Trying to stay positive

[Rodgiegirl 0]

Hey guys, I'm really trying to stay positive, but I'm noticeing that people are getting their approval and they filed after me.....wow, I'm finding myself becomeing really short tempered with my daughter and with everything. And I keep thinking..."what's happening with me?" But then I realize everyday more than once I'm checking the website to see if we're approved, and nothing..........it's like a let down everyday.

Someone told me that I was assigned and then I called back last Friday and someone else told me that I was assigned on the 6th, but still nothing...I'm starting to get a little discouraged and I almost wanna stop checking the website.....

[Aaron_WSU 0]

The misinformation line will do that to you. I think the reality of the situation is that none of it is fair. The whole system broken, and we are at its mercy until it is done. For whatever reason your case may have more facets than others, or it might be as simple as the guy who put stuff in the truck put the box with your application in under some other boxes that should have been behind yours.

Although my fiance's case was recently approved, we are still waiting on CSC to send the package to NVC. Why they approve it and then fail to send it on is beyond me. After waiting more than four months (my case was in limbo for more than a month before my check was cashed) and then being thrown to the dogs yet again I finally emailed one of my Representatives.

To add icing to the cake, if you actually do get on the phone with someone they will most likely be rude to you.

[Passing.star 0]

Hey guys, I'm really trying to stay positive, but I'm noticeing that people are getting their approval and they filed after me.....wow, I'm finding myself becomeing really short tempered with my daughter and with everything. And I keep thinking..."what's happening with me?" But then I realize everyday more than once I'm checking the website to see if we're approved, and nothing..........it's like a let down everyday.

Someone told me that I was assigned and then I called back last Friday and someone else told me that I was assigned on the 6th, but still nothing...I'm starting to get a little discouraged and I almost wanna stop checking the website.....

Have u tried calling the USCIS? Please do they might need your touch before they touches your case....

[StillThePrettiest 3]

you quoted the part that said they'd called USCIS

personally I don't think calls seem to make any difference... as someone (perhaps the ever-wise Bill y Bella?) said elsewhere recently: I've yet to see an instance where it did any good; either you're told nothing or you're told the wrong thing

and there's DEFINITELY no evidence of it actually changing anything; no one is going to rush to the storeroom and fish about for your application and rush its approval just because you called them... no, unfortunately I think the only choice here is patient waiting

sometimes I am more patient than other times... at the moment it's the latter

that could, of course, have to do with a whole lot of other ####### that's been happening recently; strange how even small things, when all added together, can make you want to jump out of a fifth-storey window

[DavidandJenny 1]

I had read that (somewhere out here) that calling them 'could upset them' and move you to the bottom of the list. And then I have read that, it doesnt matter if you call them, they move at their own pace.

I dont know...I have never filed a visa petition before. So, as many others here, we wait also whether our time is due or not today. What we all have done however, is we have all have opened ourselves up to relying on someone else to approve our relationships, bring us back together with the ones we love and that bring us contentment. And I think we all feel helpless at times when its out of our hands and in someone elses hands we dont even know and will never meet.

All we have in this process is this board here. And first and foremost our loved ones overseas. The system for what ever reason(s) isnt the best thats for sure. I just try to remember that one of the attributes of love, is patience.... and kindness. And that whenever I speak with my Baby, I need to always remember that. Its about us, not uscis. And I try to focus on our love and all of the happy memories that are going to be made.

We want our NOA2 today, and we will believe that today is the day. And tomorrow we will recieve notice if not today.

[Daniel&Karen 0]

Hey guys, I'm really trying to stay positive, but I'm noticeing that people are getting their approval and they filed after me.....wow, I'm finding myself becomeing really short tempered with my daughter and with everything. And I keep thinking..."what's happening with me?" But then I realize everyday more than once I'm checking the website to see if we're approved, and nothing..........it's like a let down everyday.

Someone told me that I was assigned and then I called back last Friday and someone else told me that I was assigned on the 6th, but still nothing...I'm starting to get a little discouraged and I almost wanna stop checking the website.....

Rodgiegirl, I agree with you, this is so frustrating, seems like May filers orginally filed in Nebraska Service Center are not getting approvals. I noticed many May filers originally from Texas Service Center have gotten their approvals already. Wonder why?

[Zee Bee 61]

Waiting is the hardest part of this whole ordeal. It is a rollercoaster of emotions and it can be discouraging to see others who have gotten approved before you. I think we all understand the feeling.

But you remember that none of this is not personal. It certainly isn't in the eyes of USCIS. They have no idea who you are and they don't care. There is no system for the inefficient way they handle cases and even though they say that they process petitions in the order that they are received we also know that is not necessarily true.

If I were you I would avoid checking the website. It doesn't help and checking it more frequently is not going to change your status. And don't believe everything the misinformation line tells you. Spend your time doing other things to take your mind off USCIS (I know its hard).

For most this is the most excrutiating part of the proces.

Good luck!!!!

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

Unfortunately, we are all in the same boat. Try not to obsess about it. I've been checking the site once each day and that's it. Otherwise, I try not to keep checking because you are right, when you don't see a change it upsets me and makes me feel like it's never going to happen. Try to focus on other things. This is only the first half of the process so, settle in for the long haul and start focusing more on the plans for the future and not just thinking about getting the approval. It takes my mind of things to make a list of things for Bassi to do around the house, cause I need most of the house painted and he's in charge of garbage duty (I'm just filling in until he gets here).

[mox 298]

I had read that (somewhere out here) that calling them 'could upset them' and move you to the bottom of the list. And then I have read that, it doesnt matter if you call them, they move at their own pace.

I very much doubt this is true. That would be a huge ethical violation and could cost the adjudication officer their job. There may be some isolated instances of it happening, but I doubt it's a problem. OTOH, they could get to the point where they just refuse to talk to you if you start calling too much.

[afterforever 0]

Hey guys, I'm really trying to stay positive, but I'm noticeing that people are getting their approval and they filed after me.....wow, I'm finding myself becomeing really short tempered with my daughter and with everything. And I keep thinking..."what's happening with me?" But then I realize everyday more than once I'm checking the website to see if we're approved, and nothing..........it's like a let down everyday.

Someone told me that I was assigned and then I called back last Friday and someone else told me that I was assigned on the 6th, but still nothing...I'm starting to get a little discouraged and I almost wanna stop checking the website.....

Rodgiegirl, I know how you feel. I called CSC on 10/17 and the guy told me my case had been assigned to a supervisor on 10/15. He said supervisors get the files first and then they assign them to their team members. I called back later that day cause I wanted to see if it was bs. I spoke with a second guy (and without telling him a date), he told me the same thing as the first guy. When I asked him to check who had my file, I could hear him clicking on the computer. He said it was at the workstation of a supervisor. I asked how he knew that and he said the computer showed an ID number and that ID number was a supervisor.

Both guys said that the supervisors do not keep the files on their desk very long before they assign them to their team members to work. Unfortunately, I am still waiting for my approval. Two other people called the same day. One was told her case had been assigned on 10/16. The other one was told her case had also been assigned.

I had called a month ago and was told my case was still pending. The never gave me a date at that time.

I really want to believe they were telling me the truth when I called this week but like I said, I am still waiting.

It is hard to see people get approved who filed weeks after you. It definitely adds additional stress and pain. I guess all we can do is to continue to wait. I am hoping we get approved this week.

[SSAH 0]

I am frustrated, too. We applied and rec'd our NOA1 on 6/11 and everyday I keep thinking it will be the day we hear something more. The only thing helping is that maybe I can visit Andrew in a few weeks over in England. Rubbish weather, though. See, I can't even stay positive! hehe