Should Kids See Their Parents Naked?

[Ban Hammer 13,337]

since i already commented on whether or not my kids see me in the buff, ill comment on the mexico thing.

i was always taught in school that it is central america.

anyway, who cares? its there and its not going anywhere

not true........it's coming to you

[one...two...tree 2,762]

since i already commented on whether or not my kids see me in the buff, ill comment on the mexico thing.

i was always taught in school that it is central america.

anyway, who cares? its there and its not going anywhere

not true........it's coming to you

Mexico in 1846.

[Ban Hammer 13,337]

since i already commented on whether or not my kids see me in the buff, ill comment on the mexico thing.

i was always taught in school that it is central america.

anyway, who cares? its there and its not going anywhere

not true........it's coming to you

Mexico in 1846.

and mexico in 2046.

[Sinergy 3]

since i already commented on whether or not my kids see me in the buff, ill comment on the mexico thing.

i was always taught in school that it is central america.

anyway, who cares? its there and its not going anywhere

not true........it's coming to you

Mexico in 1846.

and mexico in 2046.

[Nessa 23]

I was taught this and I'm sure it hasn't changed since I had geography classes back when I was a kid (which wasn't too long ago )

America (continent) has 2 different divisions:

America Latina (latin america), which includes all countries that speak spanish, portuguese or french and others derived from latin. That would include Mexico, central america and south america. And America Anglo-saxonica (don't know how you call that in english, anglo-saxon america? ) that would be USA and Canada.

And

North America (Canada, USA and Mexico), Central America (Panama, Guatemala, Honduras, Nicaragua, Belize, Costa Rica, El Salvador) and South America (pretty much every country below the Panama Canal, which includes Brazil, Argentina, Paraguay, Colombia, Bolivia, Peru, Venezuela, Chile, etc)

So Mexico is considered a North American country. What people get confused that they think Mexico is not North America is because Mexico is Latin America, that's the separation that makes USA and Canada different from the rest of America.

[almaty 19]

what? i thought this thread was about nudity

Edited September 24, 2007 by almaty

[Geist 0]

Maybe we should post pictures of naked Mexicans/North Americans/Central Americans/South Americans/ America Latinas

[Chinsu 0]

I read the following at this Board:

http://www.health.bloggingbaby.com/2007/09...t-of-your-kids/

I thought it was very interesting point of view that shows the difference of culture in this topic.

"I come from a very conservative society/country. While growing up we observed two levels of modesty. You could say they were daytime and night time modesty. Daytime modesty would apply to both the privacy of the home and out in public. In short we would never be naked, without total privacy (such as the bathroom) during the daytime. This would be a terrible shame.

However, nighttime modesty in the privacy of the home was different. I cannot say exactly when nighttime modesty rules would start but it certainly began when everyone started going to bed for the night and most lights were turned out.

We had no AC and it was hot. My two sisters and I shared one room and we slept naked from the time we were potty trained. My parents also slept most of the time naked. My grandmother only wore a very thin nightgown at night. If we had to go to the toilet or get water we were not expected to dress and then undress when we got back to bed. I went many times to the toilet completely naked without a thought or any shame. I sometime went to the kitchen for water. My sisters and parents were the same. We girls always slept with our bedroom door open so that we could have some breeze. So, anyone passing by the room would see us sleeping without clothes.

As you can imagine, we would sometimes see each other naked at night. This was not really seen as shameful or immodest for us because it was accepted as correct circumstances.

I never really thought about the difference between daytime and nighttime modesty until I was married and had my own children.

We live in the US and everything is very hyper-sexualized here. We always have to talk to our children about sexual issues and things they see on television. In movies, televisions, and magazines naked people are almost always sexual. This is the culture.

I tend to not like AC and I still sleep most of the time naked. I will go to the toilet naked, although it is now off of my room. I will sometimes go to the kitchen or into my kid's room to check on them. I will sometimes go to the laundry in the basement. After bedtime I have never felt it is shameful to do these things undressed.

When my children were small they all wore pj's, so they really did not sleep without clothes. But, I would bath them all together, both the girls and boys. They also sometimes slept with me and my husband. They saw us and each other naked, but under the correct circumstances.

When my oldest daughter reached 13 she one day asked if she still had to wear her pj's. She was hot at night. She was concerned about being naked at night with her younger sister in the room. She worried about not being modest.

At first, I was puzzled by her concerns. I then realized that she did not have the clear distinction of modesty I grew up with. For her being naked was beginning to be confused with being sexual.

