Wife raped

[JVKn'CVO 11]

Sorry to hear about your situation

Saludos,

Caro

Edited October 1, 2007 by JVKn'CVO

[Boiler 45,486]

So your wife was raped and you did nothing, you did not immediately fly out here?

[daveg 0]

As for proof of bonafide marriage I have chat logs saved about 6 hours a day for 10 months now.

plus hundred photos being there with her and her family, wedding etc...

Also many phone calls hope thats enough.

You should have a LOT more than that as she is your wife.

How about a will, joint bank account, money you sent her receipts, life insurance etc.

Best thing you have are the pictures.

However scammers have them also. You have to do one better than the phonys and they are good.

Lots of rich Filipinos pay guys to bring relatives to the US. You have to beat that trip also.

FLY! Get more pics of an ongoing loving marriage.

It is difficult for me to understand why you didn't fly over to show your loving support when she told you she was raped. I'd have been on the next plane!

Chatting and cam wouldn't hack it for me if my love went thru what yours is going thru. That's just me tho.

I send her money monthly to, no will or life insurance yet or joint bank yet planned on that when she is here of course.

As for going there I really really want to it kills me I can't really go there becuse I cant afford it unless put it on a credit card which Is very high now from paying for going there and the wedding when I was there the first time. She is with her big family now and they are giving her alot of support now. I talk to her for hours to now on yahoo messenger computer call for free. It is almost like being with her in her house then becuse I talk to her family to.I am barley making over the yearly amount to get her here to, but yea your right I really should find a way to go there again.

[Dakine 26]

no will or life insurance yet or joint bank yet planned on that when she is here of course

Yes of course!

May not be any later!

Some peeps get approved with hardly wala!

Some don't tho. It's a ####### shoot!

I was denied first time around so I hit them with both barrels the second time.

but yea your right I really should find a way to go there again.

More ammo the better!

They don't give you much of a chance to reload!

I tryed but it didn't work!

[pushbrk 12,881]

Dave,

The $64,000 question you still haven't answered is, "Where and with whom is the child going to live?"

I'm trying to get a handle on just what immigration problems you'll be dealing with. Right now, you've not taken any action that can result in the child immigrating with its mother.

[daveg 0]

Dave,

The $64,000 question you still haven't answered is, "Where and with whom is the child going to live?"

I'm trying to get a handle on just what immigration problems you'll be dealing with. Right now, you've not taken any action that can result in the child immigrating with its mother.

[daveg 0]

Dave,

The $64,000 question you still haven't answered is, "Where and with whom is the child going to live?"

I'm trying to get a handle on just what immigration problems you'll be dealing with. Right now, you've not taken any action that can result in the child immigrating with its mother.

The child will stay with the parents of the guy in the Philppines ( she thought was a freind) he is in korea now back working and will support the child and hopefully take the child at a later time.

[mox 298]

The child will stay with the parents of the guy in the Philppines ( she thought was a freind) he is in korea now back working and will support the child and hopefully take the child at a later time.

That breaks my heart.

[dermeco 1]

I feel she is not telling you the whole truth, but what can you do? when you are really in love, you are totally blind. Later on when you find out what happened, you are already screwed. I knew of a case similar to yours. The person brought his wife to America then in three years she became US Citizen and end up living her husband and bringing the person who she claimed was the person who raped her. If I were you, I would go to camping and meditate about what happened? Ask God to help you decide what to do next? [/font]

[Skeeter211 2]

Just my opinion so take it for what its worth as I am a cynical person by nature, but....

Bottom line is....I think there is a lot of question in people's mind here about whether this was a rape or a woman that cheated and accidentally got pregnant. The latter would call serious questions as to the validity of your bona fide relationship. Because of that you both will need to be prepared for some heavy duty questions from the CO at interview time. I don't know that a letter from you is going to relieve her from a grilling by the CO about the origin of this baby and how it came to be. I would not put it past the Embassy to do a field investigation and contact people she knows to see if there is any discrepancies. It seems she knows this guy that "raped" her and if I were the CO, I would want to interview family and aquaintances to see if there was any lovey lovey between them.

