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[cbd2cai 0]

Anyway, that is just his point of view and others are free to disagree and joke away. I was sharing my experience and not imposing it on anyone else.

Rebecca

Rebecca,

My husband has asked me not to talk about things that are between the two of us . . . he says it is a private matter. I agree with him, but sometimes it is hard NOT to ask advice from some of my friends . . . so I told him that women do talk to their friends about certain things. But I am rather a private person myself, so I won't even talk about most things that are directly related to our relationship.

I have probably said too much already.

Catherine

Edited April 22, 2006 by cbarrosmostafa

[dawnnhatem 0]

My husband is the same way about privacy. A while ago we had a really long discussion about how I need to stay off the internet -even vj, unless I'm talking to him...all in the interest of privacy and I guess we all know that played out... he still is unhappy that I come here so I know he would flip if I talked about laundry.

Gotta go..Everybody have a nice day!

[~Jackie~ 30]

Hey Dawn! Good to see you posting again. Mohammed wonders why I still come to VisaJourney. I used to say it was for support and information, but now our journey is done and I am having a hard time leaving here.

VJ now to me is like reading a book, I have to stay around to see the ending. There are people from other forums that I feel I need to know how it ends for them. Like MissLiss and her battle with a waiver. I can't leave til I know that her and Javier are back together. So many are suffering long waits with embassies. Maybe my calling is to lobby for immigration reform that will quicken this agonizing process for married couples.

Anyway, good to see you back and enjoy every day with Hatem here! and Kelly,,,,Sherlock's...157th and Harlem Amal, did Noor get that job he interviewed for?

Jac

[AInfante-Saraireh 0]

My husband also is very very secure about privacy. He doesn't like others to know his business. 4 more months to go till interview!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Veiled Princess 1]

- (gosh things are so touchy around here lately you feel you need to fill every post with disclaimers) -

The disclaimers don't work.... someone will still attack you for being different.... better to just not have an opinion of your own here because it's not allowed unless everyone else agrees with you

[amal 4]

Yeah my husband has asked me not to say anything about our private life as well.. I haven't said anything bad so I'm not worried about it. What I HAVE said .. is the most I'll ever say on that subject. We are still waiting on the jobs.. he's in month #4 now. Goes in to Walmart on Monday so we'll see what they have to say. The other job..we're waiting for them to call him. There's also another job he's doing on the side (which seems to be better than any other job we've found for him so far) and it's doing quite well.. I hope he keeps getting customers.

I tried for 3 years to get pregnant and it finally happened when I stopped thinking so much about it and stopped trying so hard. When we tried to just enjoy our time together naturally..that's when I got pregnant. Good luck in that!!! Take it easy and enjoy your time together and it will happen enshallah.

amal

[honeyblonde 0]

It is true that everyone differs on this topic. Abdel sometimes gets shocked by what my sister and I talk about on the phone together. He can't believe women discuss the things we do. He doesn't like gossip and I really try not to because I know how his sisters are. He would get really disgusted with them when they sat around and talked about other people.

I apologize if I offended anyone. I had a reason for saying things the way I did, but I don't want to go into details here because I don't want to hurt anyone. To each their own, and I guess as long as couples agree on how things should be, then that's their business.

As for still coming here, Abdel wonders too, but he's started to realize it's like the news for me to come here. I feel like I've made friends here and want to see them getting together and being happy.

[iceyspots 0]

Hmm... On a different note... Yacine doesn't mind if I share some details about our laundry with my very close female friends... So long as I don't make comments about the specific size of his washer and dryer ... But he would get really perturbed if I mentioned details on a public forum (because yeah even though you are all females that post on this thread, that doesn't mean you're the only one who reads them).. Anyways.. I'm happy with our laundry and have no need to talk or complain.

[AngelK96 0]

I think we are all over 18 here. It's up to the indivual to discuss what they like without someone coming in making everyone feel like they can't discuss something because they think it's not right. If you don't like what the subject is about you have the right not to post! Especially if it's upsetting to you. Don't read it just go to another thread. The choice is yours, but I don't want anyone to think just because someone thinks it's bad doesn't mean it is to the rest of us and please post your suggestions if you have any. Be helpful not judgemental! I asked for suggestions not what my husband would think posts. So to you gals that posted the funny laundry posts. Keep posting. Things have totally gotten out of control on this forum where it once was helpful now has become totally jacked up!!

So thence fore please use medical terms to describe the dirty laundry

[jordanianprincess 0]

I think we are all over 18 here. It's up to the indivual to discuss what they like without someone coming in making everyone feel like they can't discuss something because they think it's not right. If you don't like what the subject is about you have the right not to post! Especially if it's upsetting to you. Don't read it just go to another thread. The choice is yours, but I don't want anyone to think just because someone thinks it's bad doesn't mean it is to the rest of us and please post your suggestions if you have any. Be helpful not judgemental! I asked for suggestions not what my husband would think posts. So to you gals that posted the funny laundry posts. Keep posting. Things have totally gotten out of control on this forum where it once was helpful now has become totally jacked up!!

So thence fore please use medical terms to describe the dirty laundry

100% agreed. Lighten up gals, thats the whole point of calling it "laundry", to keep it a discreet thing between us. I don't think I have told anyone here one thing about it other than I miss it. This forum is like a gabfest for us gals. There has been plenty of subject matter others have posted that I don't care to discuss and I just move on by it.

