If you need a Translator to talk to your SO...

[Fandango 1,440]

Of course in Canada it's not such a "big deal" to be racially mixed

Huh? How is it such a big deal to be a racially mixed couple here? I mean in the sense that people stare at you in public. Does that still happen?

You have obviously not heard of the Deep South. There are lots of mixed race couples but I can pretty much tell you that those couples are looked at...and not always in a good way. Yeah Alex, it still happens here in the good ol' US of A.

Sure it does....but to categorize the whole of the US as being less racially acceptable is a bit of hooey cos there's plenty of places all over the country that don't bat an eyelid at mixed couples. It all depends on where you go, which I would assume is true for everywhere.

[buckeye6976 0]

...how are you planning on communicating whilst living together in the US? I'm not trying to be snarky here, just very curious.

eta: or how have you dealt with it if your so is already here?

"Let me point out that the original question was not about ppl with a moderate language barrier, but one which would require some sort of translator....which TO ME when I wrote it meant a complete lack of a common language.

Which I think is worlds away from either person learning a second lang and not being totally fluent."

Let me go back to my original post. I took your question as being "how do you plan on communicating" as being past the stage of just being able to talk, which if your SO is already here I would think that is a given, (not to get in to the Clinton type definitions between talking and communicating.)

There are many nuances and idioms in the English language that can totally confuse those to which it is not their first language. When this happens then a sentence translator to the foreign language can be an aid in communicating as it tends to put the word in context. If you don't have a common language then I think that a visa could be very difficult to get.

[tmma 467]

It's a valid question, Lisa.

I, myself have often wondered at how couples that do not speak the same language at all find out one another's hopes/dreams/goals/life plans...etc etc etc, to be able to discover if you are compatible in those ways?

How do you talk about expectations and non-tangible topics such as the future-marriage/children or even moving?

How do you navigate not only the immigration system, but the various red-tape laden processes after moving here such as SS/driving licenses/job interviews/health insurance...etc etc etc.

[Here is my qualifier]....It wouldn't work for me. There has to be shared goals with a combination of both verbal and physical for me [coz, even though his English is great and my Dutch is good,I am not a mind reader].

[Alex+R 0]

Of course in Canada it's not such a "big deal" to be racially mixed

Huh? How is it such a big deal to be a racially mixed couple here? I mean in the sense that people stare at you in public. Does that still happen?

You have obviously not heard of the Deep South. There are lots of mixed race couples but I can pretty much tell you that those couples are looked at...and not always in a good way. Yeah Alex, it still happens here in the good ol' US of A.

Sure it does....but to categorize the whole of the US as being less racially acceptable is a bit of hooey cos there's plenty of places all over the country that don't bat an eyelid at mixed couples. It all depends on where you go, which I would assume is true for everywhere.

That was my point. I get annoyed when people act like Canada is a wonderland of tolerance vs. the US. No need to get angry, Karen. Obviously there is intolerance of interracial couples, but you don't see them being actually heckled every day.

[pedroh 21]

It's a valid question, Lisa.

I, myself have often wondered at how couples that do not speak the same language at all find out one another's hopes/dreams/goals/life plans...etc etc etc, to be able to discover if you are compatible in those ways?

How do you talk about expectations and non-tangible topics such as the future-marriage/children or even moving?

How do you navigate not only the immigration system, but the various red-tape laden processes after moving here such as SS/driving licenses/job interviews/health insurance...etc etc etc.

[Here is my qualifier]....It wouldn't work for me. There has to be shared goals with a combination of both verbal and physical for me [coz, even though his English is great and my Dutch is good,I am not a mind reader].

agree.. cuz even if they 'fall in love' with just a few bad spoken phrases, what about the future? how can you communicate those goals, feelings, if u can't at least communicate those ideas in a basic level

[Fandango 1,440]

It's a valid question, Lisa.

I, myself have often wondered at how couples that do not speak the same language at all find out one another's hopes/dreams/goals/life plans...etc etc etc, to be able to discover if you are compatible in those ways?

How do you talk about expectations and non-tangible topics such as the future-marriage/children or even moving?

How do you navigate not only the immigration system, but the various red-tape laden processes after moving here such as SS/driving licenses/job interviews/health insurance...etc etc etc.

[Here is my qualifier]....It wouldn't work for me. There has to be shared goals with a combination of both verbal and physical for me [coz, even though his English is great and my Dutch is good,I am not a mind reader].

agree.. cuz even if they 'fall in love' with just a few bad spoken phrases, what about the future? how can you communicate those goals, feelings, if u can't at least communicate those ideas in a basic level

Agreed with both of you.

I mean really....if you cannot communicate....how on earth can you relate to one another...especially if there's still the physical distance on top of it? Where's the interaction? I mean, maybe my Tivo knows me better...

[Emancipation 2]

Of course in Canada it's not such a "big deal" to be racially mixed

Huh? How is it such a big deal to be a racially mixed couple here? I mean in the sense that people stare at you in public. Does that still happen?

Perhaps I wasn't quite clear enough.. It was in China that my sister in law felt that people were singling them out and making a big deal about him being white and her being Chinese.

Of course in Canada it's not such a "big deal" to be racially mixed

Huh? How is it such a big deal to be a racially mixed couple here? I mean in the sense that people stare at you in public. Does that still happen?

You have obviously not heard of the Deep South. There are lots of mixed race couples but I can pretty much tell you that those couples are looked at...and not always in a good way. Yeah Alex, it still happens here in the good ol' US of A.

Sure it does....but to categorize the whole of the US as being less racially acceptable is a bit of hooey cos there's plenty of places all over the country that don't bat an eyelid at mixed couples. It all depends on where you go, which I would assume is true for everywhere.

That was my point. I get annoyed when people act like Canada is a wonderland of tolerance vs. the US. No need to get angry, Karen. Obviously there is intolerance of interracial couples, but you don't see them being actually heckled every day.

Please see my comments above... I think something got lost in my story, my brother dated her in China not in the US.

Edited October 10, 2007 by Emancipation

[Sheriff Uling 3]

I don't need a translator. My wife speaks peni$ and I happen to know va$ina. So we understand each other perfectly. Hehehehehe!!!

[almaty 19]

I don't need a translator. My wife speaks peni$ and I happen to know va$ina. So we understand each other perfectly. Hehehehehe!!!

[Fandango 1,440]

I don't need a translator. My wife speaks peni$ and I happen to know va$ina. So we understand each other perfectly. Hehehehehe!!!

Aww come on Sheriff, yer better than this kind of response

[Sheriff Uling 3]

LisaD:

I know...

Every now and then I fall off the reservation by doing something completely out of character.

Forgive me...

Sheriff Uling

[Fandango 1,440]

LisaD:

I know...

Every now and then I fall off the reservation by doing something completely out of character.

Forgive me...

Sheriff Uling

But of course, my friend!

[panamania79 2]

that pic gets me every time

Must...look...away...

Can't...

Caro

Come on Caro,el/ella es tan sexy !

...how are you planning on communicating whilst living together in the US? I'm not trying to be snarky here, just very curious.

eta: or how have you dealt with it if your so is already here?

Sign language is cool.

BTW: What does "snarky" mean ?

[Steve'sGirl 0]

Neither one of us could imagine a relationship without communication. Planning your life together involves so many things from simple everyday things such as who is in charge to empty the dishwasher to serious things such as financial planning, family planning, etc. I find it extremely hard to imagine if a couple has to use a translator to communicate. But that's just my opinion.

[Alhamdulillah 0]

I don't know how a relationship would work out if the parties can't communicate at least on a basic level, whether that be in English or in the foreign spouses language or another language both parties speak.