Taking babies to special events

[govols 0]

I just attended a baby shower and on the way there I told my daughter (8 y/o)

that this would be her first shower. She said "why did you not ever take me before?". I told her that I always thought it was inconsiderate to take small children/babies to a shower if they weren't able to sit still or behave.

Once we arrived, guess what? One of the young women giving the shower had her 1 year old there. She was crawling around among the gifts and everyone's attention was on her. I may get flack about this but I just feel that it takes away from the guest of honor.

I understand if you don't have a sitter but When I didn't have a sitter, I just stopped by with my gift and explained my situation and left.

What do you think?

Karen

Edited October 16, 2007 by govols

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

If our baby isn't welcome, we are not going. We're a family. It's an all-or-nothing type deal. We'd never invite friends over with an expectation that they have to find a way to ditch the kids. Just isn't done as far as we are concerned.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

If our baby isn't welcome, we are not going. We're a family. It's an all-or-nothing type deal. We'd never invite friends over with an expectation that they have to find a way to ditch the kids. Just isn't done as far as we are concerned.

I don't have kids, but I've always thought it weird when invitations say no children please. ####### is that about? When we see Indian people with invites that say that we're always like, oh they're acting white

[govols 0]

Some people are very respectful about their babies and would step out when their baby cries. I've been on both sides and I guess it depends on the situation.

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Some people are very respectful about their babies and would step out when their baby cries. I've been on both sides and I guess it depends on the situation.

The baby shhower is a day for the mom to be. I have kids and I would get a sitter...not let my kid crawl over.. but then again i am not a new mom... I am broken in... I dont think everyone wants my kids everywhere.. I respect the other people at the party

[Caladan 19]

I wouldn't bring a baby without asking the host, but I can't imagine saying 'no kids.' Kids were welcome at our wedding, and I figure that saying 'no kids' means in effect not inviting some of my friends who can't arrange childcare.

As far as the guest of honor thing, I figured at the wedding everyone would figure out who was the bride even if there was a kid there.

[Hilarious Clinton 452]

If our baby isn't welcome, we are not going. We're a family. It's an all-or-nothing type deal. We'd never invite friends over with an expectation that they have to find a way to ditch the kids. Just isn't done as far as we are concerned.

I don't have kids, but I've always thought it weird when invitations say no children please. ####### is that about? When we see Indian people with invites that say that we're always like, oh they're acting white

Stupid crackers

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

If our baby isn't welcome, we are not going. We're a family. It's an all-or-nothing type deal. We'd never invite friends over with an expectation that they have to find a way to ditch the kids. Just isn't done as far as we are concerned.

EXACTLY!

Kids are always WELCOME!

[no name 1]

I just attended a baby shower and on the way there I told my daughter (8 y/o)

that this would be her first shower. She said "why did you not ever take me before?". I told her that I always thought it was inconsiderate to take small children/babies to a shower if they weren't able to sit still or behave.

Once we arrived, guess what? One of the young women giving the shower had her 1 year old there. She was crawling around among the gifts and everyone's attention was on her. I may get flack about this but I just feel that it takes away from the guest of honor.

I understand if you don't have a sitter but When I didn't have a sitter, I just stopped by with my gift and explained my situation and left.

What do you think?

Karen

It was rude.

People nowadays let thier kids run wild. Bring them to places that are not kid friendly, let them scream & grab stuff in stores, etc. We woulda gotten spanked for that as kids!

Just last week, we were driving home at 10:40 PM & saw an entire family walking back form the grocery. Those 3 kids couldn't have been more than 6 at the most. THEY SHOULD BE IN BED, not at the grocery!

I didn't want (little) kids at my wedding & I told the one girl who it affected - she was fine with it, she wanted adult party times anyhow!

Edited October 16, 2007 by devilette

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Dad, Can you burn dirt?

A question my 4 year-old ask me.

How would you answer this?

He also coined the phrase "yesternight" He said to me as a reminder, that it happened yesternight. Kids can be teachers which I have found to be very enlightening.

[pedroh 21]

I guess there are special places where you shouldn't bring kids.. classy restaurants, or ettiquette events.. in Mexico though I've seen more places that also say please no kids.. again, fancy places..

Edited October 16, 2007 by pedroh

[joelunchbox 0]

If our baby isn't welcome, we are not going. We're a family. It's an all-or-nothing type deal. We'd never invite friends over with an expectation that they have to find a way to ditch the kids. Just isn't done as far as we are concerned.

I don't have kids, but I've always thought it weird when invitations say no children please. ####### is that about? When we see Indian people with invites that say that we're always like, oh they're acting white

Stupid crackers

It isn't that your baby isn't welcome--everyone loves babies!!--it is that babies act like babies. It is possible that someone has a baby that will be quiet and behaved. But, by nature, babies do not understand the word "behave". At the very least, if you have a baby, please sit toward the rear do that if your baby does act up, you can leave the area to deal with your child.

As an aside, I think one of our problems as a nation is that we think our children are special. They are special--but only to us parents. They are a nuisance to everyone else. If you have ever tripped over a roving toddler, for example, you know what I mean. Put the situation in perspective. If you child was having their sweet sixteen party and someone brought a newborn--how would you feel?? Would that not distract from the focus of the event??

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

As an aside, I think one of our problems as a nation is that we think our children are special. They are special--but only to us parents. They are a nuisance to everyone else.

The attitude expressed in the bold part is the problem we as a nation have. There are a lot of ill behaved children out there these days and that is a concern because somehow it indicates that parents are not doing what they need to do: parenting. But a child is never a nuisance. Ever.

Edited October 16, 2007 by Mr. Big Dog

[pedroh 21]

I don't see what would be the problem of bringing kids to a friends house.. but to those nices places where u take ur wife to a romantic dinner, or a wedding where the center of attention is the bride, I don't think kids need to be there, unless the organizers don't mind.. but I don't see it wrong to have a 'please no kids' in an invitation..

[Hilarious Clinton 452]

Depends on the event. I would force my baby on a non-baby-friendly event.

eg. certain parties.