Pity Party!!!

[~~~water~~~ 0]

thats is freaky

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

I can't believe some of the comments here that were done in a way that was intended to hurt, but i won't comment on them, cause i see them as malicious and i will simply ignore and not direct any comment to a specific user name because they simply don't matter and certainly don't count, especially in this topic.

Doodle!!! I read about the hair problem, and what a coincidence, this weekkkkk (by the way i've been so, depressed, crying almost every day) that i've noticed my hair comes out in bunches too!! I don't know if it's because i'm stressed out or because i'm fasting, or a combination of both??!! I told my Akram about this and asked him: "will you still love me if my head starts looking like yours? ...We're still together and as strong as ever, so I guess you know his answer to my question

Let's keep our fingers crossed, our faith strong, and unite in prayer that all of us don't have to wait much longer. May God surround us with His blessings especially in these tough times that we're apart from our loved ones, inshaAllah and Ameen.

Hugs,

Ayesha

Is that you NOT commenting? I assume you are referring to me, and my comment were not meant to hurt anyone and were not malicious in any way whatsoever. Thank you though.

Well I am going to weigh in with a different opinion. Yes sometimes the brutality of some of the comments on the boards gets to me but I think I have decided to err in favor of the people that have been here for a while. I cannot possiblly imagine that someone who has their husband already here and that their process went quickly could have any idea of the agony I am going through with a failed first petition and having to start all over 7 months over from scratch. I cannot even do a K3 because my lawyer messed up with the submission of our 129f, not sending it with the check ( and I still do not know where my money order is in all of this) but I cannot cry over things that have already happened. I am severely depressed at the Cr1 times showing up out of CSC. I am sad and frankly not even if someone from visa journeys mena board came over to my house and cleaned it , would I feel any better. I do know one thing. Absolutely no one any where else can relate to this agonizing wait except the women from here so as far as I am concerned, I am not going to do a hell of alot to piss them off. I don't agree with alot of the posters. I have certain very strong dislikes for certain MENA countries ( and should have done more to hide those venement feelings) I am strongly favoring North Africans to be honest with you because of a dismal set of horrific experiences with a man from the Middle East ( if I see molokhia or any food that is REMOTELY stuff he used to eat I gag) Thats just me. I have very strong opinions about all kinds of things that may or not be ascinine ( did I spell that right.. where is Peezy when I need her?) I have stated them and have pissed off several people here... I am sorry I am close minded about certain MENA countries but I have deep seated reasons personally for being like that and I have tried to get over these prejudices but not with much luck ( he and I the mena man from hell have been apart for 4 years and I still have scummy reminders of him every few months, a bill , a problem, a gremlin from his past OH I HATE HIM and I have never hated another human being. I hate his family. His friends and his food.. If I hear any song that we used to listen to I wretch. I HATE HIM.

But as much as I hate him, I adore the man I am with now. When I start talking about this guy and where he is from he fills me full of stories about people from that country that live in Algeria that piss him off too and I do not feel so bad.

As far as JENN and SARAH, I think they are ok.. Sarah you have not really gone after me too badly so I really dont know ( maybe I will try to do something to piss you off so you do) Peezy is just plain smart. Wife of Mahmoud has actually lived overseas which is impressive although I do not share her views I respect her. Doodle bug is spirited. Deemabrouk seems like she is trying to process things. There are many others on here who seem very entertaining, some shy, some more vocal but all interesting in the least. I have some issues but like brussel sprouts , you either love or hate me ( there does not seem to be an in between with me although through my life some who have hated me ended up liking me after they got through being pissed off at me.

My history of my family takes my mother and father through Morocco ( my mother is berber but not Moroccan) and their lives there and all over Europe have left indelible impressions on my heart and soul. I am far too sensitive. Impulsive and crazy sometimes. But I walk with my heart in my hands and that led me to the wilds of Algeria..

