Yallah Middle East 2.0

[kerewin21 2]

Actually, I do agree with this . . . I think many ppl in the West get married for reasons of "hormonal rushs" . . . not that it is bad really because it is all about propagation of the species (not that we ever like to admit our "animal" sides) and sometimes these feelings subside and, hopefully, true friendship/love comes into play. . . sometimes not.

All I have to say is, Thank god for birth control or we'd all be stuck married to our teenage crushes!!!!

[honeyblonde 0]

What kills me is the number of mothers who won't let their daughters use birth control because they say "If I let her use it it's like I'm giving her permission to have sex!"

Hello! She isn't going to ask for permission!

When I was working on a paper on high school dropouts I was shocked to find out that since Bush got in the White House, Texas schools are not allowed to talk about birth control as an option in sex ed classes. All they are allowed to recommend is abstinance. I'm just dying to do an economic analysis of that law to see how much the teen birth rate in Texas has gone up since that doozie was passed.

[AngelK96 0]

Salamu alaikum

I want to ask the opinion from you all :

It has come to my attention that we have 2 new members, a husband and a wife(Islamically)Process is actually K1. In the past i knew this husband and he did some things that are just plain evil to myself and others. I am sure that his new wife knows nothing about his past doings. She is from USA and I believe that he is only trying to get here (USA) no matter what.

My question is: Should we make her aware of her husbands ways and let her decide?

or

Keep my mouth shut??

If you need more info to better help me just let me know. Thanks Alot .

MJ

If this is really bothering your Conscience than clear and tell her and be done with it. i'm sure you know once you tell her she is going to turn right around and confront her SO and i'm pretty sure she will say where she got that information, so if you don't care about losing that guy as a friend? than i would telll her. Especially if it's bothering you this much. At least you would have planted a seed of doubt in her head even if she doesn't believe you.

Doubts I have never had. I think you know if someone is just out to get a green card. the way they treat you. The things you know about them. The look in there eyes. There plans. and You though out there a threat . You throw out a couple of tests.

I think there is a lot of people in this sight being used, but it is not my place to say anything.

Ok what's this about??? you mentioned in this site, do you mean in the ME/NA forum??

You can throw out all kinds of tests but if that person is still in his own country waiting for an interview

do you think they will jeopardize their chance to come to the usa if the green card is what they are after.

They are going to be saying the right things and doing the right things. No one is immune from fraud like this no matter how smart you think you are.

Wow all kinds of topics going on here I been so busy still honeymooning that i haven't had time to come here lately. Oh yeah and we are trying to get pregnant! Anmar said our year of waiting is over so now it's time to start thinking about a baby. We both decided when we got married we would wait for a year and it's over as he reminded me.

Angel

[doodlebugfor_u 0]

Salamu alaikum

I want to ask the opinion from you all :

It has come to my attention that we have 2 new members, a husband and a wife(Islamically)Process is actually K1. In the past i knew this husband and he did some things that are just plain evil to myself and others. I am sure that his new wife knows nothing about his past doings. She is from USA and I believe that he is only trying to get here (USA) no matter what.

My question is: Should we make her aware of her husbands ways and let her decide?

or

Keep my mouth shut??

If you need more info to better help me just let me know. Thanks Alot .

I am backing up MJ 100% on this matter. I will say I know this person was talking to MANY women online while having a so called fiance in the states. When she came to her senses evil things were done to her and others then he made a comment that he was "already talking to someone in Canada he would visit." I know all this has happen in less than one year. Now he has "another fiance?" Just a big red flag to me. Many comments made to this person were comments one would think a terrorist would make. Really, it still scares me. In most cases I would keep my mouth shut, but I really think "###################" should know what her beloved fiance is doing.

[honeyblonde 0]

This reminds me of a guy in Turkey that I was talking to on ICQ a couple of years ago. He kept wanting me to come there and visit him. He swore his undying love to me and I just kindof laughed at him. I finally quit using ICQ because of him and quit answering the phone when he called. I just wasn't ready for another international relationship and even if I was, I didn't like him that much.

Over a year later he found me on yahoo and started messaging me again. This guy would send 5 e-cards in one day and just went way overboard. What made me die laughing at him finally was when he sent me an e-mail swearing he still loved me - only he sent it to about 20 women! I guess he was trying to blind copy us all, but he didn't do it right and so I responded to all with - "and I guess you still only love me?". Would you believe some girl in Brazil messaged me back asking why I sent her that message!

