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[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Woah! I am shocked he would let you go when you're prego.

Now I am wondering what is section 221g?

[angel2004 0]

I can't believe he is just thinking about his own pain right now and not of you and the baby that need all of his support.

Very sad. If you are expecting it does not seem the right time to move there, especially if he does not care to talk to you.

I hope you have a support system with family and friends. You don't need ths selfish behavior from him now.

I would give him some time to come to his senses and if not ...........let him go ! You deserve better.

he has my family support and i don't he could care less i think

Sorry to hear your news about your husband.

Do I understand this right? Your family is supporting his decision to divorce you while you are carrying his baby?

Or am I misunderstanding what you are saying.

yes ur right my family supports him in any and everything no matter what it is

[Jasman0717 9]

That is so sad. Do you know others in his country that might help him deal with the stress? I hope you can work it out

[angel2004 0]

Woah! I am shocked he would let you go when you're prego.

Now I am wondering what is section 221g?

it is where you don't have enough proof to prove ur case or marriage in boni fied

[angel2004 0]

That is so sad. Do you know others in his country that might help him deal with the stress? I hope you can work it out

thanks i hope that we can work through this i talking to chaingang wife tonight he is from pakistan as well other then hes family that is all i know

[wael253 0]

Woah! I am shocked he would let you go when you're prego.

Now I am wondering what is section 221g?

it is where you don't have enough proof to prove ur case or marriage in boni fied

first i'm sorry to hear about story .. and i hope everything works better for you soon

Islam Abad , is one of the hardest embassies , you can see the timeline for people on the same portal as yours , you also can get him to see these timelines and maybe then he can see that the waiting is normal for pople from his country .. that may help thoght !

_about the 221g .. if this refers to a regular RFE ( request for evedince ) so that's normal , as soon as you send the evedince they requested your case will be process and it should be a matter of a few months for the case to be processed .

_ but if he has been told that the case is sent back to the USCIS , i think this is a different story and you both should be ready for more waiting .. anyway i hop not , as i hope it was just a regular RFE !

[faith11 0]

i just got back from Pakistan yesterday and my husband has decide to call hes visa off and call it quite between me and him. He can't handle the stress of the visa or the process of how long it is taken he was denied back in may of this year he is wanting this divorce because he thinks that there will never be an end to all this drama. What can i do to make him stay strong until we get the noir and wait for there answer to us if anyone has any suggestions on this matter then please let me know

thanks

angel2004

Hola Angel, l am faith11, this is very sad, l am very sorry that you have to go through this.

l think the most important now is your baby, give some time to your husband, don´t call him at this moment. l am sure he will call if he loves you. If times passes and he continues acting that way, just let him go, lam sure there will be something better for you.

l want to say that when things happen are for a good reason, l know that right now you need all his support and he should be there to do it.

when there is true love, it supports everything, l am sure many people in these forums have been waiting for the loves ones for a while, including me.

l know that if he really loves you, he will be back to you and then you will talk and find a way to make it work out together.

Good luck my dear, l will be praying for you.

Faith11

[questworldz 0]

You have his child in your belly, I would hope that is bonafide evidence enough. What kind of cold inconsiderate world are we living whereby people don't view a baby as a sign of commitment. Honestly Angel, I think you should try to get your senator or congressman involved. you can find the best way to contact them here:

http://www.visi.com/juan/congress/index.html

Tell them your situation and perhaps they can help you out. If they can't I would like to recommend that you contact an immigration lawyer to find out exactly what is needed so that the case can be approved. Trust me, I know what a wedding costs mentally, physically, and financially. It would be so much more worth for you to hire an immigration lawyer to complete your case and re-unite you with your husband and re-unite your child with his father. My heart goes out to ya.

I'll put in a prayer for you. Be persistent and try to weather the storm. Keep your husband near you as much as possible and go and visit him whenever financially possible and start taking pictures and build up evidence. Use affidavits from famil members supporting your marriage if you have to, but DO NOT GIVE UP. You won't be able to live with yourself if you give up after coming so far, especially when you know that you could have done something else that may have been better for your and your child's life.

Regards,

Esaam

it is where you don't have enough proof to prove ur case or marriage in boni fied

[Jigi 0]

hi

I wish your life gets in order... I just want... that alll those couples who are in stress be united sooon.

I just want to know what is this 221(g) clause... please tell me the details of it.

Jigi

[chaingang 7]

hi

I wish your life gets in order... I just want... that alll those couples who are in stress be united sooon.

I just want to know what is this 221(g) clause... please tell me the details of it.