I want this to be a place I can come every day and talk because I sure as hell cannot tell anyone else in the real world how bad I am suffering ( immensely) I am grieving the loss of my husband and I do not know if we will survive this long and painful journey. But I would not take one kiss back, one day back.,, I would not take back our arguements, the good things , the bad things,,,, not one memory I made with him. I love and loved him in a fearless way... the fearless and passionate way that "mena" love and live. I have not one time felt jealousy over someone else getting approved with the exception of some of the DCF Algeria filers who did not have to endure ANY OF THIS and cannot possibly know what I am going through waiting 7 months to get married to only have to file again and again. I am angry we could not DCF. I am angry I had to refile, I am angry that the one thing in my life that I want.. the only thing that I want is to be with my husband.. That all other things seem like nothing to me. I want to sleep with him at night. I want to talk to him each day. I want to argue with him. Make up with him.. Live somewhere with him in the good and the bad so badly that I wish I could close the doors of my little house and disappear not caring what happens to the furniture or my car or anything else for that matter. Living alone without him just is not living. So I really give a rat's ### about being jealous of other people or looking for bad things in others because I am too busy trying to get through each day at my job and take care of my children and somehow medicate my self into actually sleeping ( has not been working lately,... I guess sleep all stops being affective after 2 weeks) I am sad damn it. I am sad damn it.. I want to be with him and the toll of the wait has been huge. Will he still love me come December? Will anything be left of us after a year ( new years) and I still do not have an NOA2.. Then the next hurdle is NVC and how ever many months there.. and I havent even thought about AP.. Too much already. I need a cheeseburger NOW> NOW NOW

[Jenn! 918]

As far as JENN and SARAH, I think they are ok.

Um, thanks?

[sarah and hicham 3]

As far as JENN and SARAH, I think they are ok.

Um, thanks?

Uhhh oh, you've been grouped with me!!!! At least we're ok.

I like how everyone in this thread has really dug deep to find their opinion of me and thought that it was a good idea to post it here... interesting.

[mybackpages 0]

As far as JENN and SARAH, I think they are ok.

Um, thanks?

now i havent laughed this hard is a long time.

troublemaker

[sarah and hicham 3]

As far as JENN and SARAH, I think they are ok.

Um, thanks?

now i havent laughed this hard is a long time.

troublemaker

Hahaha me neither since yesterday when that guy thought my SNL quote meant that I was literally carrying two sacks so that I didn't have to help anyone.

[chri'stina 190]

wow just wow

i guess its time for the first "ladies, please its ramadan post" for those of you that remember last years ramadan police.

It just amazes me over and over how Sarah is everyone's little whipping dog. How did she become the bad guy anyway? Am I the only one around here who remembers that it was Sarah who was the most knowledgable abotu Casa, Sarah who chatted with everyone off line. Gave the best advice around here.

I think everyone should go back and read through this thread and see who really blew this out of proportion. The same instigators who love to trash her. Carrying around old grudges ..flaming the fires.

Yes Sarah posted something to doodle, but you know what doodle and Sarah can handle the disagreement jsut fine. They resolved alot of their disagreements and were moving to a place on this board where they could co-exisit. Think doodle responded quite well to Sarah and that is where it shuld have been left.

If everyone would actually try to see the truth here rather than believe the gossipy pms that go around, if everyone would just make a small effort not to take things so personally, jump n the bandwagon, none of this would have happened today.

So what if you and Sarah do not get along...why drag everyone on this board into it. Why carry around your baggage and misunderstandings and look at Sarah as your scaegoat for all that is wrong.

If you on this board knew half of what I know, ..maybe its time i blow the whistle on the whole lot of it...all the backbiting and gossip, the false identies, the fake friends tryingto get info from others to then spread more gossip around.

And Maggie- only you, sarah and I know what happened between us. I think you have forgotten some parts of the story.

It's no secret I read threads here sometimes in MENA, and have commented in them before.

When these issues occur between some ppl, I then read how people don't really know things or know people, and shouldn't jump all over them or single them out. etc.

But if, like me, you don't know everything behind the scenes, and just read what is posted here, it's easy to see why people get irritated at some of the things written by some people. Things can be worded different and come across an entirely different way. Sarah might have meant good, though I don't even know b/c I don't know her well or most of the ppl in MENA, but she could have easily worded things differently in this thread. It didn't look like she only meant well in her first post in the thread, from an outsiders perspective. If someone won't take the time to think about how to word something before pressing the post button, then they will get some kind of natural backlash. Then they are defended, when their words sound pretty rude, because "you just don't know them like I do" or something. True, I don't know them, and so I can only see how they post things, and draw a conclusion from that. I've seen ppl's rude posts be defended by others with that statement many times.