The year before I met Abdel I also had a guy from Turkey that is working on his doctorate here try to get me to marry him. He couldn't understand why I wasn't interested, and when he told me he had narrowed his search for a wife to between me and one other woman that lived nearer to him (I'm about 4 hours away), I told him to just marry her since I really wasn't interested. It's amazing how stupid some men seem to think American women are about this issue. What's horrible is that the other woman probably did marry him.

[amal 4]

I think every person has those doubts. My thoughts are the same as honeyblonde stated earlier. .. .. Just enjoy being treated like a queen for a while (we deserve it) and enjoy the ride. They'll treat you far better than the typical American man will . If it goes sour... well, it would probably go sour with an American husband as well. I've already tried the American route... divorced once and many long term boyfriends who've dumped me for no reason. My husband now far surpasses them. Do I have doubts?? Sure I do. Do I want them to run my life?? Heck no!! I'm enjoying what i've got while i've got it.

amal

[lostinlove228 0]

Salamu alaikum

I want to ask the opinion from you all :

It has come to my attention that we have 2 new members, a husband and a wife(Islamically)Process is actually K1. In the past i knew this husband and he did some things that are just plain evil to myself and others. I am sure that his new wife knows nothing about his past doings. She is from USA and I believe that he is only trying to get here (USA) no matter what.

My question is: Should we make her aware of her husbands ways and let her decide?

or

Keep my mouth shut??

If you need more info to better help me just let me know. Thanks Alot .

MJ

If this is really bothering your Conscience than clear and tell her and be done with it. i'm sure you know once you tell her she is going to turn right around and confront her SO and i'm pretty sure she will say where she got that information, so if you don't care about losing that guy as a friend? than i would telll her. Especially if it's bothering you this much. At least you would have planted a seed of doubt in her head even if she doesn't believe you.

Doubts I have never had. I think you know if someone is just out to get a green card. the way they treat you. The things you know about them. The look in there eyes. There plans. and You though out there a threat . You throw out a couple of tests.

I think there is a lot of people in this sight being used, but it is not my place to say anything.

Ok what's this about??? you mentioned in this site, do you mean in the ME/NA forum??

You can throw out all kinds of tests but if that person is still in his own country waiting for an interview

do you think they will jeopardize their chance to come to the usa if the green card is what they are after.

They are going to be saying the right things and doing the right things. No one is immune from fraud like this no matter how smart you think you are.

Wow all kinds of topics going on here I been so busy still honeymooning that i haven't had time to come here lately. Oh yeah and we are trying to get pregnant! Anmar said our year of waiting is over so now it's time to start thinking about a baby. We both decided when we got married we would wait for a year and it's over as he reminded me.

Angel

I meant Visa Journey in General. Sometimes you read posts and it seems like they just don't feel right. I could be wrong. God Willing I am. I think that if you think back to things that have happened in the past sometimes you ask yourself "how did I miss that sign". Someone can say the right thing all the time, but if they are not genuine it will show at one time or another. I also think that when they are in another country they have a better chance of fooling you and that is why I think it is very important to spend time with them before they come here.

I wasn't attacking anyone. I didn't meet my man on the internet and have never really gotten involved with anyone on the internet. that is a whole new world to me.

[Together4ever 1]

I've been reading this thread about trust and the "green card". I think we all have it. So much is made of the possibility of fraud its crazy. You know, every couple has their motives for marrying, no matter where they come from. It might be that lovey feeling, security, friendship, or other less "fuzzy" reasons. But a marriage is an entered into agreement between 2 people.

For people in our situations, with SOs from such a notoriously fraudulent part of the globe, we have quite a burden to bear. Yes, we do question. It's made worse by the others around us who may be well meaning but tend to be a bit bigotted and can lean a little heavy in the doubt department.

I guess where I'm going (and I'm kind of thinking out loud here) is that in ANY relationship there is responsibility on both sides to make the decision to trust and to be true to our own inner voices. I think if an SO is not on the up and up, you know it deep down. Again it comes down to motives, OURS and their's as well. It's a 2-way street.

I hope in the long run, we can all put this little cloud out of our minds and enjoy the relationship we chose to enter into and enjoy all there is to enjoy, no matter what tomorrow brings. And if we aren't happy with the guy (gal) then we own to ourselves to fess up and find happiness. Life is too short!

