Taking babies to special events

[*julez* 124]

If an invitiation to a baby shower is addressed to me, personally, then I assume that I am the only member of my family invited. I'm OK with that. If its addressed to me and family, then it must be OK to bring the tots. Personally, I think its disrespectful to show up at events with kids in tow that were not invited, with the personal assumption that an invitiation to "you" means "your whole family".

When people plan events they invite a certain # of people and that is how they determine how much food/drink to order.

[Amby 490]

maybe it's just my big laid back family but everyone always brings their children and babies to things. all the kids play together and leave the adults alone and the adults take turns passing around the babies and we all have a great time. at my bridal shower I had little kids passing me all the gifts and helping me open them. we had a lot of fun. it's more of a celebration that way. i wouldn't have changed it

[pedroh 21]

If an invitiation to a baby shower is addressed to me, personally, then I assume that I am the only member of my family invited. I'm OK with that. If its addressed to me and family, then it must be OK to bring the tots. Personally, I think its disrespectful to show up at events with kids in tow that were not invited, with the personal assumption that an invitiation to "you" means "your whole family".

When people plan events they invite a certain # of people and that is how they determine how much food/drink to order.

yea, thats the thing with etiquette, you can't never assume.. you follow the instructions lol..

[KTAN 0]

Oh Pleeease, My baby attended a cousins baby shower, he was quiet, smiley and didn't take any attention away from her. Maybe she is secure in herself but she was delighted he was there - the only male! One of the problems with this attitude of no kids is that they never learn to be in a situation that calls for them to behave. Watch an Italian, Irish or French family having a meal in a restaurant and you will see good behaviour because they are bought up properly to respect their families and special occasions. I agree there are times when kids are not welcome - R rated movies!!! no way and late nights in restaraunts or those that do not cater to families but people should use their common sense in those situations.

[pedroh 21]

Oh Pleeease, My baby attended a cousins baby shower, he was quiet, smiley and didn't take any attention away from her. Maybe she is secure in herself but she was delighted he was there - the only male! One of the problems with this attitude of no kids is that they never learn to be in a situation that calls for them to behave. Watch an Italian, Irish or French family having a meal in a restaurant and you will see good behaviour because they are bought up properly to respect their families and special occasions. I agree there are times when kids are not welcome - R rated movies!!! no way and late nights in restaraunts or those that do not cater to families but people should use their common sense in those situations.

that's so hard for most people.. LOL.. specially when parents block all their senses towards their kids i.e. kid screaming and yelling and just making a mess, everybody can see it except the parents..

[Permanent Ban 0]

maybe it's just my big laid back family but everyone always brings their children and babies to things. all the kids play together and leave the adults alone and the adults take turns passing around the babies and we all have a great time. at my bridal shower I had little kids passing me all the gifts and helping me open them. we had a lot of fun. it's more of a celebration that way. i wouldn't have changed it

Same here, in our culture it's unthinkable to not invite everyone, including the kids. Kids acting like kids isn't deemed rude, either. That's why an Indian party (not Westernized) tends to be loud, chaotic, rambunctious.... that's how we do!

Plain and simple, if my kids are not welcome, dont ask me to come. My kids are my family and when you uninvite them you are disrespecting me and my family.

Not to mention its a flipping baby shower, not a sex toy party

Preach it, sista!

[Mags 112]

It isn't that your baby isn't welcome--everyone loves babies!!--it is that babies act like babies. It is possible that someone has a baby that will be quiet and behaved. But, by nature, babies do not understand the word "behave". At the very least, if you have a baby, please sit toward the rear do that if your baby does act up, you can leave the area to deal with your child.

As an aside, I think one of our problems as a nation is that we think our children are special. They are special--but only to us parents. They are a nuisance to everyone else. If you have ever tripped over a roving toddler, for example, you know what I mean. Put the situation in perspective. If you child was having their sweet sixteen party and someone brought a newborn--how would you feel?? Would that not distract from the focus of the event??