I explained to her that being naked under the right conditions was not immodest. It was okay for her to be naked at night in our home. She could sleep that way. She could go to the toilet without shame, she could get water, she could go to the laundry (in the basement) to retrieve her school clothes. None of these things would be shameful because it was at night and it was accepted by us. All of these things should be done without the lights on, only night lights. She could leave the door open of the toilet so as not to turn on the light. If anybody saw her she should not be shamed.

I also explained that it would not be appropriate to walk naked anywhere in the house during the day. She had to be very modest at those times and to keep all doors closed. I know that she was confused by these distinctions at first, but she slowly understood them, mostly on her own.

We later clarified that "day" started when breakfast started. We had to make this clarification because she asked me if she had to dress in the morning right when she woke up in order to use the toilet or shower before school. Of course, she did not have to. But once we sat down for breakfast "day" officially started. "Night" started when the majority of the family had gone to bed and most lights were out. Within these rules the rest was her choice and decision. The younger children had an easier time because of her actions and decisions.

After our initial discussion I really thought about the issue. I never really knew that I followed two types of modesty. I brought the subject up with a friend and she stated that when she was growing up her family followed similar attitudes as mine. She also understood them implicitly. However, her children did not follow the distinction because they associate nakedness with sex. They are very careful about ever being naked. I just assumed everyone knew the rules our way. Clearly her children did not see them the same. I had to explain then to me children.

When I was growing up I never had to ask my parents when "day" and "night" modesty started. I think I just learned from the actions of the family. I saw my older sister get up at 5:00 am, put her hair into braids and then walk to the bathroom -all completely naked - every school day for years. If any of us woke up much after sunrise or after breakfast we never ever would have even thought of doing such a thing. We would immediately dress, then braid, and then go to the bathroom. We just knew that it would not be appropriate to do otherwise. No one told us we just knew.

We had a big party one time. It finished late and I went to bed after 12:00. Around 1:00 I woke up very thirsty from the too salty foods. I got up and went to the kitchen. My mother was there still washing the dishes. I drank my water and then began to help her. I was drying the dishes and putting them up. After about 20 minutes she kissed me on the head and told me to go back to bed. She knew that it was pushing the modesty rules for her nude 15 year old daughter to be doing dishes, even in the middle of the night. As soon as she sent me to bed I went without discussion. I also knew that it was the right thing. I was not ashamed and neither was she. However, I never ever would have even contemplated doing such a thing at 1:00 in the afternoon. If I tried she would have severely beaten me.

I have had discussion with all of my children about the difference between being naked and being sexual. I have also explicitly explained to them why our family has two types of modesty, both equally good. One is definitely more strict than the other. The strictness comes from the time of day and circumstances not the shamefulness of the body. My children also know that closed doors mean privacy is being requested. They do not enter.

Before writing this I spoke with my daughter, now in her 20's. She still follows these modesty rules and she told me that they have been very good for her. She does not associate her naked body as shameful. She only associates the situation or circumstances where she would be naked as shameful or not.

She has also told me that our day/night rules were good for her when she was growing up. She told me that they gave her clear boundaries and surprisingly to me, made her feel very safe in the home.

These ideas may sound very strange to people who grow up in America in a sexualized culture. But for me, I have never associated being naked with only having sex. I think that it is healthy not to be shameful all of the time, and people should not be shameful of their body, only the circumstances of when it is uncovered."

[ya falaha! 0]

I agree. However, I think if the children are as young as BS's children it's not a big deal (not walking around flaunting it though). When my boys were babies/toddlers (until about age 3) I'd change my top or whatever in front of them. Some women breastfeed until their kids are 2-3 yrs old. I mean aren't they gonna see a ####### while their feeding anyways?

I don't think it's appropriate for mothers/sons or fathers/daughters, but for mothers/daughters or fathers/sons I think it's completely natural.

[almaty 19]

Maybe we should post pictures of naked Mexicans/North Americans/Central Americans/South Americans/ America Latinas

you are right thinking

[Ban Hammer 13,337]

Maybe we should post pictures of naked Mexicans/North Americans/Central Americans/South Americans/ America Latinas

you are right thinking

excellent idea. lemme start this party rolling with ana beatriz barros, from brazil (and i'd swear a carbon copy of nessa )

[almaty 19]

oh yes, a fine latina..with excellent assets

Edited September 24, 2007 by almaty

[Ban Hammer 13,337]

oh yes, a fine latina..with excellent assets

yeah but what about ana?

[almaty 19]

oh yes, a fine latina..with excellent assets

yeah but what about ana?

needs a well deserved spanking

[Addie_Goodvibes 0]

what? i thought this thread was about nudity

How did we get from nudity to Geography?

My input Mexico is part of North America

it is NOT part of USA

Ana nice my wife better!

Edited September 24, 2007 by Addie_Goodvibes