[AngelK96 0]

don't worry lostinlove i didn't mean to imply you were attacking anyone.

i met my husband online and it was the best thing that ever happen to me.

ok here's a question for MK. did you ever see that documentary Checkpoint?? Me and my husband watched some of it but it was umm actually pissed us off. he told me they hear about it in Jordan but to actually see it on tv was a whole different story for him and he couldn't watch it anymore. I was going to post this in that 221g thread but thought it was more appropriate here.

Anyways for you that don't know what i'm talking about it's a documentary made in the west bank that shows what palestinians have to go through daily just to get to one town to other and what they have to endure at the hands of the israeli soldiers.

angel

[AInfante-Saraireh 0]

well, this is what i understand and have actually chatted with women personally involved. And to be honest, it's a touchy situation, i don't think any of us know our spouses that well. It takes years to know someone. Anyway, there are a few women who have married egyptian men, and i mean this is for real. They promised the world, married and then came to the USA. One of them, after a year or so, stoled money from their checking account, returned to Egypt and married his fiance. Yes!!! His fiance. This woman never knew about her, they hid her that well. Another woman I've chatted with, I mean she was so heartbroken found her husband had a fiance too. It's dangerous with anyone, here, there, everywhere, you just have to take that risk. They live a very dramatic and poor life in the ME unless you marry someone who has money and then you are up against many others possibly joining his life. So, I'm not talking bad about ME, I'm married to one, but you must also be realistic, the embassies know all this and that's why they screen hard for false marriages. It's not just a terrorism thing. So they are doing it for your protection, but some of these consulars in other countries are wrong, not screening enough and sometimes deny visa's that really should be issued because there is real love there. I know someone who is going through this presently. It is very sad. So hope I made sense here, I'm kind of in a hurry this Saturday morning, but there are some reality to these stories you are hearing and let's not all be blinded by love. We are in long distance marriages and we don't know everything, regardless if they meet with us every night on the internet or talk every night on the phone. But at the same time, you must risk if you love and trust until proven differently.

Peace all.

Andrea

[Veiled Princess 1]

Salamu alaikum

I want to ask the opinion from you all :

It has come to my attention that we have 2 new members, a husband and a wife(Islamically)Process is actually K1. In the past i knew this husband and he did some things that are just plain evil to myself and others. I am sure that his new wife knows nothing about his past doings. She is from USA and I believe that he is only trying to get here (USA) no matter what.

My question is: Should we make her aware of her husbands ways and let her decide?

or

Keep my mouth shut??

If you need more info to better help me just let me know. Thanks Alot .

I am backing up MJ 100% on this matter. I will say I know this person was talking to MANY women online while having a so called fiance in the states. When she came to her senses evil things were done to her and others then he made a comment that he was "already talking to someone in Canada he would visit." I know all this has happen in less than one year. Now he has "another fiance?" Just a big red flag to me. Many comments made to this person were comments one would think a terrorist would make. Really, it still scares me. In most cases I would keep my mouth shut, but I really think "###################" should know what her beloved fiance is doing.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِنْ جَاءَكُمْ فَاسِقٌ بِنَبَإٍ فَتَبَيَّنُوا أَنْ تُصِيبُوا قَوْمًا بِجَهَالَةٍ فَتُصْبِحُوا عَلَى مَا فَعَلْتُمْ نَادِمِينَ

O ye who believe! If a wicked person comes to you with any news, ascertain the truth,

lest ye harm people unwittingly, and afterwards become full of repentance for what ye have

done.

وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ فِيكُمْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ لَوْ يُطِيعُكُمْ فِي كَثِيرٍ مِنَ الأمْرِ لَعَنِتُّمْ وَلَكِنَّ اللَّهَ حَبَّبَ إِلَيْكُمُ الإيمَانَ وَزَيَّنَهُ فِي

قُلُوبِكُمْ وَكَرَّهَ إِلَيْكُمُ الْكُفْرَ وَالْفُسُوقَ وَالْعِصْيَانَ أُولَئِكَ هُمُ الرَّاشِدُونَ

And know that among you is Allah's Messenger: were he, in many matters, to follow your

(wishes), ye would certainly fall into misfortune: But Allah has endeared the Faith to you

, and has made it beautiful in your hearts, and He has made hateful to you Unbelief,

wickedness, and rebellion: such indeed are those who walk in righteousness;-

فَضْلا مِنَ اللَّهِ وَنِعْمَةً وَاللَّهُ عَلِيمٌ حَكِيمٌ

A Grace and Favour from Allah; and Allah is full of Knowledge and Wisdom.

