The Vent

[Krikit 1,164]

I was just wondering Krikit, do you have red hair by any chance. Certain folks with red haired folks have high resistance to the effects of anesthetics, so I'm just wondering. I can't speak about all army doctors but most tend not to be too gentle in their technique.

You are indeed lucky with number two son. Mom also had a placental abruption with 'lil bro. She's a small gal and even though 'lil bro was two months premature, he was already 8lbs. Mom was already a bit anemic but was hemorrhaging very heavily and the OB/GYN said enough is enough, c-section time. In those days, it was the classic longitudinal one. She took forever to heal after that, years and years of Fergon pills.

Big 'bro had a placenta previa patient that took 48 hours. He was there the whole time, I think it took 12 pints of blood. Yikes!!!!!

I have red highlights! My grandmother was a red-head. Does that count? lol

Wow! I can't believe your brother was 8 lbs at 7 months! Who knows what he would have been at 9! *shudder*

let alone three. I hated the muscles, once they're cut open they dry out, so that the next time you slice them, it is like cutting leather. The organs are just as bad. The lungs are the worst. The formaldehyde emulsifies the fat so it becomes yellowy, slimy goop. Which reminds me, I think I'll have steak for dinner.

This doesn't have anything to do with that court case and the hiding of dead bodies, does it?

I agree with Carla, Laura. It does get harder towards the end. It's like everything is building to a crescendo. By the time I got to the interview I could barely hold it together. It's almost over, sweetie. Every single minute brings you closer. Hugs.

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

Oh Laura. HUGS for you! I too had a more difficult time nearing the end of this part of my journey as well. I was just so TIRED, if that makes sense? We actually spent more time away from the computer...I couldn't handled the webcamming anymore...it broke my heart and I usually ended up in tears not being able to touch Gene. We spoke on the phone everynight, probably not as long as we were used to as well. You'll not believe it now, but six months from now, this will be just a memory...honest.

Thanks Carla!

You made me feel better.

I can't wait till it's all a memory.

Thanks for being here. *hugs*

I agree with Carla, Laura. It does get harder towards the end. It's like everything is building to a crescendo. By the time I got to the interview I could barely hold it together. It's almost over, sweetie. Every single minute brings you closer. Hugs.

Thanks Krikit *hugs*

[CBR 0]

I know exactly how you feel Laura. I haven't seen Jeremy since January!! I can't stand it anymore.

I miss him so much and the end is near but it seems so far away still. Not knowing when the interview will be is extremely difficult for me. There's so much planning that needs to be done for it. It's going to be a huge trip for me and I have kids, pets and work to figure out for while I'm gone. I just moved to a new house too, so my life is in disarray. This is one of those days where I feel like I don't know how much more of this I can take. I want our life together NOW. I've waited more than long enough and I'm sick of it. I'm sick of feeling punished for doing things the right way too.

I'm done venting now. Just had to get that out.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I know how you feel... time goes by so fast once you do finally make the move.. just yesterday, Oliver said something to me like "you know you've been living here for 6 months"...

and right away, I said, "no I haven't"

and then he counted it out for me and I was amazed!

I've been here already for just over 5 months.....

Focus on making as much money as humanly possible right now!!

That's how I made it!

LOL that's what I'm doing.

Every penny is going into my ING account...lol

Thanks Liz.

Congrats on almost 6 months!!!

Liz has given you super advice Lau dear. If you try to keep as busy as possible these months - heck, get a 2nd job even- you can apply all that $$$$ to a nice savings account.

You'll be with comrade Nikolai soon sweets; I know it

[Ontarkie 14,193]

I'm tired of waiting too. Its been since Jan since we saw each other we dont even have web cams. We had our interview in march and i was fine with the wait up till then, even when i knew we would not get the visas that day cause i didnt have that dang court paper that ive been fighting for since last summer. Yup i was all prepared for a bit a bit longer but know its been a month since they got that dam stupid piece of paper that tells them the exact thing i told them. and still they havent gotten off their butts to send me back my passprts with the visas in em. The last email i sent them they told me the consul would review my file soon thats it and that was over a week ago now.

