The Vent

[Ron/Sharon 0]

Our lives always sux until we see someone worse off than we are. We are the centre of the universe for someone, but not for everyone, keep smiling everything will fall into place (eventually).

[Chica Yeyé 41]

U know..why do some ppl act as if everything is perfect in their world...for what..SHOW ? the sun will shed light soon....

It's not show sister, it's self-centeredness .... show me someone that says for more than X months that "life is always fine" and I'll show you a liar liar!

Can I say Amen !..it's ok to live in truth

Don't know about truth.... I only know that life throws you curves all the time: sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down. Comes with the job of being human and fallible I guess. Or maybe I'm just stupid; but my stupidity tells me that the good times are to be enjoyed, and that the bad times eventually pass

Peace, L.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Right ..eventually

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Our lives always sux until we see someone worse off than we are. We are the centre of the universe for someone, but not for everyone, keep smiling everything will fall into place (eventually).

WHAT??? I am NOT the centre of the universe????????

You are MEAN Ron

L.

[thetreble 19]

[starting emotional vent]

I can;t live here anymore in Jersey. 3 weeks ago I finally got a job after getting my green card at the beginning of October. I have lived in New Jersey for almost a year now and the truth has finally gotten to me-I am just not happy here. I love my husband and his family, but I can't live here anymore. I am 23 years old and I miss Ottawa, Ontario more than ANYTHING. I miss so much about it, it is cheaper to live there, and as a very artistic person I just miss having live music, poetry, etc. at my finger tips. Suburban New Jersey is not cutting it for me.

I'm 23 years old and I just go to work and come home like my husband does and eat, go to sleep, etc. We don't live close enough to a city (NYC is close but I can't just go there all the time, it takes forever and its expensive and I can't just go by myself at night)

I just have a huge void in my heart and I know it can't be filled here right now. My only feeling right now is to move back and have my husband come join me when ever he gets HIS residency. It is such a HUGE decision to make though and I hope I am making the right one....

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[~Nini~ 2]

I'm tired of going to the mall and being stared at like I'm an alien. I've been trying really hard to push it to the back of my mind, because I don't want to get into that self-conscious mindframe and think that everyone is doing it. I'm just lucky it hasn't been worse than looks.

Bee and I went into J.Crew today and we went our separate ways. Everywhere I go the clothes are too big for me so I always look for the midget sizes, hehe. Anyway, some lady was literally gaping at me in the corner with half-crossed eyes... when I walked in another direction she was still staring. I felt like I'd been caught shoplifting!

We don't live in the middle of nowhere, and I've seen other Asian people around so it's not like I'm an anomaly... but jeez if it isn't starting to make me feel like I don't want to leave the house.

Oh, and *hugs* to Amanda. Because I completely understand how you feel, hun.

Edited November 7, 2007 by Nini & Bee

[derekkj 0]

So this morning I was getting ready for work when I noticed a dead leaf on one of our houseplants. Went over to grab it and of course the cat had to investigate what I was doing. I told him no, but when do cats listen?!, and long story short, the cat ends up wearing the pot on its head. Dirt and leaves everywhere and of course I am already running late as usual. So I tell Calvin what a very bad cat he is, and run to get the vacuum. Well that bloody cat won't let me clean up in peace so I am getting even more frustrated and I grab him and throw him into the bathroom. Derek calls it the "penalty box" and it makes a great place for Calvin to calm down when he gets neurotic. Anyway, I am in such a rush to close the bathroom door so I can finish cleaning up, that I forget to remove my foot from the door jamb and literally slam the door on my foot! So now, I have dirt and leaves on my beige carpet, a crying cat in the bathroom, a bleeding and throbbing foot and obscenities are pouring out of my mouth. What a start to my day. And my foot still hurts 8 hours later. Only good news is that I have a decent excuse not to work out tonight.

[Krikit 1,164]

[starting emotional vent]

I can;t live here anymore in Jersey. 3 weeks ago I finally got a job after getting my green card at the beginning of October. I have lived in New Jersey for almost a year now and the truth has finally gotten to me-I am just not happy here. I love my husband and his family, but I can't live here anymore. I am 23 years old and I miss Ottawa, Ontario more than ANYTHING. I miss so much about it, it is cheaper to live there, and as a very artistic person I just miss having live music, poetry, etc. at my finger tips. Suburban New Jersey is not cutting it for me.

I'm 23 years old and I just go to work and come home like my husband does and eat, go to sleep, etc. We don't live close enough to a city (NYC is close but I can't just go there all the time, it takes forever and its expensive and I can't just go by myself at night)

I just have a huge void in my heart and I know it can't be filled here right now. My only feeling right now is to move back and have my husband come join me when ever he gets HIS residency. It is such a HUGE decision to make though and I hope I am making the right one....

[/ending rant]

Awwwww. I'm so sorry, Amanda. I know how you feel. My first husband was in the military and we were posted to armpit, nb from Toronto. Man, was that culture shock. I'm sorry I don't have the time to post a longer reply, but I'm wondering if you could move somewhere closer to cultural activities in your area? That way you could stick it out here until you naturalize, and then have the freedom to live in either country. A few years is not much time in the grand scheme of things.

[Krikit 1,164]

I'm tired of going to the mall and being stared at like I'm an alien. I've been trying really hard to push it to the back of my mind, because I don't want to get into that self-conscious mindframe and think that everyone is doing it. I'm just lucky it hasn't been worse than looks.

