The Vent

[Chica Yeyé 41]

This one's for Madam Comrade Leninovich.

OK, you're forgiven. For now... :devil:

[Delicia 1]

I am seriously doubting that I accepted a good job. I cannot believe anything anyone in that stupid office tells me. I have been there 10 weeks and it feels like 10 years. I am thinking about finding a new job; however, I accepted a lump sum relocation from the company and it takes 2 years to work it off. Perhaps when I hit my 1 year mark, when I only owe 50% back, I will run like a bat out of hell.

Not to mention, immigration just sucks donkey balls and I don't think I will ever live with my husband again because I will die of old age before anything gets done. How can this possibly happen 2 times in a row??????

Edited December 14, 2007 by Delicia

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

I am seriously doubting that I accepted a good job. I cannot believe anything anyone in that stupid office tells me. I have been there 10 weeks and it feels like 10 years. I am thinking about finding a new job; however, I accepted a lump sum relocation from the company and it takes 2 years to work it off. Perhaps when I hit my 1 year mark, when I only owe 50% back, I will run like a bat out of hell.

Take a relaxed attitude about work. Works for me.

[Delicia 1]

It's hard when my boss, the director, likes to point her finger at me when it wasn't me or even anyone on my team that performed the indiscretion. She gets me in her office and rags on me about everything, regardless. She blames me for the color of her car.

And right now, I am late for the company holiday party. I so don't want to go...

Edited December 14, 2007 by Delicia

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

It's hard when my boss, the director, likes to point her finger at me when it wasn't me or even anyone on my team that performed the indiscretion. She gets me in her office and rags on me about everything, regardless. She blames me for the color of her car.

And right now, I am late for the company holiday party. I so don't want to go...

She's jealous. She's got issues. Ride this out and she'll see that she can't get to you. Go to the party and smile as if nothing is happening. Talk to her and it will totally mess with her brain. Don't get upset, just remember, REVENGE IS A DISH THAT IS BEST SERVED COLD. Bide your time.

[Delicia 1]

So I drove all the way to the place where they are holding the company party and I sat in my car and cried. I am just way too emotional to be in a quasi-professional-social scene at the moment. I would probably go off on someone and well, be the one that got fired at the Holiday Party that everyone would remember for years to come.

I need to have a serious heart to heart with the guy who is training me. I am supposed to be taking over his job as he was promoted but they are waiting for him to find a 'competent' replacement as the position is pretty vital to their biggest client. He owes me some explanations why I am caught in the cross fire between him (my mentor, if you will) and our boss (we report to the same director). She only seems to call me in on the carpet when he (the mentor) is out of the office, which is pretty back handed.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

So I drove all the way to the place where they are holding the company party and I sat in my car and cried. I am just way too emotional to be in a quasi-professional-social scene at the moment. I would probably go off on someone and well, be the one that got fired at the Holiday Party that everyone would remember for years to come.

I need to have a serious heart to heart with the guy who is training me. I am supposed to be taking over his job as he was promoted but they are waiting for him to find a 'competent' replacement as the position is pretty vital to their biggest client. He owes me some explanations why I am caught in the cross fire between him (my mentor, if you will) and our boss (we report to the same director). She only seems to call me in on the carpet when he (the mentor) is out of the office, which is pretty back handed.

I am so sorry. If any of us could have been there for you, we would have been there in a minute. Sounds like office politics are getting in the way of job performance. I've been down that road before so you must clear the air as soon as possible. Your emotional and physical health will be much better off in the long term. Good luck and please keep us posted. Hang in there hun. If you need to vent, let it out. This is a safe place to let out your frustrations. Don't let those MOFOs get to you.

[SpiritAlight 1]

So I drove all the way to the place where they are holding the company party and I sat in my car and cried. I am just way too emotional to be in a quasi-professional-social scene at the moment. I would probably go off on someone and well, be the one that got fired at the Holiday Party that everyone would remember for years to come.

