If you need a Translator to talk to your SO...

[Peikko 1,575]

Arranged marriages are common within some cultures and not being able to speak the same language wouldn't be such a barrier for people in this position, at least not at first. Whether they are a good/bad thing is another question.

[almaty 19]

Communication is key for the embassy's approval process

It's key for a lot more than just that.

sometimes brother arijit...silence is bliss and not knowing what one's says is golden...no charge..dr dean

Edited October 9, 2007 by almaty

[Fandango 1,439]

How in the world does one marry another (s)he cannot communicate with?

[pedroh 21]

How in the world does one marry another (s)he cannot communicate with?

"love"?

I dunno, I think it'd be quite difficult..

[Fandango 1,439]

How in the world does one marry another (s)he cannot communicate with?

"love"?

I dunno, I think it'd be quite difficult..

Ok I'll rephrase

well, how can you get to LOVE without communication?

[pedroh 21]

u can get some luvvin'

i don't know about love though

[chri'stina 190]

Arranged marriages are common within some cultures and not being able to speak the same language wouldn't be such a barrier for people in this position, at least not at first. Whether they are a good/bad thing is another question.

Just curious about which cultures?

In India arranged marriages are still common, but the process of choosing the husband/wife by the parents is a process filled with lots of decision making, not only having to share language(I'd assume in every case but maybe there are exceptions), but usually sharing the same community/caste and same way of life.

[payxibka 10,045]

Ok I'll rephrase

well, how can you get to LOVE without communication?

Isn't that why the K-1 visa has a "test drive" provision? (OK I will run and hide now)

[Jenn! 918]

Where does one draw the line that determines what is an acceptable level of communication to be able to fall in love? I mean, the majority of couples here have some sort of language barrier, whether that means using an online translator to communicate, or one partner communicating in pretty basic level English (at least initially), or the USC speaking the foreign language. In all cases there will inevitably be those certain words or concepts that come up that make communication more challenging.

[pedroh 21]

Where does one draw the line that determines what is an acceptable level of communication to be able to fall in love? I mean, the majority of couples here have some sort of language barrier, whether that means using an online translator to communicate, or one partner communicating in pretty basic level English (at least initially), or the USC speaking the foreign language. In all cases there will inevitably be those certain words or concepts that come up that make communication more challenging.

the majority?? mhh, i dunno, that sounds like a good poll question

[Fandango 1,439]

Where does one draw the line that determines what is an acceptable level of communication to be able to fall in love? I mean, the majority of couples here have some sort of language barrier, whether that means using an online translator to communicate, or one partner communicating in pretty basic level English (at least initially), or the USC speaking the foreign language. In all cases there will inevitably be those certain words or concepts that come up that make communication more challenging.

Well I suppose that line is drawn individually.

For me, if I couldn't know my man through stories about his childhood, sharing opinions, etc...it would only be considered lust to me, since I would have no idea about the man that he is.

[chri'stina 190]

I think some language issues will be normal with many couples here. Sujeet is fluent in English but the slang he has to learn. But we are able to communicate.

I think though if people have a complete language barrier, they will have a stressful time trying to communicate. Knowing how to say "I love you baby" is not enough communication for a marriage. But if both are willing to have the patience to communicate in some other way, that could work.

I think it's hard enough communicating how you feel to someone who shares a language with you, and if you don't understand one single word of the other's language, I don't see how it can be good when you need to discuss important things that will come up in marriage. Not finding the right word is one thing, not finding any words is another.

[Jenn! 918]

Where does one draw the line that determines what is an acceptable level of communication to be able to fall in love? I mean, the majority of couples here have some sort of language barrier, whether that means using an online translator to communicate, or one partner communicating in pretty basic level English (at least initially), or the USC speaking the foreign language. In all cases there will inevitably be those certain words or concepts that come up that make communication more challenging.

the majority?? mhh, i dunno, that sounds like a good poll question

You don't think? What I mean by some sort of language barrier would be communication in a language that is not the first language for one or both of the people in the relationship.

[LaL 418]

Awhile back I had a relationship with a man who's english was lacking a lot (a lot a lot). We did not have *ease* of communication that others may have with someone who speak a common language fluently. I did love him though. We just had to try harder, pay attention more. It did not make my feelings nor my relationship any less as a result (which to me, sounds like what this thread is describing).

For clarity - my husband speaks perfect english.

[Fandango 1,439]

Let me point out that the original question was not about ppl with a moderate language barrier, but one which would require some sort of translator....which TO ME when I wrote it meant a complete lack of a common language.

Which I think is worlds away from either person learning a second lang and not being totally fluent.