I've been sick for a month think its the stress hitting me hard. I got pneumonia then had a reaction the the first meds they put me on then it took my family doctor 4 days to get back to me and change what i was on.Then i ended up in the hospital Tuesday night cause i cant breath i'm asthmatic too. Spent 5 hours there getting treatment after treatment and then chest xrays and find out the meds my doctor switched me too are useless for pnuemonia so i get another one and now things are getting harder to give me since i'm allegic to 2 kinds they like to use.

So ya i'm freaking out. My house is sold, i'm outta here on the 30th, I have 4 kids 1 dog 2cats a hamster and a bird to deal with moving somewhere temp if we dont get our visas soon plus on top of that we still got to get that troup to Arkansas from the Sault 2 days trip freaking out time has set in really really big time. I'm on the verge of crying 24/7 oh ya and on top of all that, ive never been anywhere in my life i live 30mins from where i grew up. Every thing has me freaked out at the moment I dont even want to think obout how my kids are going to adjust to schools that have houndreds of other kids in them the school they are in now has less then a 100 and thats jk to grade 8 the older 2 in highshool will be going from a couple houndred to over a 1000 ya mommy is freaking out ive goone so far as to researching home schooling. I'm going to be no wait I have already lost my mind. I just want to scream yell and cry. Its the not knowing thats killing me now the wait till now has been fine my troup kepted me busy but now they are annoyed about still being here and are ready to go.

Ok going to stop now cause I will just keep thinking of more stuff to freak me out. Oh ya really sorry about the typos and grammer stuff i suck at it on a good day.

Danielle

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Oh Danielle, I feel for you sweetie

[Krikit 1,164]

Awwww, you guys. We really know how you feel. Group hug.

And if it appears as if I'm online but I'm not responding it's because Comcast is having technical difficulties in my area and the service keeps shutting down. But VJ still sees me as logged in so....

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

I'm tired of waiting too. Its been since Jan since we saw each other we dont even have web cams. We had our interview in march and i was fine with the wait up till then, even when i knew we would not get the visas that day cause i didnt have that dang court paper that ive been fighting for since last summer. Yup i was all prepared for a bit a bit longer but know its been a month since they got that dam stupid piece of paper that tells them the exact thing i told them. and still they havent gotten off their butts to send me back my passprts with the visas in em. The last email i sent them they told me the consul would review my file soon thats it and that was over a week ago now.

I've been sick for a month think its the stress hitting me hard. I got pneumonia then had a reaction the the first meds they put me on then it took my family doctor 4 days to get back to me and change what i was on.Then i ended up in the hospital Tuesday night cause i cant breath i'm asthmatic too. Spent 5 hours there getting treatment after treatment and then chest xrays and find out the meds my doctor switched me too are useless for pnuemonia so i get another one and now things are getting harder to give me since i'm allegic to 2 kinds they like to use.

So ya i'm freaking out. My house is sold, i'm outta here on the 30th, I have 4 kids 1 dog 2cats a hamster and a bird to deal with moving somewhere temp if we dont get our visas soon plus on top of that we still got to get that troup to Arkansas from the Sault 2 days trip freaking out time has set in really really big time. I'm on the verge of crying 24/7 oh ya and on top of all that, ive never been anywhere in my life i live 30mins from where i grew up. Every thing has me freaked out at the moment I dont even want to think obout how my kids are going to adjust to schools that have houndreds of other kids in them the school they are in now has less then a 100 and thats jk to grade 8 the older 2 in highshool will be going from a couple houndred to over a 1000 ya mommy is freaking out ive goone so far as to researching home schooling. I'm going to be no wait I have already lost my mind. I just want to scream yell and cry. Its the not knowing thats killing me now the wait till now has been fine my troup kepted me busy but now they are annoyed about still being here and are ready to go.

Ok going to stop now cause I will just keep thinking of more stuff to freak me out. Oh ya really sorry about the typos and grammer stuff i suck at it on a good day.

