One of the main reasons why I hate long distance relationship!

[iceyspots 0]

I miss playing strip poker and winning

[Fandango 1,440]

omG, take your pick....the lonliness, the solitude, when I wake up in the morning & reach over and notice he isn't there & for a second I'm all confused as to where he is....then I realize that we're apart again & my heart sinks AGAIN, or the sadder option of now I'm actually getting USED to him not being there to which I no longer reach out for him in the morning cos you've depressed your own brain into conditioning hahahah, the leading separate lives...no matter how 'in each other's pocket' you are, there are things that each forget to share, the times when I have an itch that I can't reach, or when I miss him stroking my hair while we watch tv (omG, I miss this all the time), when I have computer problems and he has to diagnose over the phone instead of just fixing it, or when me and all my 'couple friends' get together (I'm friends with the hubbies as well) and then I realize I'm the gooseberry, when I hear his voice & know that he's like 4k miles away and separated by an ocean that I can't drive through, when I speak to his kids on the fone, when we have to spend holidays and birthdays apart, when you have to buy batteries in bulk, lol hrmm...shall I go on? cos I'm depressing myself!

I'm going to go read Liza's poem again, maybe that will cheer me up!

[luvaLimey 0]

I miss hearing his voice all the time. Sure there are phone calls, but we're both so busy those only occur one or twice a week.

I miss walking next to him, with my hand in his and both of our hands stuffed in his jacket pocket to keep them warm.

I miss his smile, and being able to share our little inside jokes every day.

I miss the way he sings as he's puttering around sometimes just after showering.

I miss the physical stuff too; His kisses, his hands.

I miss his arms around me most of all though.

Even with IMs and webcams and phonecalls and texts... I still feel so far away from him every day.

[Fandango 1,440]

You know what? I'll just come out and say it....D & I are fighting right now & it's tearing me apart. The fight is purely distance-related & it's really stupid, but it's times like this when I hate the separation the most.

Sometimes this sh@t seems so hard, I dunno if we'll get thru it.

[rejane 1]

Well i really did hate it when we were apart...

I really hate not be able to have a realygood night kiss.

Waiting next to him making his coffee before he went to work....

[Jasman0717 9]

[soteshperu 0]

You know what? I'll just come out and say it....D & I are fighting right now & it's tearing me apart. The fight is purely distance-related & it's really stupid, but it's times like this when I hate the separation the most.

Sometimes this sh@t seems so hard, I dunno if we'll get thru it.

My SO and I fought today too...silly little things...we were both not happy...it's totally distance related, and about 5 mnutes into it, he said, "If I were there, we wouldn't be fighting about this." I agreed, and we worked it out.

As much as internet, webcam. voice chat, and the phone make things easier, it's sometimes harder to read the tone of his voice and know if he's upset or just tired or bored by seeing his face. When we are together, these fights don't happen because I can tell what is wrong.

I was so depressed after talking to him today because of the distance. I know he is worth the wait, but I am so tired of waiting!

** I also miss the little touches, kisses, and falling asleep with him at night.**

[meddykomp 0]

The time zone distance. It is so hard for us to match up our schedules and I miss him so much.

[gimygirl 0]

insread of focusing on the negative while apart ..... geoff and i would focus on 'us'.

we had Radmin on both computers ... this enabled us to connect to each other's computer and leave cure little desktop pictures, etc.

for my b-day when we were separated .... he had dl'd and compiled all my fav 80's movies: pretty in pink, st elmo's fire, sixteen candles, weird science, breakfast club, etc ..... transfrered them to my computer and were just waiting there for me!!!!

since he was in england ... he would also wake me in the morning ... he would connect to our computer and play on of our fav songs and i would wake up and connect to ventrilo to chat with him all bleary eyed!!!

those bring back some great memories!!!!

[Fandango 1,440]

Never heard of radmin before! But it's a moot point anyways, since his computer at home has basically died, and he hasn't had time to replace it yet

[lizaanne 0]

The hardest part?

Everything. It's not normal, it's not how people are supposed to BE in a relationship. I thank God for technology, as crappy as it as (though Skype is a blessing I can't begin to put into words).

When things get really hard, and I miss him so much I want to hide in the bed all day, I think of how my grandmother went for three years with only hand written letters, months apart, when my grandfather was in the war, and she was home with a new baby. Then I feel pretty lucky that I have what I have. I can see him everyday on webcam, I can chat with him every day on MSN, I can hear his voice every night before he goes to bed. Tonight we talked for two and a half hours straight!!

It's not great - in fact it sux big time. But it really could be so much worse. I try to focus on this, and not on the bad parts, or I would go totally insane.

Oh - and I totally agree with the whole "taking care of them when they are sick" thing. It hurts me more than anything to know when he is sick and I can't be there to baby him. And he's the type who needs MAJOR babying when he's sick! hehehe

I miss him beyond belief....144 days till he's here. Never soon enough though.

~Liza

[Miranda&James 8]

Besides the normal not liking to be apart, cuddling, kissing, adding more fights, etc, what I hate is that people never get to see me with him. I wonder if some people think he just doesn't exist! No one gets to see how we are together or how close we are and we don't get to go in public like normal couples and I know people think our relationship can't be as "real" or "normal" as theirs since we are apart and while it isn't normal it's certainly just as real! I guess it's extra hard because when I go out with friends they're all with their boyfriends and I'm sadly alone so I always look single when I'm really not! I want him here to show him off!

[Fandango 1,440]

Hey Liza, can you tell me more about skype?

[Fandango 1,440]

actually, Liza, can ya do it here?

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=8871

[TracyTN 237]

Skype is a lifesaver!!! Edited April 10, 2006 by TracyTN