I don't get the gossipy PMs about MENA that you are mentioning, I have seen just what is posted usually. And if someone wants to be thought of a different way, they have to reflect that in their posts out in the open not just behind the scenes.

ETA: I do agree it'd be better for Sarah and Doodle to discuss it themselves, and resolve it, and then doodle could ask ppl not to comment on the issue anymore for reconciliation sake. But we do have to remember when someone is already upset, things not meant to be rude will look even more rude than usual. So both sides can try to realize why the other side feels the way they do.

Edited September 26, 2007 by stina&suj

[deemabrouk 0]

I can't believe some of the comments here that were done in a way that was intended to hurt, but i won't comment on them, cause i see them as malicious and i will simply ignore and not direct any comment to a specific user name because they simply don't matter and certainly don't count, especially in this topic.

Doodle!!! I read about the hair problem, and what a coincidence, this weekkkkk (by the way i've been so, depressed, crying almost every day) that i've noticed my hair comes out in bunches too!! I don't know if it's because i'm stressed out or because i'm fasting, or a combination of both??!! I told my Akram about this and asked him: "will you still love me if my head starts looking like yours? ...We're still together and as strong as ever, so I guess you know his answer to my question

Let's keep our fingers crossed, our faith strong, and unite in prayer that all of us don't have to wait much longer. May God surround us with His blessings especially in these tough times that we're apart from our loved ones, inshaAllah and Ameen.

Hugs,

Ayesha

Is that you NOT commenting? I assume you are referring to me, and my comment were not meant to hurt anyone and were not malicious in any way whatsoever. Thank you though.

Well I am going to weigh in with a different opinion. Yes sometimes the brutality of some of the comments on the boards gets to me but I think I have decided to err in favor of the people that have been here for a while. I cannot possiblly imagine that someone who has their husband already here and that their process went quickly could have any idea of the agony I am going through with a failed first petition and having to start all over 7 months over from scratch. I cannot even do a K3 because my lawyer messed up with the submission of our 129f, not sending it with the check ( and I still do not know where my money order is in all of this) but I cannot cry over things that have already happened. I am severely depressed at the Cr1 times showing up out of CSC. I am sad and frankly not even if someone from visa journeys mena board came over to my house and cleaned it , would I feel any better. I do know one thing. Absolutely no one any where else can relate to this agonizing wait except the women from here so as far as I am concerned, I am not going to do a hell of alot to piss them off. I don't agree with alot of the posters. I have certain very strong dislikes for certain MENA countries ( and should have done more to hide those venement feelings) I am strongly favoring North Africans to be honest with you because of a dismal set of horrific experiences with a man from the Middle East ( if I see molokhia or any food that is REMOTELY stuff he used to eat I gag) Thats just me. I have very strong opinions about all kinds of things that may or not be ascinine ( did I spell that right.. where is Peezy when I need her?) I have stated them and have pissed off several people here... I am sorry I am close minded about certain MENA countries but I have deep seated reasons personally for being like that and I have tried to get over these prejudices but not with much luck ( he and I the mena man from hell have been apart for 4 years and I still have scummy reminders of him every few months, a bill , a problem, a gremlin from his past OH I HATE HIM and I have never hated another human being. I hate his family. His friends and his food.. If I hear any song that we used to listen to I wretch. I HATE HIM.

But as much as I hate him, I adore the man I am with now. When I start talking about this guy and where he is from he fills me full of stories about people from that country that live in Algeria that piss him off too and I do not feel so bad.

As far as JENN and SARAH, I think they are ok.. Sarah you have not really gone after me too badly so I really dont know ( maybe I will try to do something to piss you off so you do) Peezy is just plain smart. Wife of Mahmoud has actually lived overseas which is impressive although I do not share her views I respect her. Doodle bug is spirited. Deemabrouk seems like she is trying to process things. There are many others on here who seem very entertaining, some shy, some more vocal but all interesting in the least. I have some issues but like brussel sprouts , you either love or hate me ( there does not seem to be an in between with me although through my life some who have hated me ended up liking me after they got through being pissed off at me.

