The Vent

[~Nini~ 2]

I'm at my wits' end telling my MIL that I don't want to carpool with her to the city every morning for work. I've told her (almost) every reason that I have for wanting to take the train into the city, and she still insists that she'll take me - it's frustrating that she's brushing me off and treating me like a little kid who has to be dropped off at the school door.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Oh my God. There's this student who waits for her classes outside my office; and she goes on and on and on and on and on about McCain. She argues with her classmates, gets all heated up and the works. She annoys me. Partly because I of course I don't agree with what she says and I think she is an idiot; but mostly because she has such a LOUD EFFING VOICE

Can someone please come over and shoot her? I don't believe in owning guns, but I have no qualms about hiring a hit-person

GRRRREAT. Now she's talking about Rossi (GOP governor candidate) as if he was the closest thing to John Lennon.

Dino Rossi, the guy who's so proud of his party that he NEVER uses the term Republican in any of his ads. Never heard of him. I know nothing about extroverted suicide but I suppose one could arrange for your rather garrilous associate to be trampled to death by an elephant, or is that too ironic for you?

[Sprailenes 47]

What are you taking PATCO?

[~Nini~ 2]

SEPTA Regional Rail. The train station is a block from the house, and after I transfer from Market East to the MFL, the subway stop is two blocks from my work building.

[trailmix 77]

My Husband misplaced his visa cheque card in early October. We also moved in October and I changed our address with the bank (before he misplaced his card).

- After waiting 10 business days the replacement card had still not arrived.

- He called and they cancelled that one and they issued a new one.

- A week later - still no card.

- Call back today - and I said to her, you must have another address on file - the cards are not getting here - well it turns out that, although we have a joint account, our cheque cards are considered separate and therefore unless he ALSO called to update the address then it would not have been updated.

Could the two people before this one not have mentioned that? Did they need to keep sending the replacement card to the wrong address?

Also, when I called to change our address I ordered new cheques - which, when I called back - had never been ordered. They put in a new order and said they would 'expedite' them. Well that was over a week ago, so in talking to them about it I come to find out they have not even been printed yet. So I say, the 'expedite' is not really valid - she says, yes it is, they will expedite the shipping AFTER they print them.

Also, when we call them we have to jump through all these identification hoops.

I've just about had it with RBC.

Edited November 1, 2008 by trailmix

[Gypsyangel 11]

I'm at my wits' end telling my MIL that I don't want to carpool with her to the city every morning for work. I've told her (almost) every reason that I have for wanting to take the train into the city, and she still insists that she'll take me - it's frustrating that she's brushing me off and treating me like a little kid who has to be dropped off at the school door.

Oooh. That would drive me crazy. I'm with you, I'd rather take the train too. Hold your ground!

[MrsCat 6]

Nini - its so hard with family to say no without bordering on offensive. I'd want the train too. I might be in the minority with enjoying public transit.

Trailmix - that's unfreakingbelievable! I remember you posting about that like a month ago. grrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[Kathryn41 3,205]

SEPTA Regional Rail. The train station is a block from the house, and after I transfer from Market East to the MFL, the subway stop is two blocks from my work building.

It may be that the only thing that will work is leaving early, taking the train and not being available when your MIL comes to drive you. Not tactful, but it sounds like she is beyond the tactful stage. You could give her a call once you are on the train to let her know you don't need a ride.

[thetreble 19]

Nini-welcome to the bridging of families. If you can't tell her to #### off, tell her that you are taking the train period. She can't tell you what to do. I know what it is like living with your inlaws (i am right now!) and believe me, if you don't stand your ground they wil walk all over you. It is very hard to be under your parents roof, but when you are under someone's roof that isn't even your own family, it is almost like being a renter!

[~Nini~ 2]

cat - I definitely belong to that minority. I love commuting! Everything about it - the scenery from the train, the time you get just to center yourself and get into a meditative, thoughtful "me" time. There's just no way that I could ever find peace while my MIL is yelling at the radio tuned to politics and other hot topics like that. I feel absolutely terrible for not wanting to share the same breathing air as she does, but she literally makes me want to tear my hair out after a minute.

Amanda - yea, I definitely hear you about standing ground. I think for me, a huge part of the difficulty about living with the in-laws is not wanting to be incendiary or intrusive to them in their house. I feel very much that it's not my space nor my "home" per se, and there are times (like now) when I feel that she takes it one step further and tries to exert control over us. We love her and everything, but I've finally reached a point where I have control over something that's not in her radius, and heck if I won't let her stick her finger in that pie too!

We had another talk yesterday, which started in her talking about the commute again and assuming that we were going to carpool - I flat out said, "I've told you the other six times this has come up, I'm taking the train." Unbeknownst to me, my husband also went to her this morning and asked her to stop harassing me on the issue because I'd already made my decision. Hopefully she'll (finally) figure out that we're set on the idea.

[Sprailenes 47]

Yea I would understand if you were taking the Subway around Philly and she wanted to drive you but I don't get why she is so persistent on driving you. Some people like to feel needed.

Edited November 2, 2008 by Sprailenes

[MissStacey 1]

We went to a friends " Annual Oyster Extravaganza" today. The oysters were awesome and our dog is always welcome at their house. I'm just not too keen on this group of people- they are very nice to your face and then are snippy behind your back. I hate that.

[Marilyn. 340]

I am feeling very at the moment... not anything do with VJ though....

[BermyCat 1]

I showed up for my physical today and the first words out of the receptionist's mouth were "Don't you check your work voice mail?" The tone of her voise was extremely rude.

My work VM for today states that I haave the day off and asks that the caller please try my cell number if it's urgent. Apparently the doctor had a meeting and the appointment was cancelled.

Grrrrr.....

~ Catherine

[MrsCat 6]

I showed up for my physical today and the first words out of the receptionist's mouth were "Don't you check your work voice mail?" The tone of her voise was extremely rude.

My work VM for today states that I haave the day off and asks that the caller please try my cell number if it's urgent. Apparently the doctor had a meeting and the appointment was cancelled.

Grrrrr.....

~ Catherine

ooooh F!