Jigi

I and angel are in same problem her husband is denied under section 221 g and so am i , lack of evidence to prove our point , that this marriage is true not a shame, well i told my story in my post that i fought back with full force, and i will say again thanks to my wife ,she showed the real bravery and got all stuff with in time, but anyways i am waiting for AP/AR and angel's husband is denied section 221(g), it depends on case to case mine was that i am missing documents but they did decide to send my case back to uscis via route to nvc, so their case must be in embassy now if they hire lawyer , and their lawyer start talking to them i am more then sure they will change their decesion but there is a problem that guy (husband) acting like stupid Sob sorry to say its true, i wish he rots in hell leaving a woman in this time, but my prayers goes to them , i am also in trouble indeed everyone come up here are in trouble , so Allah help us all Amin

[Nutty 2]

i just got back from Pakistan yesterday and my husband has decide to call hes visa off and call it quite between me and him. He can't handle the stress of the visa or the process of how long it is taken he was denied back in may of this year he is wanting this divorce because he thinks that there will never be an end to all this drama. What can i do to make him stay strong until we get the noir and wait for there answer to us if anyone has any suggestions on this matter then please let me know

thanks

angel2004

Angela,

I know the thought of living in Pakistan seems hard, but if you love your husband, then why not try it for a while.

I lived in Iran with my husband (American through and through) and found the people there lovely and welcoming. It was really only the mandatory by law head/body covering and lack of persian language skills that made it hard for me. BUT, if our application does not suceed, my husband will find another country (Canada or Australia to apply to for both of us) and I would go back to Iran more than likely.

I used to live in India and have many friends there. I've been to Pakistan and found the people there generally friendly and welcoming too. Pakistani people speak English so communication is not such a problem. I also think there are no laws by the government about islamic dress in Pakistan.

Your husband shouldn't be so quick to divorce for this "lack of getting a visa" reason.

[Nutty 2]

i just got back from Pakistan yesterday and my husband has decide to call hes visa off and call it quite between me and him. He can't handle the stress of the visa or the process of how long it is taken he was denied back in may of this year he is wanting this divorce because he thinks that there will never be an end to all this drama. What can i do to make him stay strong until we get the noir and wait for there answer to us if anyone has any suggestions on this matter then please let me know

thanks

angel2004

I am so sorry to hear about your heartache. If he felt like that, why didn't he discuss it with you, while you was still there

Try and talk to him and just be positive with him and hopefully he won't want to get a divorce. I know it is a long process and very emotionally draining on a person and sometimes the relationship, but we have to stay strong. Just talk to him and be positive and tell him to pray to ALMIGHTY ALLAH THAT YOU TWO WILL BE TOGETHER AND SOON insha allaah.

why was he denied and what have you done up to this point with your process??

Hang in there Angel

Aisha

he was denied under 221 (g) i'm going to have hes child very soon i'm due in october they wont give me any information on hes case what would u suggest me to move to pakistan and be with him to talk things over and how can i get information on hes case thanks

angel

I am so sorry for you Angel. I did not realize you were pregnant.

To be honest with you....I feel that your husband is behaving terribly. I have been friends with kashmiri muslims (very similiar) to Pakistanis and I can tell you that family means everything to them. A good muslim would not divorce a pregnant wife who has been faithful and devoted to him. It is a muslim mans responsibility to support his wife and children. It is a thing of honor in a way.

So to hear that your husband has turned his back to you right now shows a side that it not good.

I would suggest you rethink this situation of bringing him to the US. If he is willing to abandon you in this critical time of having a baby, what is to prevent him from doing this if he is in the US later?

Has your husband done any "good faith" gestures to show he is committed to you and the baby IRREGARDLESS of what country you live in?

This is my opionion and I am sure if you were to post this subject on the Middle East forum you would get similiar views.

Best of luck to you. Nutty

[*Maureen* 0]

I am so sorry to hear this. I am sure that frustration is playing a big role in this. I would let him have his melt down and once he had some time to cool off he will come around and realize that this is worth fighting for. I really wish the best for you both and hopefully things will all work out in the end.

[*JG* 2]

I'm so sorry for you.

You know, the thing is, the process is not all that much easier once the visa is granted and you move in together. Sure, you are with them, then, and that has it's pluses. But, life is still a one day at a time, small step forward, 2 steps back, kind of world. It takes a long time for everything to settle down and be as you kind of dreamed and expected it to be. While this is a setback for the two of you, it would not be the only one you would face during the process, or even the biggest challenge you would face. Life is tough. This visa process is seemingly neverending and extremely difficult. Maybe it's good to know now that he isn't up for the challenge.