If I were you and this guy raped my wife, I would insist she go to the police and turn him in. This guy committed a crime and RAPED her!!! He is not to be protected, she is the one. If she can't do that, maybe there is a reason why? If she has a big family there with her, what's to worry about him threatening her? She is coming here to the states anyway. Maybe her family can hide her in a far away relatives residence till she get's her visa if she is scared?

A rape report/investgation will help the CO clear it in his/her mind what happened. Without it, I believe you are inviting questions and cynicism into the room with her. The CO's are already very cynical as it is because of all the fraud there. Admittedly, we don't know the whole story here from this thread, but something doesn't seem right to me. I think another red flag to the CO will be that the child will go to the parents of the "rapist". I just see a lot of problems ahead in getting a visa approved, but that is ONLY my opinion. Only God and your wife really knows what happened at this point.

If your wife was truly a victim of a rape, then I am sorry for you, for her, and for her unborn child. It's hard to be objective when you are close to the situation. You love her so much and want what she says to be true. I pray to God it is true and she has honest intentions as I am sure that I, nor anyone else will not change your mind at this point, based on what you have already said about believing her.

[neenuh 0]

Dave,

The $64,000 question you still haven't answered is, "Where and with whom is the child going to live?"

I'm trying to get a handle on just what immigration problems you'll be dealing with. Right now, you've not taken any action that can result in the child immigrating with its mother.

i agree with pushbrk - what's done is done

whether your wife's telling you the truth or not is none of our business

but you have to decide on what to do with the "unwanted" (for the lack of a better term) child with regards to your immigration plans

however, i do feel you should be with her right now during this most difficult time in her life (given the benefit of the doubt)

rape is the worst act a man can do to a woman - it's a complete disregard for her humanity and dignity

as a woman, it pains me to hear that this was done to your wife, and i hope you both overcome this obstacle together

Edited October 1, 2007 by neenuh

[neenuh 0]

Just my opinion so take it for what its worth as I am a cynical person by nature, but....

Bottom line is....I think there is a lot of question in people's mind here about whether this was a rape or a woman that cheated and accidentally got pregnant. The latter would call serious questions as to the validity of your bona fide relationship. Because of that you both will need to be prepared for some heavy duty questions from the CO at interview time. I don't know that a letter from you is going to relieve her from a grilling by the CO about the origin of this baby and how it came to be. I would not put it past the Embassy to do a field investigation and contact people she knows to see if there is any discrepancies. It seems she knows this guy that "raped" her and if I were the CO, I would want to interview family and aquaintances to see if there was any lovey lovey between them.

If I were you and this guy raped my wife, I would insist she go to the police and turn him in. This guy committed a crime and RAPED her!!! He is not to be protected, she is the one. If she can't do that, maybe there is a reason why? If she has a big family there with her, what's to worry about him threatening her? She is coming here to the states anyway. Maybe her family can hide her in a far away relatives residence till she get's her visa if she is scared?

A rape report/investgation will help the CO clear it in his/her mind what happened. Without it, I believe you are inviting questions and cynicism into the room with her. The CO's are already very cynical as it is because of all the fraud there. Admittedly, we don't know the whole story here from this thread, but something doesn't seem right to me. I think another red flag to the CO will be that the child will go to the parents of the "rapist". I just see a lot of problems ahead in getting a visa approved, but that is ONLY my opinion. Only God and your wife really knows what happened at this point.

If your wife was truly a victim of a rape, then I am sorry for you, for her, and for her unborn child. It's hard to be objective when you are close to the situation. You love her so much and want what she says to be true. I pray to God it is true and she has honest intentions as I am sure that I, nor anyone else will not change your mind at this point, based on what you have already said about believing her.

