs

Laura

Ditto to that. Only those people going through this process can understand what it takes out of you. You know that your relationship is real and you know how much you mean to each other. It will all be worth it in the end. I'm in the same boat as you, I have been married for 8 months tomorrow and we have only been together on visits. No one questions my relationship with Josh anymore because the important people have all met him and they know how happy he makes me

Just remember when people like that get you down, that you have a husband/wife to lean on for support

Edited October 26, 2007 by C and J

[aidap 0]

LOL, so many people defending the falling in love on the internet. Don't be so defensive, live your life the way you want it. No one can stop you.

Although, I have to say the grainy webcam bit was hilarious!! I almost fell off my chair laughing

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Makes me wonder why some people´s minds are so limited

[jrmach1 0]

Hi there

There is a couple that got married like a couple weeks before we did and they got an approval on their paper work a week ago . it gives me hope but not too much as crazy as this process is we could be close to get our approval or they could just skip us .That would kill me .

[Teena 0]

:ot:

Shouldn't this be posted in OFF-TOPIC forum? How does this post relate to the K-3 Visa application process?

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The craziest thing that my Dad actually told me is when I was about 21 and I met a guy from Alexandria, Africa. He was really nice and sweet to me. We dated for about three months and my Dad kept saying that he was going to hit me one day because "all African men beat their women". I actually tried to provoke him by making him mad, being rude, and mean to him just to see, but he never did. I felt so bad that I had hurt his feelings that I stopped dating him. I am sorry that I listened because I ultimately hurt someone that had been very nice to me and he did not deserve that. I did apologize and tell him that I was sorry, but guilty is not a good feeling. So I still ended the relationship. That is the last time I listened to stereotypes when I decided to date someone that I genuinely liked.

Teena

[mojorisin 5]

:ot:

Shouldn't this be posted in OFF-TOPIC forum? How does this post relate to the K-3 Visa application process?

:ot:

The craziest thing that my Dad actually told me is when I was about 21 and I met a guy from Alexandria, Africa. He was really nice and sweet to me. We dated for about three months and my Dad kept saying that he was going to hit me one day because "all African men beat their women". I actually tried to provoke him by making him mad, being rude, and mean to him just to see, but he never did. I felt so bad that I had hurt his feelings that I stopped dating him. I am sorry that I listened because I ultimately hurt someone that had been very nice to me and he did not deserve that. I did apologize and tell him that I was sorry, but guilty is not a good feeling. So I still ended the relationship. That is the last time I listened to stereotypes when I decided to date someone that I genuinely liked.

Teena

You tried to provoke him by making him mad, being rude, and mean to him? Then you feel guilty and dump him. You're kidding of course. You can't be that rotten of a lady.