وَإِنْ طَائِفَتَانِ مِنَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ اقْتَتَلُوا فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَهُمَا فَإِنْ بَغَتْ إِحْدَاهُمَا عَلَى الأخْرَى فَقَاتِلُوا الَّتِي تَبْغِي حَتَّى

تَفِيءَ إِلَى أَمْرِ اللَّهِ فَإِنْ فَاءَتْ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَهُمَا بِالْعَدْلِ وَأَقْسِطُوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُقْسِطِينَ

If two parties among the Believers fall into a quarrel, make ye peace between them: but

if one of them transgresses beyond bounds against the other, then fight ye (all) against

the one that transgresses until it complies with the command of Allah; but if it complies,

then make peace between them with justice, and be fair: for Allah loves those who are fair

(and just).

إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَ أَخَوَيْكُمْ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُرْحَمُونَ

The Believers are but a single Brotherhood: So make peace and reconciliation between your

two (contending) brothers; and fear Allah, that ye may receive Mercy.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لا يَسْخَرْ قَومٌ مِنْ قَوْمٍ عَسَى أَنْ يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِنْهُمْ وَلا نِسَاءٌ مِنْ نِسَاءٍ عَسَى أَنْ يَكُنَّ

خَيْرًا مِنْهُنَّ وَلا تَلْمِزُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَلا تَنَابَزُوا بِالألْقَابِ بِئْسَ الاسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الإيمَانِ وَمَنْ لَمْ يَتُبْ فَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ

الظَّالِمُونَ

O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that the (latter)

are better than the (former): Nor let some women laugh at others: It may be that the

(latter are better than the (former): Nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call

each other by (offensive) nicknames: Ill-seeming is a name connoting wickedness, (to be

used of one) after he has believed: And those who do not desist are (indeed) doing wrong.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ وَلا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلا يَغْتَبْ بَعْضُكُمْ بَعْضًا أَيُحِبُّ

أَحَدُكُمْ أَنْ يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَحِيمٌ

O ye who believe! Avoid suspicion as much (as possible): for suspicion in some cases is a

sin: And spy not on each other behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh

of his dead brother? Nay, ye would abhor it...But fear Allah: For Allah is Oft-Returning,

Most Merciful.

Also translated as "Believers, stay away from conjecture; acting upon some conjecture may

lead to sin. Do not spy on one another or backbite. Would any of you like to eat the

disgusting dead flesh of (your brother)? Have fear of Allah; Allah accepts repentance and

is All-merciful)"49:12

al-Quran 49:6-12

Book 032, Hadith Number 6265.Chapter : The prohibition of backbiting: Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (sal allahu alayhi wa salaam) as saying; Do you know what is backbiting? They (the Companions) said: Allah and His Messenger know best. Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: Backbiting implies your talking about your brother in a manner which he does not like. It was said to him: What is your opinion about this that if I actually find (that failing) in my brother which I made a mention of? He said: If (that failing) is actually found (in him) what you assert, you in fact backbited him, and if that is not in him it is a slander.

Related by Muslim (8/18) and Ahmad (2/303) from Aboo Hurayrah:The Prophet (sal allahu alayhi wa salaam) said: Do you know who the muflis (bankrupt one) is? The muflis from my Ummah is one who comes on the Day of Judgement having performed Prayer, fasting, and giving zakaat (charity). However, along with all of this, he had abused this person, and slandered that person, eaten the wealth of this person, and unlawfully spilled the blood of that person. These people will take from his good deeds. If, however, his good deeds become exhausted, then their sins will be put upon him and he will be thrown into the Fire.

[cbd2cai 0]

So hope I made sense here, I'm kind of in a hurry this Saturday morning, but there are some reality to these stories you are hearing and let's not all be blinded by love. We are in long distance marriages and we don't know everything, regardless if they meet with us every night on the internet or talk every night on the phone. But at the same time, you must risk if you love and trust until proven differently.

Peace all.

Andrea

Andrea,

You make sense to me.