Skeeter211 also laid down logical points in different perspectives here

i admit, it really is dubious

[Skeeter211 2]

Just my opinion so take it for what its worth as I am a cynical person by nature, but....

Bottom line is....I think there is a lot of question in people's mind here about whether this was a rape or a woman that cheated and accidentally got pregnant. The latter would call serious questions as to the validity of your bona fide relationship. Because of that you both will need to be prepared for some heavy duty questions from the CO at interview time. I don't know that a letter from you is going to relieve her from a grilling by the CO about the origin of this baby and how it came to be. I would not put it past the Embassy to do a field investigation and contact people she knows to see if there is any discrepancies. It seems she knows this guy that "raped" her and if I were the CO, I would want to interview family and aquaintances to see if there was any lovey lovey between them.

If I were you and this guy raped my wife, I would insist she go to the police and turn him in. This guy committed a crime and RAPED her!!! He is not to be protected, she is the one. If she can't do that, maybe there is a reason why? If she has a big family there with her, what's to worry about him threatening her? She is coming here to the states anyway. Maybe her family can hide her in a far away relatives residence till she get's her visa if she is scared?

A rape report/investgation will help the CO clear it in his/her mind what happened. Without it, I believe you are inviting questions and cynicism into the room with her. The CO's are already very cynical as it is because of all the fraud there. Admittedly, we don't know the whole story here from this thread, but something doesn't seem right to me. I think another red flag to the CO will be that the child will go to the parents of the "rapist". I just see a lot of problems ahead in getting a visa approved, but that is ONLY my opinion. Only God and your wife really knows what happened at this point.

If your wife was truly a victim of a rape, then I am sorry for you, for her, and for her unborn child. It's hard to be objective when you are close to the situation. You love her so much and want what she says to be true. I pray to God it is true and she has honest intentions as I am sure that I, nor anyone else will not change your mind at this point, based on what you have already said about believing her.

Skeeter211 also laid down logical points in different perspectives here

i admit, it really is dubious

neenuh....thank you for having the courtesy of not slamming my post with your own views. I respect your opinions as well. I understand that rape is a total crime of violence, regardless of whether she knew the perpetrator or not. The decision is up to the OP as to what he believes and what he will do. In that respect it is "none of our business". Having said that, this board runs on 80% opinions and 20% facts most of the time and I guess I did contribute to that tonight.

I will only stick my nose in one more time where it probably doesn't belong.....As you said, what happens to the child is a prime concern, which is another red flag for me. Giving the child to the parents of the "rapist" so that he can support the child and hopefully take care of it? Why not adoption so the child has a chance away from this "RAPIST" as he is called. I wonder what the CO would have to say about that in the interview?

To Daveg....my heart really goes out to you bro. You are in a very very sad situation for everyone involved. Please don't interpret my opinions in the wrong way. It's obviously your marriage and your decision. I just hope you think long and hard about it. I am sure you have, so that is all the more reason to have different points of view to examine. Good luck and best wishes with whatever happens from here.

Scott

[rebeccajo 14]

I will only stick my nose in one more time where it probably doesn't belong.....As you said, what happens to the child is a prime concern, which is another red flag for me. Giving the child to the parents of the "rapist" so that he can support the child and hopefully take care of it? Why not adoption so the child has a chance away from this "RAPIST" as he is called. I wonder what the CO would have to say about that in the interview?

Would that be a cultural norm in the Phils? For a child to be 'given' to a true rapist to be raised?

[Boiler 45,486]

I will only stick my nose in one more time where it probably doesn't belong.....As you said, what happens to the child is a prime concern, which is another red flag for me. Giving the child to the parents of the "rapist" so that he can support the child and hopefully take care of it? Why not adoption so the child has a chance away from this "RAPIST" as he is called. I wonder what the CO would have to say about that in the interview?

Would that be a cultural norm in the Phils? For a child to be 'given' to a true rapist to be raised?

It just smells to high heaven.