I'm frustrated and angry .....

[lynamon 0]

Hi all ... just needed to come into the Canadian forum and vent for a bit and hopefully my story will help others here on their journeys.

I came across on my K1 with my son K2 on July 26th, got married on July 27th and filed for AOS, and AP for myself and my son and filed EAD for me. For those who were around you'll remember that I had waited from Tuesday to Thursday with a loaded truck at an empty apartment for our visas that Montreal had assured would be send out on the previous Friday (which they didn't actually send them out until Tuesday of the following week).

Everything was rush rush and we made it here to Cleveland, got married the next day, and filed to beat the fee increase on the 28th of July.

After being in the US I applied for my SSN card no problems, I had applied in my maiden name as per their instructions (they told me that it would take longer to process in my married name) and that once I received the card to come back in and have my name changed. The first card took an extra 1 1/2 weeks because someone in their office goofed something up. Have had my name changed no problems.

USCIS received our paperwork for AOS, AP and EAD on August 1st and because my cheques were never cashed I made an infopass appointment on 09/20/07 ... they got back to me on 10/01/07 telling me that they located my package and were processing mine but not my sons due to lack of signature ... I had not signed for him where it says Applicants Certification ... I signed Part 5 "Signature of person preparing form, if other than above." grrrrrrrrrrr

On October 4th they cashed all of our cheques .. for my applications and for my sons ... does this mean that they are now going to accept it?????????

Then today I looked at my EAD application and I put code (a)(6) instead of ©(9) which means that I have applied and paid for an EAD that will expire when my I94 expires (90 days from POE which will be October 24th) ... I don't know if I can make an infopass to get this changed.

I've posted in the Adjustment of Status forums and in the Working and Travelling Forums and it just doesn't seem that there is as much support in the other forums as when I was posting here ...

Not to mention that today was Canadian Thanksgiving ... my husband and I prepared an amazing dinner yesterday in celebration of Canadian Thanksgiving and invited some of his family. They came, they ate, and they left .... my family dinners lasted for hours. I'm bored because I can't work until I get my EAD which now may not happen until God only knows when ... and I'm upset because I want to visit my family and friends not to mention that Christmas is coming and my AP is up in the air. I've had two people visit me since I moved. My best friend came down for the day of my wedding .. and I had another friend come with her husband for a weekend three weeks after I got here. I had sent beautiful announcements of the wedding out to my entire family with wedding pictures included and not one of my family members sent me even a congratulations card. I had to call a couple of them to make sure they got it ... including my own mother . I have yet to call my father . The funniest part is the only family member that sent me a card and a gift (which of course was not necessary but very much appreciated) is my ex-mother-in-law.

I love being married to my husband and I love our new home and the family that we've created .. but I have to say that I am feeling a loss to my old life.

[L_n_O 3]

aww hun...

first off, I hope the paperwork sorts itself out for your sanity..

as for the family and friends, ppl just get very busy sometimes and when you're not around kinda tend to "forget".. (out of sight, out of mind)

I hope that you develop new friendships in the area that will help with the loneliness and frustration

*hugs*

[Jasman0717 9]

I certainly do feel for you

[trailmix 77]

Well I'm sorry I know next to nothing about AOS but I do commiserate with you about your after dinner chit chat and games that weren't! I guess every family is different and his are of the eat and leave group, which is not conducive to fun.

I think it's really thoughtful that you sent out announcements and pictures to everyone, at least you know you made them smile when they received them

Anyway, I am sure you will start to make some friends soon, especially after you start working, so hang in there

[L_n_O 3]

Did you talk to the hubby about his parents' eat & run?

[lynamon 0]

Did you talk to the hubby about his parents' eat & run?

Yes .. he was disappointed as well but knows better for next time . We made an amazing meal .. honey baked ham, roast beef simmered in a crockpot for hours with gravy, mashed turnip and carrots, cheesy broccoli casserole, candied yams, corn cut off of the cobs, homemade bread and pumpkin roll made from real pumpkin (not from the can) ... we spent hours preparing the night before. He wanted to start pulling his family together again after they've kinda fallen apart since his mother passed away about 9 years ago .. she made amazing food and his house was always full of family during holidays which hasn't happened in quite some time. I was stunned as some were taking desert "to go".

and as for making friends ... I've met some people ... but the older you get new friendships are more of the stand-off-ish variety.

[L_n_O 3]

Sounds like since his mom's been gone, the family doesn't really eat together anymore.. it'll probably be a lot of work to get that back but I'm sure with some time, you two might be able to..

Dinner sounds amazing.. btw

[trailmix 77]

Your dinner sounds delicious!! We would have stayed for dessert and coffee. You don't live in Nebraska by any chance?

Edited October 9, 2007 by trailmix

[L_n_O 3]

I ate a frozen dinner for Thanksgiving..

take refuge in your food =)

[lynamon 0]

My family dinners were always 30 plus people , cousins, aunts, uncles and everyones children. Everyone brought a dish (which was generally organized with who brings what). It's amazing that I speak in past tense considering that this is the first one that I've missed. I'm really trying hard not to feel "snubbed" by my family as up until just recently I was feeling frantic that I would not be able to make it back for Christmas.

[lynamon 0]

I ate a frozen dinner for Thanksgiving..

take refuge in your food =)

OMG Liz ... I have a ton of leftovers in the fridge ... too bad you aren't in the Cleveland area

Edited October 9, 2007 by lynamon

[trailmix 77]

My family dinners were always 30 plus people , cousins, aunts, uncles and everyones children. Everyone brought a dish (which was generally organized with who brings what). It's amazing that I speak in past tense considering that this is the first one that I've missed. I'm really trying hard not to feel "snubbed" by my family as up until just recently I was feeling frantic that I would not be able to make it back for Christmas.

Any possibility they feel abandoned? Sounds like you all are pretty close.

[L_n_O 3]

It's cool =) but thanks for the offer..

My parents had gone to a friend's house for dinner that day... hence mom didn't make anything at home..

And since I was working a 9 hr shift, I came home, starving, and ate what I could

It was a president's choice one though which was surprisingly good for frozen food.. oh well..

I get Polish US thanksgiving dinner soon =)

[misa 2]

Sorry to hear things are a bit frustrating.

As for your EAD, did you get your NOA1 yet? You can make an infopass and try to get them to change it when you get the receipt number. Not sure if they'll be able to do anything without a receipt number. Anyway, making an infopass appointment to change the EAD code has worked for some people and not for others but worth a shot if the local office isn't that far.

Hang in there!

[lynamon 0]

My family dinners were always 30 plus people , cousins, aunts, uncles and everyones children. Everyone brought a dish (which was generally organized with who brings what). It's amazing that I speak in past tense considering that this is the first one that I've missed. I'm really trying hard not to feel "snubbed" by my family as up until just recently I was feeling frantic that I would not be able to make it back for Christmas.

Any possibility they feel abandoned? Sounds like you all are pretty close.

My family is or was pretty close and yes they were all thinking that I had lost my mind when I told them that I was going to move to Cleveland (which was only 4 1/2 hours away) with my son. I kept them informed every step of the way and knew that there was an underlying lack of enthusiasm on their parts .. we had a very small intimate wedding in order to avoid being disappointed by inviting people and having them decline. But the thing is .. they can't get their selfish little heads out of their a$$e$ to see that they have "lost" nothing and that I made a life decision to try to achieve life long happiness. Disfunctional families .... aren't they a joy?