Pity Party!!!

[allousa 1]

well my cat's asleep, kids are asleep, husband's asleep...i should go to bed since I have to wake up at 4:45 to eat and take my meds. Did I mention my hair has started to fall out????? Like 30 strands came out two days ago in the bathtub and tonight I was just fluffing my hair and same thing happened. Can you say STRESS??????

Doodle dont worry about your hair. It is normal to shed 50 to 80 hairs a day.

i think i lose that off my back in just one night

:lol: Dayum...... :lol:

[AichaKandisha 0]

Doodlebug - I remember very well how grueling it was to be waiting in AP. That for me was the hardest part of the entire visa process. We waited 28 days after the interview and I don't know how anyone handles waiting longer than that. I was a wreck waiting out those days. It just felt so up in the air. Some get called in a matter of days and some got called months later. Not knowing which one of those I was going to be was torture. My emotions were all over the place. I tried to stay as positive as I could but I still had my moments.

Do whatever you need to do to get through this time. It's one of the most stressful times that you can go through. And when you get the call, and YOU WILL GET THE CALL, it will be the sweetest moment you can imagine.

Happy Birthday to you!! Is it me or do birthdays not really have the excitement that they used to anyway?!

[doodlebug 3]

Doodlebug - I remember very well how grueling it was to be waiting in AP. That for me was the hardest part of the entire visa process. We waited 28 days after the interview and I don't know how anyone handles waiting longer than that. I was a wreck waiting out those days. It just felt so up in the air. Some get called in a matter of days and some got called months later. Not knowing which one of those I was going to be was torture. My emotions were all over the place. I tried to stay as positive as I could but I still had my moments.

Do whatever you need to do to get through this time. It's one of the most stressful times that you can go through. And when you get the call, and YOU WILL GET THE CALL, it will be the sweetest moment you can imagine.

Happy Birthday to you!! Is it me or do birthdays not really have the excitement that they used to anyway?!

Well it's kind of exciting I guess. lol.

I know what you mean 'cause it doesn't have that magic that it used to have. Even when I was married the first time it was a big deal and all that. It's really sucked the past four years for whatever reason something has always come up so I just thought this year would be special. It is though I'm trying to look on the bright side of things.............1) a birthday during Ramadan *is* special, 2) I started wearing hijab fulltime about a week and a half ago which *is* special, etc. etc.

I was gonna put this in the thread earlier but I got distracted... ....but when I'm down like this it does help to make a gratitude list. It just is hard getting it started but once I get going I do feel a little better.

1) I have my health

2) I have my children (who are healthy)

3) I have a loving husband

4) My cat is awesome

5) My job rocks (normally)

6) I love living on the ocean

7) My friends rock (both here and out in the real world if you know what I mean)

8) I'm having chocolate cake with whipped cream frosting tonight

9) I have God in my life (ok this should have been number one...)

10) My bills are paid on a somewhat timely basis

[♥JP♥ 5]

I don't see anything wrong with this thread at all. Doodle is just venting and I don't see why there is being a connection made to sparrow.

First of all, as someone already mentioned, she has been quite upset for some time now. Secondly, Sparrow has already posted that she has not taken any offense at all to this thread. So what is the issue exactly?

[ya falaha! 0]

Doodle is also down about other things besides the visa. I don't think a little compassion is too much to ask for. She isn't the first or the last person who has vented about the visa or other more personal issues affecting his or her life. Speaking as a survivor (just barely some days) of the visa process, it's NOT easy. Especially long AR/AP. Ours was a little over 4 mos. if you include security checks. I started freaking about two weeks in. It's just not an easy thing to go through. It's the hardest part of the process, hands down.

Try to enjoy your birthday tonight and have a extra large piece of that cake.

[~Jackie~ 30]

mmmmmm cake.

J

if ya got my number, it would be a good night to call me.

[Becky&Sam 0]

Just because I had good news yesterday/today doesn't mean I will have good news tomorrow. My grandmother is dying in the hospital and while Ramy has his visa he won't be here soon enough. She's going for surgery tomorrow or Thursday (and then she'll have a second surgery the next day) and there's a very high chance she won't make it. We're supposed to be happy but instead we kind of argued about when he's coming because he told me now he needs about a month to finish up his business, pack, and leave, but if my grandmother dies I don't want to go to another funeral without him (we lost a friend of ours from high school in June to an atv accident). Yesterday I cried almost the whole way from the hospital to my dress fitting because a part of me knows she'll never see it and I'm her only grandchild.

I wasn't going to post in here at all till I saw I was brought up but if you need a pity party then you need a party with chocolates and movies and friends in a large flat in Egypt with a cow in the kitchen! And if you just need to talk, well then you need to talk.

Doodle is right, VJ is pretty much visa process support but I want to add that it's through this board that we make friendships and when we hit rough spots--divorce, pets, family members dying-- that have nothing to do with visas, we're there for each other, even if we've never met in person. It might not seem like much but it really does mean a lot.

I am so sorry about your Grandmother sparrow!! I know the pain of losing friends and family members and not having your SO/husband with you. Since the time we started this visa process my brother was killed in a tragic accident (but he was currently undergoing treament for terminal cancer so I think this was a blessing that God took him from any more suffering) and my really good friend here at work committed suicide. This kind of a loss along with trying to get your future husband/husband here is a great emotional everything, ups, downs, depression, joy. Dealing with them alone is very very hard.

I hope that your grandmother can make it and have some recovery before your wedding and be there for you. I will pray that Ramy can get here in time and your grandmother can see you get married.