Danielle

It is a scary experience but one thing at a time. Too often we look beyond what's on the horizon and freak out. If you need to scream let it out. Go for a walk with the dog, play with the cats, try to zone out. Works pretty well for us OC types. Now you will send an e-mail everyday until you get a response. That's one concrete step you can take. You've got the kids and a loving spouse to help you with the transition to Arkansas. If the trip takes one day or ten days it doesn't matter. There is no rush so there is no need to drive to the point of exhaustion, do not emulate Mumsie or his brothers. Lets' not worry about that now. Send an e-mail to MTL and have a cookie and a glass of milk.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Wow! I can't believe your brother was 8 lbs at 7 months! Who knows what he would have been at 9! *shudder*

Lil' bro was a royal pain then and not much has changed.

let alone three. I hated the muscles, once they're cut open they dry out, so that the next time you slice them, it is like cutting leather. The organs are just as bad. The lungs are the worst. The formaldehyde emulsifies the fat so it becomes yellowy, slimy goop. Which reminds me, I think I'll have steak for dinner.

This doesn't have anything to do with that court case and the hiding of dead bodies, does it?

Since members of the law enforcement community may be monitoring this communcation I can only say, no comment.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Awwww, you guys. We really know how you feel. Group hug.

And if it appears as if I'm online but I'm not responding it's because Comcast is having technical difficulties in my area and the service keeps shutting down. But VJ still sees me as logged in so....

Had the same problem with my internet for the last few days. I'm on wi-fi and the power lines in front of the house are leaking current, so the EM interference is pretty bad.

[Ontarkie 14,193]

Thanks all, I think its been worse cause how sick i've been and being stuck in the house cause i cant walk more then 5 steps makes it hard to not think about stuff. I know the kids will be fine and even my paranoid mind will adjust with my wounderful man by my side. Thats the only way i'm going to survive this.

danielle

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Laura, you'll be with Nick before you know it. It is only a bit longer, what's a few months, I think your love is a bit stronger than that. Good things come to those who wait. When you feel bad or lonely go for a walk in the sunshine. If that still does not cheer you up, you can always come here and have fun picking on my sister. Just remember take it easy on the old gal, she's not as resilient but a bit more pungent in comparison to us young whippersnappers.

[Ron/Sharon 0]

I'm glad that you haven't let your relationship be defined by the aribtrary whims of some mindless beareaucrat whose dream in life is to be a breathalyzer. When Pop was in AP, I wasn't that worried because he doesn't worry that much about these things. These wasn't a sense of immediacy, "it'll come" was his refrain. With you I always felt bad about the whole thing. The fact that you had the decency to share your feelings during these very short days and long nights certainly was not lost on me. As a human being I couldn't help but be moved and now feel honoured to revel in the dawn of this time of providence, this time of mercy, this age of Fortunate Ron. Fortune favours the prepared mind and you are most certainly prepared. Please post when you feel the need, we will always pay homage to your silent dignity and unwavering resolve by reading them with the same.

Thank you very much, at this time I find difficult to be wordly suppotive to others for fear of turning something good for them into a me, me, me thing and take away for them nad their time. I find it better to read, feel thier joy and thier sadness and not inject what I might concider insensitive because of our present position or my frame of mind.

I am definately not trying to be insensitive towards others by not being supportive on VJ, but I am definately trying to be cautious to the point of being overly so. Words are just words until as you did above put your heart and thought into them.

Thank you is not and never will be enough to express what Sharon and I wish we could say to everyone here that in thier own way have supported us.

You all have our love and our silent support

Ron and Sharon

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

Thanks guys

You are the best, all of you.

You made me smile so much.

[trailmix 77]

Just read this thread. Ontarkie, I'm so glad you now have mail on it's way to you from Montreal!

Laura, hang in there, like everyone has said, soon you will be with Nick and

Ron - i'm so happy to hear that you finally have some movement on your file! Will be so happy to hear of your approval - soon!