The Vent

[Sprailenes 47]

But oh no I think his mother got wind of what is going on because my husband just got called off into their room and I can hear her talking.

Damn where's a whisper 2000 when you need one?

[Krikit 1,163]

[Sprailenes 47]

I kind of wish they'd talk to both of us, because this situation involves both of us.

But oh well. Not much I can do.

They're still talking.

Edited April 8, 2008 by Sprailenes

[Krikit 1,163]

They probably would have if your husband had not spoken with them alone, initially. Don't worry Sprailenes. Just the fact that they're speaking with him means they're concerned and are trying to work things out. It'll be fine.

[SapphireDreams 71]

Krikit has given some amazing advice here. 2 months really is nothing in the grand scheme of things.

And, I bet when you do move out your relationship with your MIL will drastically improve.

I'm not sure what kind of person she is, but can you guys maybe go out for lunch or something just the two of you? Maybe a heart-to-heart will make her seem less jealous. I really agree with your thinking that they will always be their mother, that cannot be replaced and well I don't want to be my SO's mother, haha!

I'm sure everything will work out.

[Autumnchik 6]

Ugh, I'm sick AGAIN I swear, since I moved to NH (and went through immigration!), my immune system has SUCKED!!! It doesn't help that I work with a lot of kids who always seem to have some germ ... and being pregnant, I am not able to take most of the preventative measures I normally would (huge doses of echinacia at the first sign of a cold, or Zicam or something). Oh well.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Krikit has given some amazing advice here. 2 months really is nothing in the grand scheme of things.

And, I bet when you do move out your relationship with your MIL will drastically improve.

I'm not sure what kind of person she is, but can you guys maybe go out for lunch or something just the two of you? Maybe a heart-to-heart will make her seem less jealous. I really agree with your thinking that they will always be their mother, that cannot be replaced and well I don't want to be my SO's mother, haha!

I'm sure everything will work out.

Krikit always gives sage advice as do Laura, Spirit, my Sister Len and so many others. As for me, I wouldn't listen to a word I say. Our hearts go out to you Spraileness but a dialogue has opened so at least there will be some airing of grievances, let's hope that there won't be a need for the feats of strength. BTW, the odds are 6 to 5 that you can whip your MIL's azz.

[Krikit 1,163]

Ugh, I'm sick AGAIN I swear, since I moved to NH (and went through immigration!), my immune system has SUCKED!!! It doesn't help that I work with a lot of kids who always seem to have some germ ... and being pregnant, I am not able to take most of the preventative measures I normally would (huge doses of echinacia at the first sign of a cold, or Zicam or something). Oh well.

Ugh. Kids are major carriers of germs. The little darlings. That's why you're sick all the time, Autumn. But look at it this way..... maybe your son's building up immunities with all these germs you're fighting off, and he'll never get sick!

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Ugh, I'm sick AGAIN I swear, since I moved to NH (and went through immigration!), my immune system has SUCKED!!! It doesn't help that I work with a lot of kids who always seem to have some germ ... and being pregnant, I am not able to take most of the preventative measures I normally would (huge doses of echinacia at the first sign of a cold, or Zicam or something). Oh well.

There's also a psychosomatic aspect to illness that can't be ignored. You're in a new locale and facing bacteria that your body is not used to. On top of that you're pregnant which is quite stressful and a bit depressing. That will tax your immunity, that and little Johnny who always forgets to wear a hat.

[Carlawarla 1]

Sprailenes, I'm so sorry that things seem so messed up for you right now. I've read through this thread, and Krikit has offered some amazing wise comments. I truly wish your whole new extended family could sit down together, and talk from the heart. SO many things could be cleared up. I know you wish your husband could have more "spine...or backbone" (I can't remember now which word you used)! I do think though that you need to take some responsibility in not letting your MIL know what's going on with you. I know in the past you've written about her, and it certainly to me seems like everyone living in the same house causes so many of the tensions, but maybe it's time to sit down together, as a family and talk about this. Even spending some time talking to your MIL about how you're feeling, what your thoughts are...gosh, what a difference this could make.

It's true that not living in the same house will change your relationship. I know when I first left home, my Mom and I weren't getting along that well, and I can honestly say that our relationship grew so much closer once I wasn't in the house. I grew to appreciate her and know her as a person much better than when I was living with her.

I'm glad that you come here to vent...you are able to say how you think and feel which is wonderful. I could hope that some day, you can share that with your in-laws.

[Krikit 1,163]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I want to kill those annoying mourning doves with their irritating Oooooo-whooo Ooo Ooos. Every day. Day after day. Oooooo-whooo Ooo Ooo. Can you hear them? Quick. Somebody hand me a bb gun or a sling shot or a 22. I can't take it no more!

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I want to kill those annoying mourning doves with their irritating Oooooo-whooo Ooo Ooos. Every day. Day after day. Oooooo-whooo Ooo Ooo. Can you hear them? Quick. Somebody hand me a bb gun or a sling shot or a 22. I can't take it no more!

The birdy num-num imbroglio. Get Karaoke Kat's Krazy Kousin, Killer Kat. I suppose a .50-caliber Browning Machine Gun is a bit much?

Edited April 8, 2008 by IR5FORMUMSIE

[Krikit 1,163]

I suppose a .50-caliber Browning Machine Gun is a bit much?

Might mess up the neighbourhood. I don't want to scare anybody. I just want to send a message to those birds.

[Levi_Heather 0]

I MISS LEVI

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I MISS LEVI

Rules people, rules . This is NOT the "I miss mah dude" thread . This is THE VENT thread... so make it dramatic sister, he he.