No one knows for sure about their relationship until they are living with them. Insha'allah, it won't take years to feel that it is going to last.

Liz, I think you are so lucky in finding Abdel. Everything you say about him, makes me want to put Ahmed in the car (once he gets here, LOL) and drive over for a visit with you and Abdel. Maybe he can take the advice from an older "brother" on adjusting to life in America and living with an American woman.

Catherine

[Together4ever 1]

Salamu alaikum

I want to ask the opinion from you all :

It has come to my attention that we have 2 new members, a husband and a wife(Islamically)Process is actually K1. In the past i knew this husband and he did some things that are just plain evil to myself and others. I am sure that his new wife knows nothing about his past doings. She is from USA and I believe that he is only trying to get here (USA) no matter what.

My question is: Should we make her aware of her husbands ways and let her decide?

or

Keep my mouth shut??

If you need more info to better help me just let me know. Thanks Alot .

I am backing up MJ 100% on this matter. I will say I know this person was talking to MANY women online while having a so called fiance in the states. When she came to her senses evil things were done to her and others then he made a comment that he was "already talking to someone in Canada he would visit." I know all this has happen in less than one year. Now he has "another fiance?" Just a big red flag to me. Many comments made to this person were comments one would think a terrorist would make. Really, it still scares me. In most cases I would keep my mouth shut, but I really think "###################" should know what her beloved fiance is doing.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِنْ جَاءَكُمْ فَاسِقٌ بِنَبَإٍ فَتَبَيَّنُوا أَنْ تُصِيبُوا قَوْمًا بِجَهَالَةٍ فَتُصْبِحُوا عَلَى مَا فَعَلْتُمْ نَادِمِينَ

O ye who believe! If a wicked person comes to you with any news, ascertain the truth,

lest ye harm people unwittingly, and afterwards become full of repentance for what ye have

done.

وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ فِيكُمْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ لَوْ يُطِيعُكُمْ فِي كَثِيرٍ مِنَ الأمْرِ لَعَنِتُّمْ وَلَكِنَّ اللَّهَ حَبَّبَ إِلَيْكُمُ الإيمَانَ وَزَيَّنَهُ فِي

قُلُوبِكُمْ وَكَرَّهَ إِلَيْكُمُ الْكُفْرَ وَالْفُسُوقَ وَالْعِصْيَانَ أُولَئِكَ هُمُ الرَّاشِدُونَ

And know that among you is Allah's Messenger: were he, in many matters, to follow your

(wishes), ye would certainly fall into misfortune: But Allah has endeared the Faith to you

, and has made it beautiful in your hearts, and He has made hateful to you Unbelief,

wickedness, and rebellion: such indeed are those who walk in righteousness;-

فَضْلا مِنَ اللَّهِ وَنِعْمَةً وَاللَّهُ عَلِيمٌ حَكِيمٌ

A Grace and Favour from Allah; and Allah is full of Knowledge and Wisdom.

وَإِنْ طَائِفَتَانِ مِنَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ اقْتَتَلُوا فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَهُمَا فَإِنْ بَغَتْ إِحْدَاهُمَا عَلَى الأخْرَى فَقَاتِلُوا الَّتِي تَبْغِي حَتَّى

تَفِيءَ إِلَى أَمْرِ اللَّهِ فَإِنْ فَاءَتْ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَهُمَا بِالْعَدْلِ وَأَقْسِطُوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُقْسِطِينَ

If two parties among the Believers fall into a quarrel, make ye peace between them: but

if one of them transgresses beyond bounds against the other, then fight ye (all) against

the one that transgresses until it complies with the command of Allah; but if it complies,

then make peace between them with justice, and be fair: for Allah loves those who are fair

(and just).

إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَ أَخَوَيْكُمْ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُرْحَمُونَ

The Believers are but a single Brotherhood: So make peace and reconciliation between your

two (contending) brothers; and fear Allah, that ye may receive Mercy.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لا يَسْخَرْ قَومٌ مِنْ قَوْمٍ عَسَى أَنْ يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِنْهُمْ وَلا نِسَاءٌ مِنْ نِسَاءٍ عَسَى أَنْ يَكُنَّ

خَيْرًا مِنْهُنَّ وَلا تَلْمِزُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَلا تَنَابَزُوا بِالألْقَابِ بِئْسَ الاسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الإيمَانِ وَمَنْ لَمْ يَتُبْ فَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ

الظَّالِمُونَ

O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that the (latter)

are better than the (former): Nor let some women laugh at others: It may be that the

(latter are better than the (former): Nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call

each other by (offensive) nicknames: Ill-seeming is a name connoting wickedness, (to be

used of one) after he has believed: And those who do not desist are (indeed) doing wrong.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ وَلا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلا يَغْتَبْ بَعْضُكُمْ بَعْضًا أَيُحِبُّ

أَحَدُكُمْ أَنْ يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَحِيمٌ

O ye who believe! Avoid suspicion as much (as possible): for suspicion in some cases is a

sin: And spy not on each other behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh

of his dead brother? Nay, ye would abhor it...But fear Allah: For Allah is Oft-Returning,

Most Merciful.

Also translated as "Believers, stay away from conjecture; acting upon some conjecture may

lead to sin. Do not spy on one another or backbite. Would any of you like to eat the

disgusting dead flesh of (your brother)? Have fear of Allah; Allah accepts repentance and

is All-merciful)"49:12

al-Quran 49:6-12

Book 032, Hadith Number 6265.Chapter : The prohibition of backbiting: Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (sal allahu alayhi wa salaam) as saying; Do you know what is backbiting? They (the Companions) said: Allah and His Messenger know best. Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: Backbiting implies your talking about your brother in a manner which he does not like. It was said to him: What is your opinion about this that if I actually find (that failing) in my brother which I made a mention of? He said: If (that failing) is actually found (in him) what you assert, you in fact backbited him, and if that is not in him it is a slander.

Related by Muslim (8/18) and Ahmad (2/303) from Aboo Hurayrah:The Prophet (sal allahu alayhi wa salaam) said: Do you know who the muflis (bankrupt one) is? The muflis from my Ummah is one who comes on the Day of Judgement having performed Prayer, fasting, and giving zakaat (charity). However, along with all of this, he had abused this person, and slandered that person, eaten the wealth of this person, and unlawfully spilled the blood of that person. These people will take from his good deeds. If, however, his good deeds become exhausted, then their sins will be put upon him and he will be thrown into the Fire.

Subhan Allah.

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Hello everyone i'm back from syria we had a great time. We had an engagment party and got a call from the embassy to pick up our packet three. We filled out the packet there and sent it in, so we should soon have an interview date!

I included some photos!!!

How long does it usually take for them to call after they receive the packet to set up an interview???

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Salamu alaikum

I want to ask the opinion from you all :

It has come to my attention that we have 2 new members, a husband and a wife(Islamically)Process is actually K1. In the past i knew this husband and he did some things that are just plain evil to myself and others. I am sure that his new wife knows nothing about his past doings. She is from USA and I believe that he is only trying to get here (USA) no matter what.

My question is: Should we make her aware of her husbands ways and let her decide?

or

Keep my mouth shut??

If you need more info to better help me just let me know. Thanks Alot .

I am backing up MJ 100% on this matter. I will say I know this person was talking to MANY women online while having a so called fiance in the states. When she came to her senses evil things were done to her and others then he made a comment that he was "already talking to someone in Canada he would visit." I know all this has happen in less than one year. Now he has "another fiance?" Just a big red flag to me. Many comments made to this person were comments one would think a terrorist would make. Really, it still scares me. In most cases I would keep my mouth shut, but I really think "###################" should know what her beloved fiance is doing.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِنْ جَاءَكُمْ فَاسِقٌ بِنَبَإٍ فَتَبَيَّنُوا أَنْ تُصِيبُوا قَوْمًا بِجَهَالَةٍ فَتُصْبِحُوا عَلَى مَا فَعَلْتُمْ نَادِمِينَ

O ye who believe! If a wicked person comes to you with any news, ascertain the truth,

lest ye harm people unwittingly, and afterwards become full of repentance for what ye have

done.

وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ فِيكُمْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ لَوْ يُطِيعُكُمْ فِي كَثِيرٍ مِنَ الأمْرِ لَعَنِتُّمْ وَلَكِنَّ اللَّهَ حَبَّبَ إِلَيْكُمُ الإيمَانَ وَزَيَّنَهُ فِي

قُلُوبِكُمْ وَكَرَّهَ إِلَيْكُمُ الْكُفْرَ وَالْفُسُوقَ وَالْعِصْيَانَ أُولَئِكَ هُمُ الرَّاشِدُونَ

And know that among you is Allah's Messenger: were he, in many matters, to follow your

(wishes), ye would certainly fall into misfortune: But Allah has endeared the Faith to you

, and has made it beautiful in your hearts, and He has made hateful to you Unbelief,

wickedness, and rebellion: such indeed are those who walk in righteousness;-

فَضْلا مِنَ اللَّهِ وَنِعْمَةً وَاللَّهُ عَلِيمٌ حَكِيمٌ

A Grace and Favour from Allah; and Allah is full of Knowledge and Wisdom.

وَإِنْ طَائِفَتَانِ مِنَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ اقْتَتَلُوا فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَهُمَا فَإِنْ بَغَتْ إِحْدَاهُمَا عَلَى الأخْرَى فَقَاتِلُوا الَّتِي تَبْغِي حَتَّى

تَفِيءَ إِلَى أَمْرِ اللَّهِ فَإِنْ فَاءَتْ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَهُمَا بِالْعَدْلِ وَأَقْسِطُوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُقْسِطِينَ

If two parties among the Believers fall into a quarrel, make ye peace between them: but

if one of them transgresses beyond bounds against the other, then fight ye (all) against

the one that transgresses until it complies with the command of Allah; but if it complies,

then make peace between them with justice, and be fair: for Allah loves those who are fair

(and just).

إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَ أَخَوَيْكُمْ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُرْحَمُونَ

The Believers are but a single Brotherhood: So make peace and reconciliation between your

two (contending) brothers; and fear Allah, that ye may receive Mercy.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لا يَسْخَرْ قَومٌ مِنْ قَوْمٍ عَسَى أَنْ يَكُونُوا خَيْرًا مِنْهُمْ وَلا نِسَاءٌ مِنْ نِسَاءٍ عَسَى أَنْ يَكُنَّ

خَيْرًا مِنْهُنَّ وَلا تَلْمِزُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَلا تَنَابَزُوا بِالألْقَابِ بِئْسَ الاسْمُ الْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ الإيمَانِ وَمَنْ لَمْ يَتُبْ فَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ

الظَّالِمُونَ

O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that the (latter)

are better than the (former): Nor let some women laugh at others: It may be that the

(latter are better than the (former): Nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call

each other by (offensive) nicknames: Ill-seeming is a name connoting wickedness, (to be

used of one) after he has believed: And those who do not desist are (indeed) doing wrong.

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ وَلا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلا يَغْتَبْ بَعْضُكُمْ بَعْضًا أَيُحِبُّ

أَحَدُكُمْ أَنْ يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَحِيمٌ

O ye who believe! Avoid suspicion as much (as possible): for suspicion in some cases is a

sin: And spy not on each other behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh

of his dead brother? Nay, ye would abhor it...But fear Allah: For Allah is Oft-Returning,

Most Merciful.

Also translated as "Believers, stay away from conjecture; acting upon some conjecture may

lead to sin. Do not spy on one another or backbite. Would any of you like to eat the

disgusting dead flesh of (your brother)? Have fear of Allah; Allah accepts repentance and

is All-merciful)"49:12

al-Quran 49:6-12

Book 032, Hadith Number 6265.Chapter : The prohibition of backbiting: Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (sal allahu alayhi wa salaam) as saying; Do you know what is backbiting? They (the Companions) said: Allah and His Messenger know best. Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: Backbiting implies your talking about your brother in a manner which he does not like. It was said to him: What is your opinion about this that if I actually find (that failing) in my brother which I made a mention of? He said: If (that failing) is actually found (in him) what you assert, you in fact backbited him, and if that is not in him it is a slander.

Related by Muslim (8/18) and Ahmad (2/303) from Aboo Hurayrah:The Prophet (sal allahu alayhi wa salaam) said: Do you know who the muflis (bankrupt one) is? The muflis from my Ummah is one who comes on the Day of Judgement having performed Prayer, fasting, and giving zakaat (charity). However, along with all of this, he had abused this person, and slandered that person, eaten the wealth of this person, and unlawfully spilled the blood of that person. These people will take from his good deeds. If, however, his good deeds become exhausted, then their sins will be put upon him and he will be thrown into the Fire.

Subhan Allah.

what's that mean?????????