First of all, not everyone loves babies. I personally do not. At my old job if someone brought in a newborn baby I always walked in the opposite direction; they just mean nothing to me, I feel nothing. As for the rest of your post it is spot on. If I'm in a restaurant and there is a wailing baby at the next table I automatically lose my appetite. If the parent pays no attention to the noise their baby is making (which is p!ssing off everyone else in the restaurant) then I'll also get really mad. Rude, inconsiderate parents who think that their child's feelings are more important than anyone else in the room. Maybe to them they are, but have a little thought and care about the people who have paid money to come out and eat and it is now ruined because you can't keep your baby quiet.

This is just my own personal opinion of course, I'm not expecting everyone to agree with me.

[Sinergy 3]

It isn't that your baby isn't welcome--everyone loves babies!!--it is that babies act like babies. It is possible that someone has a baby that will be quiet and behaved. But, by nature, babies do not understand the word "behave". At the very least, if you have a baby, please sit toward the rear do that if your baby does act up, you can leave the area to deal with your child.

As an aside, I think one of our problems as a nation is that we think our children are special. They are special--but only to us parents. They are a nuisance to everyone else. If you have ever tripped over a roving toddler, for example, you know what I mean. Put the situation in perspective. If you child was having their sweet sixteen party and someone brought a newborn--how would you feel?? Would that not distract from the focus of the event??

First of all, not everyone loves babies. I personally do not. At my old job if someone brought in a newborn baby I always walked in the opposite direction; they just mean nothing to me, I feel nothing. As for the rest of your post it is spot on. If I'm in a restaurant and there is a wailing baby at the next table I automatically lose my appetite. If the parent pays no attention to the noise their baby is making (which is p!ssing off everyone else in the restaurant) then I'll also get really mad. Rude, inconsiderate parents who think that their child's feelings are more important than anyone else in the room. Maybe to them they are, but have a little thought and care about the people who have paid money to come out and eat and it is now ruined because you can't keep your baby quiet.

This is just my own personal opinion of course, I'm not expecting everyone to agree with me.

wanna babysit??

[Mags 112]

It isn't that your baby isn't welcome--everyone loves babies!!--it is that babies act like babies. It is possible that someone has a baby that will be quiet and behaved. But, by nature, babies do not understand the word "behave". At the very least, if you have a baby, please sit toward the rear do that if your baby does act up, you can leave the area to deal with your child.

As an aside, I think one of our problems as a nation is that we think our children are special. They are special--but only to us parents. They are a nuisance to everyone else. If you have ever tripped over a roving toddler, for example, you know what I mean. Put the situation in perspective. If you child was having their sweet sixteen party and someone brought a newborn--how would you feel?? Would that not distract from the focus of the event??

First of all, not everyone loves babies. I personally do not. At my old job if someone brought in a newborn baby I always walked in the opposite direction; they just mean nothing to me, I feel nothing. As for the rest of your post it is spot on. If I'm in a restaurant and there is a wailing baby at the next table I automatically lose my appetite. If the parent pays no attention to the noise their baby is making (which is p!ssing off everyone else in the restaurant) then I'll also get really mad. Rude, inconsiderate parents who think that their child's feelings are more important than anyone else in the room. Maybe to them they are, but have a little thought and care about the people who have paid money to come out and eat and it is now ruined because you can't keep your baby quiet.

This is just my own personal opinion of course, I'm not expecting everyone to agree with me.

wanna babysit??

Thing is although I can't stand the little buggars I'm actually really good with them. They always do what I tell them and behave. I have fun with them, make 'em laugh, we have loads of fun and I have tons of patience. But I still don't like 'em! How fcuked up is that, eh?

Edited October 16, 2007 by Mags

[Amby 490]

neil's mom hates kids too but has a blast with thelittle ones...you two can hang out and baby bash lol

[Scott & Lai 12]

Oh Pleeease, My baby attended a cousins baby shower, he was quiet, smiley and didn't take any attention away from her. Maybe she is secure in herself but she was delighted he was there - the only male! One of the problems with this attitude of no kids is that they never learn to be in a situation that calls for them to behave. Watch an Italian, Irish or French family having a meal in a restaurant and you will see good behaviour because they are bought up properly to respect their families and special occasions. I agree there are times when kids are not welcome - R rated movies!!! no way and late nights in restaraunts or those that do not cater to families but people should use their common sense in those situations.