If ones husband was going to get offeded by the airing of his personal life on VJ (laundry) then he would probebly get offended by all the other posts as well. When one of us posts a funny story about our man, and we get a ton of responses about things other people's fiances did as well then they might feel like they are being ridiculed on the internet.

No disrespect to others, but I agree with Angel, no one asked what anyones husband would think. Not everyone shares the same beliefs.

[~Jess~ 0]

i guess George is different.....culture differences possibly i dunno, but anyway he doesnt mind if i talk about personal things.........we all have discussions here about laundry, and sometimes im the one that gets embarressed with his family........but talkin about it with my friends and family i am alright with......he doesnt seem to mind at all. i have male friends, he has female friends.....we have been together about a yr and a half now and there arent too many secrets we keep, we are a very open couple

[Bosco 1]

I think we are all over 18 here. It's up to the indivual to discuss what they like without someone coming in making everyone feel like they can't discuss something because they think it's not right. If you don't like what the subject is about you have the right not to post! Especially if it's upsetting to you. Don't read it just go to another thread. The choice is yours, but I don't want anyone to think just because someone thinks it's bad doesn't mean it is to the rest of us and please post your suggestions if you have any. Be helpful not judgemental! I asked for suggestions not what my husband would think posts. So to you gals that posted the funny laundry posts. Keep posting. Things have totally gotten out of control on this forum where it once was helpful now has become totally jacked up!!

So thence fore please use medical terms to describe the dirty laundry

You say "It's up to the indivual to discuss what they like without someone coming in making everyone feel like they can't discuss something because they think it's not right". This is exactly what you are doing. You disagree with my posts (I am assuming) so you are suggesting I not post.

Read my posts. I never suggested anyone stop discussing "laundry". I said go ahead. I only said how my circumstances are different, and apparently I am not the only one. None of us suggested anyone stop the discussion. No one judged anyone -- they shared how it is different for them.

Rebecca

No disrespect to others, but I agree with Angel, no one asked what anyones husband would think. Not everyone shares the same beliefs.

JP,

You have posted what your husband/fiance thinks about things without anyone asking. We have discussed going out late at night, showing skin, bathing suits and all kinds of things. I post that the sex talk would bother my husband and suddenly, we are not supposed to share what our husbands's think because it wasn't asked for?

Rebecca

[jordanianprincess 0]

I think we are all over 18 here. It's up to the indivual to discuss what they like without someone coming in making everyone feel like they can't discuss something because they think it's not right. If you don't like what the subject is about you have the right not to post! Especially if it's upsetting to you. Don't read it just go to another thread. The choice is yours, but I don't want anyone to think just because someone thinks it's bad doesn't mean it is to the rest of us and please post your suggestions if you have any. Be helpful not judgemental! I asked for suggestions not what my husband would think posts. So to you gals that posted the funny laundry posts. Keep posting. Things have totally gotten out of control on this forum where it once was helpful now has become totally jacked up!!

So thence fore please use medical terms to describe the dirty laundry

You say "It's up to the indivual to discuss what they like without someone coming in making everyone feel like they can't discuss something because they think it's not right". This is exactly what you are doing. You disagree with my posts (I am assuming) so you are suggesting I not post.

Read my posts. I never suggested anyone stop discussing "laundry". I said go ahead. I only said how my circumstances are different, and apparently I am not the only one. None of us suggested anyone stop the discussion. No one judged anyone -- they shared how it is different for them.

Rebecca

No disrespect to others, but I agree with Angel, no one asked what anyones husband would think. Not everyone shares the same beliefs.

JP,

You have posted what your husband/fiance thinks about things without anyone asking. We have discussed going out late at night, showing skin, bathing suits and all kinds of things. I post that the sex talk would bother my husband and suddenly, we are not supposed to share what our husbands's think because it wasn't asked for?

Rebecca

Get your facts straight Rebecca. I never answered anyones post with my fiances opinion about it. The discussion about going out and clothing, was telling all you my fiances opinion of WHAT I DO, not what anyone else here does.

If your husband wants to share his opinion, maybe he should be the one posting it, Otherwise it sounds like you are belittiling us. When you posted that the sex talk on VJ bothers your husband it was in direct response to a bunch of gals kidding around about laundry. Like I said...Lighten up it was only a joke

[AngelK96 0]

I still stand by my statement! and don't want to argue/debate back and forth with you or anyone else. I asked for suggestions about my post and not what a husband would think about Laundry!

Thanks to everyone that had suggestions and who privated msged me. I greatly appreciated it!!!

Keep posting!

[honeyblonde 0]

So, just curious, what do you wear around the house, whether you dress hijab outside or not? I find that these cute white cotton underwear (like a sleeveless t-shirt and knee-length underpants) that Abdel's sister gave me are totally comfortable when it's warm, but when it's a little colder I throw the gandora's that she gave me over them.

I don't wear hijab, but do enjoy Moroccan clothes around the house, and wear some of the nicer outfits to work. One of the outfits I have been told looks very native American.

Do any of you wear your husband's country's native clothes around outside, although you don't wear hijab? If so, what has been the reaction you've gotten?