My visa journey is over right here

[oggle1 0]

A relationship is built on trust and also tests our trust in others.

He and you should have a good, frank discussion about you two.

If he loves you and trusts you, he should move forward. If he can't do those things, then it will be ended.

There are people in the world who misuse the internet to lie about other people. He should know this.

How long have you two known each other? It takes time to build trust.

This is so what I needed to hear right now! Thank you!

I had my own break in trust with him in mid-September and it really threw me for an emotional loop. I've been having an emotional dilemma since unsure what to do one way or the other. After reading this it helped ground me better. I do love and trust him we've known each other for nearly four years. I feel I can move forward now.

Yes, I am feeling better again.

Once you loose a woman's trust you will have hell to gain it back...I did not lie to lola about filing the petition...I did not lie about the case numbers, I did not believe that lola was a scammer. I did all to show worthy of her trust and love and I lost anyway..

So your fiance is believing his friend rather than you? And what does his friend know for sure?

I am not believing my friend...I believe my Lola and I have always asked lola abouit things and she has always been solid.

[oggle1 0]

Thank you all for privat messages..

Yes,I am going to be okay..

First,I have to make things clear

and found out about all that happen..

I contacted administrator from site,

they say they are not responsible for

anything..It could be false and lie,site

it for anonimus users..

Well...I will get them to remove my name

from this site..

I knew my fiance for more than a year

and I loved him strong and passionate..

Its hard right now,very hard...

I think I wil just get a plan ticket somewhere and

will start my new life..Its very painful to be claimed

as a dirty word-scammer...

Sorry...

You silly woman, I never calimed that you were a scammer..I only wanted to clear your name TOGETHER, and continue whith the visa process. I did not EVER believe anyone over you. My Lola has been here talking about our issues with out telling me..and she attacked me for doing the same

Edited October 11, 2007 by al_and_lola

[Mel and Syl 0]

Sorry to say but i dont think that this is a place for you guys to be talking about your relationship. The whole thing seem to be a misunderstanding and you and your Lola cant talk about it? What a shame... dont you guys thing that there will be worse issues coming up after finaly being married? Life is an ongoing up and down and those ups and downs will show weather you are truly in love with each other.

You guys should stop this Kindergarden game and communicate like adults.

Loving someone means TRUST and RESPECT, this behavior doesnt show any of that.

[maya62 7]

Ditto what Mel and Syl said.

Who cares what we think about the whole thing? We're just a bunch of total strangers! When you care so much about what strangers think, that is your ego(s) playing tricks on you. Talk to each other.

Best wishes,

Maya

[joelunchbox 0]

Ditto what Mel and Syl said.

Who cares what we think about the whole thing? We're just a bunch of total strangers! When you care so much about what strangers think, that is your ego(s) playing tricks on you. Talk to each other.

Best wishes,

Maya

How many of us have had a similar but different circumstances type of event? Mine was when I asked my Lola (totally different person but also from Tashkent just keep everyone guessing ) a simple question. I asked her, "Do you want to work when you come here to the US?". Up to that point I had really never considered what other forces were acting on her, who might have been talking to her or about her or about us. Her answer was something like this: She stiffened, she looked straight at me and said in a very level voice, "Do you think I want to go the US just to get a green card?". HOLEY SMOKE Batman!!! In an instant, I became much more aware of her side of the equation--I am tired of all the green card comments I get here but I am very sure that there is even more said to our girls there. I told her, no, that wasn't what I asked and that I didn't know how to say it in a different way. We wound up tossing the question out. We did talk about her working here a couple of months later with much better results. I did learn that she trusted me--no accusations, just wanting to know what I meant. I think every solid relationship has one big bump behind it. Something that stresses and strengthens the bond between two people.

You both sound like you care for each other and want to be together...I hope the both of you can get some perspective on this. I apologize for anything that sounded accusatory. Not my intent.

[C_y_K 0]

wow. as far as i remember you and your (ex) fiance have a lot of public drama going on (all the time).

wasn't there something that you didn't believe that he filed the I-129 bc you thought the case-number was a fake?

ohwell, i guess you guys are just dealing with things differently.

Amen....I've seen her post alot of stuff like this. Then she goes away for a while and comes back again.

[athena_ny 1]

This really needs to be discussed privately between the two of you. Airing your dirty laundry on the internet with no purpose other than to incite drama has never been classy.

[JenT 0]

This is a bizarre thread.

[athena_ny 1]

This is a bizarre thread.

[GabachaYucateca 0]

Just as bizarre as the last one!

[Dr. ZoSo 0]

Just as bizarre as the last one!

Lola....la la la la lola......

Really weird thread huh? Kind of like fictional drama?

Edited October 11, 2007 by Dr. ZoSo

[ramos96 1]

who the hell is lola? I thought her name was applewow...... <looking for an exit off of this train wreck>

Edited October 11, 2007 by ramos96

[GabachaYucateca 0]

Jump off the train, Ramos, jump! I would, but this is just too odd for me!

Her screen name is applewow, but her real name is Lola. Hence, her luv's signing off Al and Lola 4eva.

[ramos96 1]

[applewow 0]

Lola....la la la la lola......

If you have nothing to say,better to say nothing at all..

P.S.I came here to share my pain about being called scammer.

And I thank people for was willing to understand my feelings.

You could continue have a fun here,it was my last message in this

topic..

I realize that I dont have to be that naive and pay attention to thread

like that or like last 2 or 3 in this page..

Bye...