I appreciate the support and comfort that I have gotten here on VJ and don't believe that anyone would begrudge someone getting their visa before another and I see that everyone is always happy when there is a visa issued to anyone...............but it doesn't make the waiting for those of us that are still in AP any easier!!! We aren't in control of who is giving out visas.... and we can only support those that are waiting and congratulate those that have gotten theirs!!

[maggieNomar 0]

Sarah's 'problem' is that she waited for like 8 days for a visa and has no concept of what being on AP is like. It is not the same as the rest of the visa process, because you have guidelines on how much time to expect to wait for an NOA1 or an interview..you get timelines that are generally an accurate guide. But AP is hell when it extends beyond a month and you watch others go faster from the same embassy. You don't know if you'll get the call tomorrow or next week or next year! Only someone who has waited can really understand. BUT even if she didn't understand, she could have kept her assumption (that doodle was upset because of sparrow) to herself.

[sarah and hicham 3]

It is truly amazing how fast some people here forget about all those times spent chatting and encouraging and helping eachother during the visa process. Unbelievable.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

It's beautiful.

Found it on YouTube -- no video, just the tune.

Grrrrr the speakers on this computer are ####### -- no bass at all

This is such a beautiful song by a Jamaican singer called Sanchez -- he has such an incredible voice. The song says it all -- reggae style. I listened to it over and over every time I was feeling down. Wish I had a link for the actual song -- if you are a member of one of those music services, they might have it -- give it a listen. But here are the lyrics:

I'm Missing You

by Sanchez

yeah i'ma missing you

missing you

talk to you but it's not the same

as touching you

and every time you whisper my name

i wanna run to you

we'll be together

and it won't be long

it won't be long

but it seems like forever

and it's out of my arms

baby cuz i'm missing you now

and it's driving me crazy

cuz i'm needing my baby

i'm missing you now

can't wait another moment

baby cuz i'm missing you now

needing you right here by my side

is all that i can do

arms around my pillow at night

they should be holding you

i was much stronger

how could i know?

how could i know?

but it seems like forever

and it's hard to be strong

baby cuz i'm missing you now

and it's driving me crazy

i'm needing my baby

i'm missing you now

can't wait another moment

baby cuz i'm missing you now

said i'ma missing you now

and it's driving crazy

i'm needing my baby

i'm missing you now

can't wait another moment

[maggieNomar 0]

It is truly amazing how fast some people here forget about all those times spent chatting and encouraging and helping eachother during the visa process. Unbelievable.

No I didn't forget. I also didn't forget your action during the AP Process, when I could have used your support the most.

Edited September 25, 2007 by Maggie724

[sarah and hicham 3]

It is truly amazing how fast some people here forget about all those times spent chatting and encouraging and helping eachother during the visa process. Unbelievable.

No I didn't forget. I also didn't forget your action during the AP Process, when I could have used your support the most.

That was your misunderstanding that got blown out of proportion.

[mybackpages 0]

wow just wow

i guess its time for the first "ladies, please its ramadan post" for those of you that remember last years ramadan police.

It just amazes me over and over how Sarah is everyone's little whipping dog. How did she become the bad guy anyway? Am I the only one around here who remembers that it was Sarah who was the most knowledgable abotu Casa, Sarah who chatted with everyone off line. Gave the best advice around here.

I think everyone should go back and read through this thread and see who really blew this out of proportion. The same instigators who love to trash her. Carrying around old grudges ..flaming the fires.

Yes Sarah posted something to doodle, but you know what doodle and Sarah can handle the disagreement jsut fine. They resolved alot of their disagreements and were moving to a place on this board where they could co-exisit. Think doodle responded quite well to Sarah and that is where it shuld have been left.

If everyone would actually try to see the truth here rather than believe the gossipy pms that go around, if everyone would just make a small effort not to take things so personally, jump n the bandwagon, none of this would have happened today.

So what if you and Sarah do not get along...why drag everyone on this board into it. Why carry around your baggage and misunderstandings and look at Sarah as your scaegoat for all that is wrong.

If you on this board knew half of what I know, ..maybe its time i blow the whistle on the whole lot of it...all the backbiting and gossip, the false identies, the fake friends tryingto get info from others to then spread more gossip around.

And Maggie- only you, sarah and I know what happened between us. I think you have forgotten some parts of the story.

[PalestineMyHeart 1,897]

wow just wow

i guess its time for the first "ladies, please its ramadan post" for those of you that remember last years ramadan police.

It just amazes me over and over how Sarah is everyone's little whipping dog. How did she become the bad guy anyway? Am I the only one around here who remembers that it was Sarah who was the most knowledgable abotu Casa, Sarah who chatted with everyone off line. Gave the best advice around here.

I think everyone should go back and read through this thread and see who really blew this out of proportion. The same instigators who love to trash her. Carrying around old grudges ..flaming the fires.

Yes Sarah posted something to doodle, but you know what doodle and Sarah can handle the disagreement jsut fine. They resolved alot of their disagreements and were moving to a place on this board where they could co-exisit. Think doodle responded quite well to Sarah and that is where it shuld have been left.

If everyone would actually try to see the truth here rather than believe the gossipy pms that go around, if everyone would just make a small effort not to take things so personally, jump n the bandwagon, none of this would have happened today.

So what if you and Sarah do not get along...why drag everyone on this board into it. Why carry around your baggage and misunderstandings and look at Sarah as your scaegoat for all that is wrong.

If you on this board knew half of what I know, ..maybe its time i blow the whistle on the whole lot of it...all the backbiting and gossip, the false identies, the fake friends tryingto get info from others to then spread more gossip around.

And Maggie- only you, sarah and I know what happened between us. I think you have forgotten some parts of the story.

[mybackpages 0]

Maybe its time for my VJ manifesto...a little spring cleaning..air out the festering soiled muck!