The problem is so many parents are simply lacking common sense. There's a sign at a local theatre with a picture of a small boy. The caption says, "Yes, your kid is cute, but he's not the star I came to see." Sure, your children may be the centre of your universe...it does not follow, however, that they should be the centre of everyone else's.

When we were at the watch tower on the top of Diamond Head, a woman put her toddler on the ground in the middle of around twenty pairs of adult feet, the owners of which were enjoying the view, not checking the ground to see if there was a small child they might step on....how self-centered is that? To say nothing of endangering the child!

[Mags 112]

neil's mom hates kids too but has a blast with thelittle ones...you two can hang out and baby bash lol

Well you are in IN, albeit about 2/3 hours south of us!

[Caladan 19]

It isn't that your baby isn't welcome--everyone loves babies!!--it is that babies act like babies. It is possible that someone has a baby that will be quiet and behaved. But, by nature, babies do not understand the word "behave". At the very least, if you have a baby, please sit toward the rear do that if your baby does act up, you can leave the area to deal with your child.

As an aside, I think one of our problems as a nation is that we think our children are special. They are special--but only to us parents. They are a nuisance to everyone else. If you have ever tripped over a roving toddler, for example, you know what I mean. Put the situation in perspective. If you child was having their sweet sixteen party and someone brought a newborn--how would you feel?? Would that not distract from the focus of the event??

First of all, not everyone loves babies. I personally do not. At my old job if someone brought in a newborn baby I always walked in the opposite direction; they just mean nothing to me, I feel nothing. As for the rest of your post it is spot on. If I'm in a restaurant and there is a wailing baby at the next table I automatically lose my appetite. If the parent pays no attention to the noise their baby is making (which is p!ssing off everyone else in the restaurant) then I'll also get really mad. Rude, inconsiderate parents who think that their child's feelings are more important than anyone else in the room. Maybe to them they are, but have a little thought and care about the people who have paid money to come out and eat and it is now ruined because you can't keep your baby quiet.

This is just my own personal opinion of course, I'm not expecting everyone to agree with me.

wanna babysit??

Thing is although I can't stand the little buggars I'm actually really good with them. They always do what I tell them and behave. I have fun with them, make 'em laugh, we have loads of fun and I have tons of patience. But I still don't like 'em! How fcuked up is that, eh?

They're like cats. Naturally attracted to people who don't like 'em.

[Mags 112]

It isn't that your baby isn't welcome--everyone loves babies!!--it is that babies act like babies. It is possible that someone has a baby that will be quiet and behaved. But, by nature, babies do not understand the word "behave". At the very least, if you have a baby, please sit toward the rear do that if your baby does act up, you can leave the area to deal with your child.

As an aside, I think one of our problems as a nation is that we think our children are special. They are special--but only to us parents. They are a nuisance to everyone else. If you have ever tripped over a roving toddler, for example, you know what I mean. Put the situation in perspective. If you child was having their sweet sixteen party and someone brought a newborn--how would you feel?? Would that not distract from the focus of the event??

First of all, not everyone loves babies. I personally do not. At my old job if someone brought in a newborn baby I always walked in the opposite direction; they just mean nothing to me, I feel nothing. As for the rest of your post it is spot on. If I'm in a restaurant and there is a wailing baby at the next table I automatically lose my appetite. If the parent pays no attention to the noise their baby is making (which is p!ssing off everyone else in the restaurant) then I'll also get really mad. Rude, inconsiderate parents who think that their child's feelings are more important than anyone else in the room. Maybe to them they are, but have a little thought and care about the people who have paid money to come out and eat and it is now ruined because you can't keep your baby quiet.

This is just my own personal opinion of course, I'm not expecting everyone to agree with me.

wanna babysit??

Thing is although I can't stand the little buggars I'm actually really good with them. They always do what I tell them and behave. I have fun with them, make 'em laugh, we have loads of fun and I have tons of patience. But I still don't like 'em! How fcuked up is that, eh?

They're like cats. Naturally attracted to people who don't like 'em.

Or are allergic to them. So yeah, children make me sneeze.

[Ban Hammer 13,333]

Not to mention its a flipping baby shower, not a sex toy party

maybe if more people went to that kinda party they'd have less kids