I need to have a serious heart to heart with the guy who is training me. I am supposed to be taking over his job as he was promoted but they are waiting for him to find a 'competent' replacement as the position is pretty vital to their biggest client. He owes me some explanations why I am caught in the cross fire between him (my mentor, if you will) and our boss (we report to the same director). She only seems to call me in on the carpet when he (the mentor) is out of the office, which is pretty back handed.

I am so sorry. If any of us could have been there for you, we would have been there in a minute. Sounds like office politics are getting in the way of job performance. I've been down that road before so you must clear the air as soon as possible. Your emotional and physical health will be much better off in the long term. Good luck and please keep us posted. Hang in there hun. If you need to vent, let it out. This is a safe place to let out your frustrations. Don't let those MOFOs get to you.

Oh sweet heart, yes we are here for you, in that loving virtual way.

Still, sometimes that is enough.

So do lean on all of us.

You are going through so much, they should crown Queen of Seeing Challenging Things Through (or something, feel free to improvise)

I haven't had to deal with that of ####### in ages, so I have forgotten what it feels like, however a straightforward open communication where you are not simply eating anyone's sh*t, and you get to ask for what you need, and all will go well.

In other words, as Mumsie said, what is a job worth? Your health (mental and physical)?

I have always been the squeaky wheel and have uncovered that I always got what I wanted...quickly.

It was always for the better good of the department; rarely something just for me.

Give us some scenarios you need help with and we can try.

So sorry to read the state you are in...mmmm...are you feeling better today?

Edited December 14, 2007 by SpiritAlight

[SpiritAlight 1]

One of my good girlfriends here in Mtl has a similar boss.

A woman that rags on her constantly and kills any op for her to change departments by giving a bad reference.

Finally she cried on my shoulder about it and I felt which tack she could try:

I saw it like this....her boss must actually really need her to stay by her side because she likes her, and so gives the bad references...or else why wouldn't she just let her go?? Hmmm?

Guess what?

My friend has been going to work with this new way of feeling about her b*tchy boss, and her boss has been nice to her for weeks now.

I am also amazed!

It's all about energy.

And that starts at the core.

Ask her if she is having a hard time at home?

Be compassionate and melt her.

Ha!

[trailmix 77]

Blah Delicia, that is really tough.

I'm sorry you have this on top of all of the immigration hassle. Oh office drama, why can't people just go to work and be nice to each other. There has to be at least 1 in every room.

I have worked in many places where there is some....well you get the idea, anyway, one thing I have found is that people will treat you the way you want them to treat you. It's in the way you stand, the way you work, the way you look at them. Don't allow these people to push you around, before she starts with you, give her that look that says - don't even go there - it really does work and doesn't have to be aggressive - people respond to the vibe you give off.

(barring the nicer approach that Spirit suggested - this is a - just in case the nicer approach doesn't work haha)

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Blah Delicia, that is really tough.

I'm sorry you have this on top of all of the immigration hassle. Oh office drama, why can't people just go to work and be nice to each other. There has to be at least 1 in every room.

I have worked in many places where there is some....well you get the idea, anyway, one thing I have found is that people will treat you the way you want them to treat you. It's in the way you stand, the way you work, the way you look at them. Don't allow these people to push you around, before she starts with you, give her that look that says - don't even go there - it really does work and doesn't have to be aggressive - people respond to the vibe you give off.

(barring the nicer approach that Spirit suggested - this is a - just in case the nicer approach doesn't work haha)

I guess giving the boss a swirly is out of the question.

[L_n_O 3]

I filed for SSN on Nov 26 and still haven't gotten a letter or anything!!!!!!!!!!!

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

I filed for SSN on Nov 26 and still haven't gotten a letter or anything!!!!!!!!!!!

Christmas slowdown.

[L_n_O 3]

I miss you guys.. but it's hard to not have actual interaction with people here when you're pretty much stuck in the house.. it's poo sometimes

How many L & O episodes can you watch without going a little crazy!!!

[trailmix 77]

Why are you missing us, why aren't you here??

and what is L - ok the penny dropped - law and order.

I miss you guys.. but it's hard to not have actual interaction with people here when you're pretty much stuck in the house.. it's poo sometimes

How many L & O episodes can you watch without going a little crazy!!!