The Vent

[Krikit 1,164]

Ugh. That is definitely a bad day, Catt. Pour yourself a glass of wine and relax by the fire (if you have one). Tomorrow's another day.

Good advice! I'm taking you up on that as I write this. much better!

Cheers!

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

*F* I need a beer bong at this point! I am so frustrated!

[Krikit 1,164]

*F* I need a beer bong at this point! I am so frustrated!

Whoa. That's some serious frustration. Care to vent? You are, after all, in "The Vent" forum.

[~Nini~ 2]

Blah. So I have a bit of a dilemma. Don't I usually have one every week?

Dear mom called last week and (knowing how homesick and starved I was) offered the choice of paying for a round-trip plane ticket back to Vancouver for a week, or she would come with my little sister and visit at the end of April. It sounds too good to be true, but there are issues that come along with it

Mom is what you would call a "city" gal, and I'm full aware that our lifestyle in the 'burbs will make her want to gouge her eyes out. I also don't have any transportation, so we'd mostly be stuck at home until the afternoon when I'd manage to have a car. Therefore, she's thinking that she'll fly into NYC and stay there with our relatives for a few days, then we'll pick her up and bring her for a brief stint in PA (roughly a 4-hour drive round trip). On top of that, we currently live at my in-laws' house, along with four cats - it's possible that she could stay at the house, but she's insisting that she stays at a hotel, and I don't blame her.

The very big thing is, now that I'm actively able and looking for jobs, I'm not sure whether I can get the time off to visit her, or to spend time with her if she does decide to visit for the ten days she'd be in town. She's adamantly insisting that I put off my job hunt until the beginning of May so that we can have this vacation time together. I appreciate that she wants to spend time with me (being the eldest-born and across the continent, it's been super hard for both of us). In the same token, I've been unemployed for a good six months with student loans quietly piling up interest, and it's hard for me to justify another month of twiddling my thumbs.

I'll be seeing her in August for a week, so I think I'm just going to tell her to hold off. I just feel horribly guilty for saying that.

[Krikit 1,164]

Take the round-trip ticket and leave yesterday! You can accept job offers by phone. Take it, take it, take it, Nini! NOW.

[Flames9_RN 358]

take the trip to vancouver!!! chill, work on ur resume!! ya only live once!!

[SpiritAlight 1]

Hmmmm...what to do what to do....

Okay here it is:

Take a coin.

Decide on what side is stay and what is go.

Flip it.

Please come back with the result, post it, and I will "psychoanalyze" it with you.

I'm not joking.

Do it now!

Edited April 3, 2008 by SpiritAlight

[SpiritAlight 1]

Damn, I couldn't find the fun page a friend had found a while ago.

Here is one that works though, if you do not have a coin handy.

Hahaha!

http://shazam.econ.ubc.ca/flip/

[Krikit 1,164]

Take the round-trip ticket and leave yesterday! You can accept job offers by phone. Take it, take it, take it, Nini! NOW.

I just wanted to add.... because I feel so strongly about this..... that you have GOT to stop sacrificing where it's not necessary. We give up so much in this world and, for many of us, it's hard to give ourselves a little reward without feeling guilty about it. Do something for yourself, Nini. You have been offered a gift. Accept it, enjoy it, and feel good about it. We all deserve to feel good about our lives. I understand your motives behind not accepting this gift, but just remember. Each little denial, however well-intended, will sit at the back of your mind. It will join all the other little denials, which will be joined by all the future little denials. One day, that little pile of denials is going to get really big and is going to pop. And it's going to pop at a really inopportune time. Save yourself some grief and do yourself a favour. TAKE THE TRIP.

And now back to your regularly scheduled programming. Thank you for your patience with the emergency broadcasting system.

Edited April 3, 2008 by Krikit

[SpiritAlight 1]

I really like you Krikit!

And it does seem that women have a super hard time with doing anything just for themselves.

Now Nini...please take that coin and flip it!!!

Tell me what you got and I will help you with your decision.

[~Nini~ 2]

I got tails, Spirit.

Krikit, I will definitely mull on your advice. And when I say mull, I mean MULL. Like a fine hot apple cider

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Take the round-trip ticket and leave yesterday! You can accept job offers by phone. Take it, take it, take it, Nini! NOW.

I just wanted to add.... because I feel so strongly about this..... that you have GOT to stop sacrificing where it's not necessary. We give up so much in this world and, for many of us, it's hard to give ourselves a little reward without feeling guilty about it. Do something for yourself, Nini. You have been offered a gift. Accept it, enjoy it, and feel good about it. We all deserve to feel good about our lives. I understand your motives behind not accepting this gift, but just remember. Each little denial, however well-intended, will sit at the back of your mind. It will join all the other little denials, which will be joined by all the future little denials. One day, that little pile of denials is going to get really big and is going to pop. And it's going to pop at a really inopportune time. Save yourself some grief and do yourself a favour. TAKE THE TRIP.

And now back to your regularly scheduled programming. Thank you for your patience with the emergency broadcasting system.

Holy cow.... I think Krikit is waaaay wiser than Crikey

Nini --- take the trip and come back energized and ready to take the job interviews by storm.

[SpiritAlight 1]

I got tails, Spirit.

Krikit, I will definitely mull on your advice. And when I say mull, I mean MULL. Like a fine hot apple cider

Was tails to go?

Sweet lord give me patience.

Okay I have no patience.

Let's say tails was to go.

How did you feel about the coin's decision?

This "trick" is a psychological way to focus your feelings into, "WOW! What a result. I hate it"...or "I love it!"

It helps you see how you feel about the decision as no other way can.

Well...what happened?

Edited April 3, 2008 by SpiritAlight

[Krikit 1,164]

I got tails, Spirit.

Krikit, I will definitely mull on your advice. And when I say mull, I mean MULL. Like a fine hot apple cider

Was tails to go?

Sweet lord give me patience.

Okay I have no patience.

Let's say tails was to go.

:lol:

Great trick, Spirit!

[SpiritAlight 1]

I got tails, Spirit.

Krikit, I will definitely mull on your advice. And when I say mull, I mean MULL. Like a fine hot apple cider

Was tails to go?

Sweet lord give me patience.

Okay I have no patience.

Let's say tails was to go.

:lol:

Great trick, Spirit!

I have too many friends...hee hee...and one of them, a psychotherapist (amongst other degrees) had me do this a long time ago.

And since then I have done tis with others and for myself too.

It may work better when a friend does it with you.

If you totally get that it is there to simply help you see how you feel in that instant that the coin "decided", then you are golden!