please, please, I need your input

[rashell 0]

I have been married to my husband for a short while. He couldn't work until he received his papers. He would stay up late on the computer looking for work so he says. Because of that I caouln't sleep at night then in the mornings he would get angry because the alarm would go off or I would turn the light on so I could get ready for work.

I have 3 children, and my husband complain about the teenagers. He would say they do things to harm him. He said they tried to poision him, put nails in his tires, hid his car keys, everything he would say there was no concerete evidence so I would take up for them. Every one I told that to that now my children couldn't beleive he would even think they are capable of doing something like that. He would be in the bed room all day and night so he did not try to develop a relationship with them.

When he received his right to wor he moved. I drive to visit him everother weekend. This cost me time and gas and I tae off my second job to do this.

This is the second time going there to find out he talks to females on the phone. He says he converstate with females better than men, but if the females find out he's married they don't want to talk to him. Sounds like it's not innocent to me.

My husband family doesn't live in the states, and he's never let me talk with them or even email them, I'm embarrsed to tell that he complains to his family about me so they don't want anything to do with me. I bet he didn't tell them I paid his legal fees, I paid for his 1st, divorce, I pay his car payment as well as his insurance, I have been the one paying his rent, electric phone and internet bill. It angers me that he would invite a female to come stay at my apartment so he could get to now her. He also stated he was looing for a wife to have children with. I am soooo very hurt by this man I haven't told him I was having his baby because I don't that to be the reason our marriage last. He says he want to be with me but I want to meet his family, I want him to be a father to my children, I want him to say off the phone and computer with females I dont think I'm asking to much. He called this lady baby I cant remember when the last time he called me baby or gave me a compliment. He said he was a God fearing man, and also hoped God would say the same with them being together, how dare him. What did I get myself into can this relationship be saved? I could say the hell with him but I love him and now I'm pregrent. I need some advice

[desert_fox 32]

I guess you can put up with this as long as you want to.,

[Sonshyne 2]

Sorry to hear your going thru this.

[Ta Ta 1]

You stay with him because you love him ? Is that what you want to model to your children ? Love yourself and know that you deserve better. Sounds like he is using you and that is not love.

Realize that your self esteem is bruised and get a support system to help you end this relationship.

He is a user. There is someone out there for you that will appreciate and cherish you. He is clearly not the one.

[Stars 0]

I have been married to my husband for a short while. He couldn't work until he received his papers. He would stay up late on the computer looking for work so he says. Because of that I caouln't sleep at night then in the mornings he would get angry because the alarm would go off or I would turn the light on so I could get ready for work.

I have 3 children, and my husband complain about the teenagers. He would say they do things to harm him. He said they tried to poision him, put nails in his tires, hid his car keys, everything he would say there was no concerete evidence so I would take up for them. Every one I told that to that now my children couldn't beleive he would even think they are capable of doing something like that. He would be in the bed room all day and night so he did not try to develop a relationship with them.

When he received his right to wor he moved. I drive to visit him everother weekend. This cost me time and gas and I tae off my second job to do this.

This is the second time going there to find out he talks to females on the phone. He says he converstate with females better than men, but if the females find out he's married they don't want to talk to him. Sounds like it's not innocent to me.

My husband family doesn't live in the states, and he's never let me talk with them or even email them, I'm embarrsed to tell that he complains to his family about me so they don't want anything to do with me. I bet he didn't tell them I paid his legal fees, I paid for his 1st, divorce, I pay his car payment as well as his insurance, I have been the one paying his rent, electric phone and internet bill. It angers me that he would invite a female to come stay at my apartment so he could get to now her. He also stated he was looing for a wife to have children with. I am soooo very hurt by this man I haven't told him I was having his baby because I don't that to be the reason our marriage last. He says he want to be with me but I want to meet his family, I want him to be a father to my children, I want him to say off the phone and computer with females I dont think I'm asking to much. He called this lady baby I cant remember when the last time he called me baby or gave me a compliment. He said he was a God fearing man, and also hoped God would say the same with them being together, how dare him. What did I get myself into can this relationship be saved? I could say the hell with him but I love him and now I'm pregrent. I need some advice

Hugs* I feel so terribly sorry for you. Like the others said, you totally deserve a better man. What's done is done. We have to learn to forgive and move on. Because what goes around comes around. He's taking advantage of your love. Take care of yourself sweety.

[Hamster Mom 0]

Tell him you love him and aleady have his baby. You should let him know your feelings. If he dont care about all of this, let him go. Sun stile shine, you can find a better man.

[Nutty 2]

DIVORCE!!!! DIVORCE!!!!!!

He sounds like a greencard scammer!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Jaseball 0]

People can only use you if you let them use you. Don't listen to what the guy is saying and look only at what he is doing. The words and actions don't match up. He doesn't have any respect for you, your kids, or what you have done for him.

[L_n_O 3]

GOOD LUCK whatever you do...

[phatmadame81 0]

I am so sorry for what you are going thru......you should let him know about the baby, but that is as far as it should go........pack his stuff and put him out, stop paying his bill let him fend fo rhisself, he is no tyour child, if anything he should be supporting you....

Please realise men will come and go but your children will always be there.........

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

My thoughts are with you

[Jasman0717 9]

I detest cheaters so if it was me I would kick em to the curb

[samaci 0]

You stay with him because you love him ? Is that what you want to model to your children ? Love yourself and know that you deserve better. Sounds like he is using you and that is not love.

Realize that your self esteem is bruised and get a support system to help you end this relationship.

He is a user. There is someone out there for you that will appreciate and cherish you. He is clearly not the one.

I couldn't have said it better! Love yourself! Best wishes.

[bradcanuck 1]

Actually, I honestly can't feel sorry for the OP or wish best wishes to her. She's letting him scam and take advantage of her. That's just as bad as being the scammer himself.

Move on. Cut off ties, quit paying the bills and report him. BAM, done.

[LoriLawless 0]

Actually, I honestly can't feel sorry for the OP or wish best wishes to her. She's letting him scam and take advantage of her. That's just as bad as being the scammer himself.

Move on. Cut off ties, quit paying the bills and report him. BAM, done.

I don't agree with you. She is nowhere near as bad as him. Some people have no self esteem, as seems to be the case here, and they put up with things that others would not even consider.

However, even if I told you to leave him Stars, I don't think you would. If it were ME, I would've left a long time ago.

Good luck