My history of my family takes my mother and father through Morocco ( my mother is berber but not Moroccan) and their lives there and all over Europe have left indelible impressions on my heart and soul. I am far too sensitive. Impulsive and crazy sometimes. But I walk with my heart in my hands and that led me to the wilds of Algeria..

I want this to be a place I can come every day and talk because I sure as hell cannot tell anyone else in the real world how bad I am suffering ( immensely) I am grieving the loss of my husband and I do not know if we will survive this long and painful journey. But I would not take one kiss back, one day back.,, I would not take back our arguements, the good things , the bad things,,,, not one memory I made with him. I love and loved him in a fearless way... the fearless and passionate way that "mena" love and live. I have not one time felt jealousy over someone else getting approved with the exception of some of the DCF Algeria filers who did not have to endure ANY OF THIS and cannot possibly know what I am going through waiting 7 months to get married to only have to file again and again. I am angry we could not DCF. I am angry I had to refile, I am angry that the one thing in my life that I want.. the only thing that I want is to be with my husband.. That all other things seem like nothing to me. I want to sleep with him at night. I want to talk to him each day. I want to argue with him. Make up with him.. Live somewhere with him in the good and the bad so badly that I wish I could close the doors of my little house and disappear not caring what happens to the furniture or my car or anything else for that matter. Living alone without him just is not living. So I really give a rat's ### about being jealous of other people or looking for bad things in others because I am too busy trying to get through each day at my job and take care of my children and somehow medicate my self into actually sleeping ( has not been working lately,... I guess sleep all stops being affective after 2 weeks) I am sad damn it. I am sad damn it.. I want to be with him and the toll of the wait has been huge. Will he still love me come December? Will anything be left of us after a year ( new years) and I still do not have an NOA2.. Then the next hurdle is NVC and how ever many months there.. and I havent even thought about AP.. Too much already. I need a cheeseburger NOW> NOW NOW

WOw.. did your fingers cramp after that?

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

I can't believe some of the comments here that were done in a way that was intended to hurt, but i won't comment on them, cause i see them as malicious and i will simply ignore and not direct any comment to a specific user name because they simply don't matter and certainly don't count, especially in this topic.

Doodle!!! I read about the hair problem, and what a coincidence, this weekkkkk (by the way i've been so, depressed, crying almost every day) that i've noticed my hair comes out in bunches too!! I don't know if it's because i'm stressed out or because i'm fasting, or a combination of both??!! I told my Akram about this and asked him: "will you still love me if my head starts looking like yours? ...We're still together and as strong as ever, so I guess you know his answer to my question

Let's keep our fingers crossed, our faith strong, and unite in prayer that all of us don't have to wait much longer. May God surround us with His blessings especially in these tough times that we're apart from our loved ones, inshaAllah and Ameen.

Hugs,

Ayesha

Is that you NOT commenting? I assume you are referring to me, and my comment were not meant to hurt anyone and were not malicious in any way whatsoever. Thank you though.

Well I am going to weigh in with a different opinion. Yes sometimes the brutality of some of the comments on the boards gets to me but I think I have decided to err in favor of the people that have been here for a while. I cannot possiblly imagine that someone who has their husband already here and that their process went quickly could have any idea of the agony I am going through with a failed first petition and having to start all over 7 months over from scratch. I cannot even do a K3 because my lawyer messed up with the submission of our 129f, not sending it with the check ( and I still do not know where my money order is in all of this) but I cannot cry over things that have already happened. I am severely depressed at the Cr1 times showing up out of CSC. I am sad and frankly not even if someone from visa journeys mena board came over to my house and cleaned it , would I feel any better. I do know one thing. Absolutely no one any where else can relate to this agonizing wait except the women from here so as far as I am concerned, I am not going to do a hell of alot to piss them off. I don't agree with alot of the posters. I have certain very strong dislikes for certain MENA countries ( and should have done more to hide those venement feelings) I am strongly favoring North Africans to be honest with you because of a dismal set of horrific experiences with a man from the Middle East ( if I see molokhia or any food that is REMOTELY stuff he used to eat I gag) Thats just me. I have very strong opinions about all kinds of things that may or not be ascinine ( did I spell that right.. where is Peezy when I need her?) I have stated them and have pissed off several people here... I am sorry I am close minded about certain MENA countries but I have deep seated reasons personally for being like that and I have tried to get over these prejudices but not with much luck ( he and I the mena man from hell have been apart for 4 years and I still have scummy reminders of him every few months, a bill , a problem, a gremlin from his past OH I HATE HIM and I have never hated another human being. I hate his family. His friends and his food.. If I hear any song that we used to listen to I wretch. I HATE HIM.