Bee and I went into J.Crew today and we went our separate ways. Everywhere I go the clothes are too big for me so I always look for the midget sizes, hehe. Anyway, some lady was literally gaping at me in the corner with half-crossed eyes... when I walked in another direction she was still staring. I felt like I'd been caught shoplifting!

We don't live in the middle of nowhere, and I've seen other Asian people around so it's not like I'm an anomaly... but jeez if it isn't starting to make me feel like I don't want to leave the house.

Oh, and *hugs* to Amanda. Because I completely understand how you feel, hun.

People tend to stare at beautiful women. They can't help it. Just smile and make their day.

[Krikit 1,164]

So this morning I was getting ready for work when I noticed a dead leaf on one of our houseplants. Went over to grab it and of course the cat had to investigate what I was doing. I told him no, but when do cats listen?!, and long story short, the cat ends up wearing the pot on its head. Dirt and leaves everywhere and of course I am already running late as usual. So I tell Calvin what a very bad cat he is, and run to get the vacuum. Well that bloody cat won't let me clean up in peace so I am getting even more frustrated and I grab him and throw him into the bathroom. Derek calls it the "penalty box" and it makes a great place for Calvin to calm down when he gets neurotic. Anyway, I am in such a rush to close the bathroom door so I can finish cleaning up, that I forget to remove my foot from the door jamb and literally slam the door on my foot! So now, I have dirt and leaves on my beige carpet, a crying cat in the bathroom, a bleeding and throbbing foot and obscenities are pouring out of my mouth. What a start to my day. And my foot still hurts 8 hours later. Only good news is that I have a decent excuse not to work out tonight.

That's funny. Sounds like my life.... without the cat. Just be thankful you're not these people. That made me laugh too. Hope your foot's feeling better soon.

[derekkj 0]

That's funny. Sounds like my life.... without the cat. Just be thankful you're not these people. That made me laugh too. Hope your foot's feeling better soon.

"I'm just glad to be alive. It's raining cows out here, man!"

I didn't see that earlier, but that's halarious!

[SpiritAlight 1]

[starting emotional vent]

I can;t live here anymore in Jersey. 3 weeks ago I finally got a job after getting my green card at the beginning of October. I have lived in New Jersey for almost a year now and the truth has finally gotten to me-I am just not happy here. I love my husband and his family, but I can't live here anymore. I am 23 years old and I miss Ottawa, Ontario more than ANYTHING. I miss so much about it, it is cheaper to live there, and as a very artistic person I just miss having live music, poetry, etc. at my finger tips. Suburban New Jersey is not cutting it for me.

I'm 23 years old and I just go to work and come home like my husband does and eat, go to sleep, etc. We don't live close enough to a city (NYC is close but I can't just go there all the time, it takes forever and its expensive and I can't just go by myself at night)

I just have a huge void in my heart and I know it can't be filled here right now. My only feeling right now is to move back and have my husband come join me when ever he gets HIS residency. It is such a HUGE decision to make though and I hope I am making the right one....

[/ending rant]

Oh honey, please do not rush into leaving the U.S. after all that time, $, and effort to get there.

Yes, do wait as someone else here suggested (to get a permanent green card and/or naturalize) to at least be able to come back if you decide to.

The best thing to do is simply leave where you are living and go somewhere where your lifestyles can improve (which sounds like anywhere would be better than where you are).

By being pro-active and seeking work and home in another city before you get there...see what is available and then Just Do It!

[Ron/Sharon 0]

Our lives always sux until we see someone worse off than we are. We are the centre of the universe for someone, but not for everyone, keep smiling everything will fall into place (eventually).

WHAT??? I am NOT the centre of the universe????????

You are MEAN Ron

L.

Sweetheart never forget that you are the centre of a universe, Bren's universe.

I have never been called MEAN before or maybe I just didn't hear it being said. As they say call me anything you like but late for lunch.

[Marilyn. 340]

i am not very happy here either because i really miss my family but I love my hubby very much and I am willing to stick it out...

hubby is working on a new career that should get us out if the slump we are in financially and then I will be able to visit my family more often...

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I'm tired of going to the mall and being stared at like I'm an alien. I've been trying really hard to push it to the back of my mind, because I don't want to get into that self-conscious mindframe and think that everyone is doing it. I'm just lucky it hasn't been worse than looks.

Bee and I went into J.Crew today and we went our separate ways. Everywhere I go the clothes are too big for me so I always look for the midget sizes, hehe. Anyway, some lady was literally gaping at me in the corner with half-crossed eyes... when I walked in another direction she was still staring. I felt like I'd been caught shoplifting!

We don't live in the middle of nowhere, and I've seen other Asian people around so it's not like I'm an anomaly... but jeez if it isn't starting to make me feel like I don't want to leave the house.

Oh, and *hugs* to Amanda. Because I completely understand how you feel, hun.

People tend to stare at beautiful women. They can't help it. Just smile and make their day.

Couldn't have said it better myself... and I AM so much very much so much more smarterrrr than Krikit

In all seriousness, I understand how you feel Nini; happens to me every darn day... people are just stupid. Luvyah my Asian gurrrrl.

i am not very happy here either because i really miss my family but I love my hubby very much and I am willing to stick it out...

hubby is working on a new career that should get us out if the slump we are in financially and then I will be able to visit my family more often...

I hear you babeee. Starting a new life, a new career.... change, change, change. It will be ok, eventually ---hugsss----