But as much as I hate him, I adore the man I am with now. When I start talking about this guy and where he is from he fills me full of stories about people from that country that live in Algeria that piss him off too and I do not feel so bad.

As far as JENN and SARAH, I think they are ok.. Sarah you have not really gone after me too badly so I really dont know ( maybe I will try to do something to piss you off so you do) Peezy is just plain smart. Wife of Mahmoud has actually lived overseas which is impressive although I do not share her views I respect her. Doodle bug is spirited. Deemabrouk seems like she is trying to process things. There are many others on here who seem very entertaining, some shy, some more vocal but all interesting in the least. I have some issues but like brussel sprouts , you either love or hate me ( there does not seem to be an in between with me although through my life some who have hated me ended up liking me after they got through being pissed off at me.

My history of my family takes my mother and father through Morocco ( my mother is berber but not Moroccan) and their lives there and all over Europe have left indelible impressions on my heart and soul. I am far too sensitive. Impulsive and crazy sometimes. But I walk with my heart in my hands and that led me to the wilds of Algeria..

I want this to be a place I can come every day and talk because I sure as hell cannot tell anyone else in the real world how bad I am suffering ( immensely) I am grieving the loss of my husband and I do not know if we will survive this long and painful journey. But I would not take one kiss back, one day back.,, I would not take back our arguements, the good things , the bad things,,,, not one memory I made with him. I love and loved him in a fearless way... the fearless and passionate way that "mena" love and live. I have not one time felt jealousy over someone else getting approved with the exception of some of the DCF Algeria filers who did not have to endure ANY OF THIS and cannot possibly know what I am going through waiting 7 months to get married to only have to file again and again. I am angry we could not DCF. I am angry I had to refile, I am angry that the one thing in my life that I want.. the only thing that I want is to be with my husband.. That all other things seem like nothing to me. I want to sleep with him at night. I want to talk to him each day. I want to argue with him. Make up with him.. Live somewhere with him in the good and the bad so badly that I wish I could close the doors of my little house and disappear not caring what happens to the furniture or my car or anything else for that matter. Living alone without him just is not living. So I really give a rat's ### about being jealous of other people or looking for bad things in others because I am too busy trying to get through each day at my job and take care of my children and somehow medicate my self into actually sleeping ( has not been working lately,... I guess sleep all stops being affective after 2 weeks) I am sad damn it. I am sad damn it.. I want to be with him and the toll of the wait has been huge. Will he still love me come December? Will anything be left of us after a year ( new years) and I still do not have an NOA2.. Then the next hurdle is NVC and how ever many months there.. and I havent even thought about AP.. Too much already. I need a cheeseburger NOW> NOW NOW

WOw.. did your fingers cramp after that?

Actually NO. Sometimes when I get on a role I just keep typing and typing and typing and I cannot stop. ahhahaah

Well seriously folks, I don't know what has come over me the last couple of days. I have been feeling really like I cannot focus on outside stuff. I just watch the timeline 2 3 4 times a day and feel sad, hoping that a bunch of other people will get approved en masse. Wondering how the hell my friend who has petitioned and given green cards to 2 different men actually applied for an I130 on May 1 and already has an approval out of SCS as of August 20th.. Not fair ..not fair.,, Wondering how my husband and I are going to hold up through this sad lonely process. Other peoples bull&*&** doesnt seem too important to me. I don 't care about catty stuff.. I just want my husband here. I don't know what to do than just trudge through the months.. waiting for this approval or that approval and I don't even have the benefit of the 129f as a side option. I am stuck with this trudging Cr1 and no other way out. I miss him so much and it just seems as if I cannot get a break. I am dying here at this stupid job. I miss him. I just wanna chuck everything out the window and go there.. but where would I work? Who would pay my mortgage here? I dont wanna be here anymore. This is no way to live. But I dont seem to have much of a choice

By the way Jenn and Sarah you are lumped together because you are both married to moroccans and both of you have your husbands here.. Thats why I lump you. Its called the moroccan wives with husbands here and my back pages is in that group except she has that little pig tailed girl in her logos and your two logos have more white in them.

And no I am not lumping you for any other reason .. I just have a hard time keeping track of people so its sarah and jenn. And the reason I commented on people is because there was a lot of negativity flying around.

I personally do not think I will have a mena slumber party because I am not well liked around here but I certainly can hope by the time my husband gets to NVC that I have a few friends anyway

CHEERS

[mybackpages 0]

ummm...it's Bubbles, one of the powerpuff girls

[wael253 0]

QUOTE(mybackpages @ Sep 26 2007, 12:43 PM)

QUOTE(Jenn! @ Sep 26 2007, 02:13 PM)

QUOTE(wahrania @ Sep 26 2007, 03:05 PM)

As far as JENN and SARAH, I think they are ok.

Um, thanks?

now i havent laughed this hard is a long time.

troublemaker

Hahaha me neither since yesterday when that guy thought my SNL quote meant that I was literally carrying two sacks so that I didn't have to help anyone.

you know what !

that's really funny and SAD in the same time how some people like you think of people from other countries ......

since i'm from Egypt that doesn't mean i haven't watch some of SNL (Saturday Night Live).. thanx GOD for the satellite and the open skies .

BUT to me ... when someone is using a ( QUOTE ) somehow it reflex who they are .. as i'm not surprise that yet you couldn't see that as you still not able to see many other things .

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

QUOTE(mybackpages @ Sep 26 2007, 12:43 PM)

QUOTE(Jenn! @ Sep 26 2007, 02:13 PM)

QUOTE(wahrania @ Sep 26 2007, 03:05 PM)

As far as JENN and SARAH, I think they are ok.

Um, thanks?

now i havent laughed this hard is a long time.

troublemaker

Hahaha me neither since yesterday when that guy thought my SNL quote meant that I was literally carrying two sacks so that I didn't have to help anyone.

you know what !

that's really funny and SAD in the same time how some people like you think of people from other countries ......

since i'm from Egypt that doesn't mean i haven't watch some of SNL (Saturday Night Live).. thanx GOD for the satellite and the open skies .

BUT to me ... when someone is using a ( QUOTE ) somehow it reflex who they are .. as i'm not surprise that yet you couldn't see that as you still not able to see many other things .

Well everyone of my Moroccan friends is friendly and a bit BLUNT so maybe she picked up a Moroccan JINN on her last visit. Maybe Aicha Kandisha stays up late and the JINN goes in her underwear drawer and moves all her undies around

A BIGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG JINNNNNNNIYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

kat

[~Jackie~ 30]

About your slumber party, it's ok if it is just you and me in there, I will stay up with you.

Jackie

hey Jenn! your ok

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

About your slumber party, it's ok if it is just you and me in there, I will stay up with you.

Jackie

hey Jenn! your ok

Well Jenn has never elicited any bile from my throat so ok is the word she gets...

And thank you Jackie for agreeing to do a slumber party with you. I'll do your taxes for free. I am really good.

About your slumber party, it's ok if it is just you and me in there, I will stay up with you.

Jackie

hey Jenn! your ok

well the rate CSC is going , I dont know wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen I will ever get an NOA2 so dont worry it wont be anytime soon.

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

About your slumber party, it's ok if it is just you and me in there, I will stay up with you.

Jackie

hey Jenn! your ok

And I want you to have a new honey by then and not be worried about me too much...... If I ever get there ( can you tell I am losing HOPE?)