divorce before removing the conditional status

[firstbenjamin 0]

hi to everyone. i am a filipina and i had been here in the US for a year now. and my marriage is failing. my husband told me that he realized he wasnt inlove with me. this ahppened after he met another girl and started helping this girl in her restaurant. thats when everything changed, he doenst show any affection towards me anymore and seemed not to care anymore. he is always away and he is always witht his girl, i dont know if they have a relationship coz he keeps telling me they are just friends. they are seen together on wee hours in the morning and she calls him 12 am 2:30. also this girl is married to an american but she doesnt love him they just had an agreement that she will come here to marry him. they sleep in different rooms basicaly this is illegal. anyway i want to know if anyone can help me with a dvice or anything. i know if we divorce now my green card will be void and its possible ill be deported back to the philippines. we dont have joint accounts nor kids. i know these are the evidence that i can show the immigration that i entered this marriage in good faith and it is not my fault why this is failing. but i have evidence of him emailing other women and chatting with other women behind my back and they are asians too. so basically he is cheating. can i consider these things that he is doing as emotional abuse to me? and also if anyone can advice me on how i can report him to the immigration so he cant get any women outside the US, our divorce will be his 3rd divorce already. and i wanna report this girl also to the immigration. if anyone have some advice regarding this i would greatly appreciate it...thank you

I understand ur situation, and its funny how intend to report everybody to the immigrations. Even the American girl? What are they gonna do with her? Deport her to the US ? In your situation, I think u do have a good case here. If i was in your shoes, I would continue gathering evidences of him cheating like u have been doing. u can do a little bit more by waiting for an opportunity for him to abuse you. If you know he's cheating, just look for a perfect time to get in his business. That's going to make him mad and possibly hit you. Then u can call the cops. Look for two or more opportunities like that and make sure u save the police report numbers for each case. Then u can go ahead and file for a divorce. When its time for your removal pf conditions, all the letter u have as well as your police report are enough to prove that u were a victim of abuse, so u're filing independently. Wait... if u've been here for a year, didn't y'all ever file taxes together..? If u did, then that is a good reason to show ur marriage existed, no one would file taxes with a stranger u know.. U can switch the tables around like that. All the best.

[LaL 418]

hi to everyone. i am a filipina and i had been here in the US for a year now. and my marriage is failing. my husband told me that he realized he wasnt inlove with me. this ahppened after he met another girl and started helping this girl in her restaurant. thats when everything changed, he doenst show any affection towards me anymore and seemed not to care anymore. he is always away and he is always witht his girl, i dont know if they have a relationship coz he keeps telling me they are just friends. they are seen together on wee hours in the morning and she calls him 12 am 2:30. also this girl is married to an american but she doesnt love him they just had an agreement that she will come here to marry him. they sleep in different rooms basicaly this is illegal. anyway i want to know if anyone can help me with a dvice or anything. i know if we divorce now my green card will be void and its possible ill be deported back to the philippines. we dont have joint accounts nor kids. i know these are the evidence that i can show the immigration that i entered this marriage in good faith and it is not my fault why this is failing. but i have evidence of him emailing other women and chatting with other women behind my back and they are asians too. so basically he is cheating. can i consider these things that he is doing as emotional abuse to me? and also if anyone can advice me on how i can report him to the immigration so he cant get any women outside the US, our divorce will be his 3rd divorce already. and i wanna report this girl also to the immigration. if anyone have some advice regarding this i would greatly appreciate it...thank you

I understand ur situation, and its funny how intend to report everybody to the immigrations. Even the American girl? What are they gonna do with her? Deport her to the US ? In your situation, I think u do have a good case here. If i was in your shoes, I would continue gathering evidences of him cheating like u have been doing. u can do a little bit more by waiting for an opportunity for him to abuse you. If you know he's cheating, just look for a perfect time to get in his business. That's going to make him mad and possibly hit you. Then u can call the cops. Look for two or more opportunities like that and make sure u save the police report numbers for each case. Then u can go ahead and file for a divorce. When its time for your removal pf conditions, all the letter u have as well as your police report are enough to prove that u were a victim of abuse, so u're filing independently. Wait... if u've been here for a year, didn't y'all ever file taxes together..? If u did, then that is a good reason to show ur marriage existed, no one would file taxes with a stranger u know.. U can switch the tables around like that. All the best.

I really hope this post is badly worded, but somehow that just does not seem to be the case.

Firstbenjamin - your suggestions here are outrageous (look for opportunities for when he can be abusive??). You may want to rethink your words when you post in the future.

[Killer_Clown_2009 0]

hi to everyone. i am a filipina and i had been here in the US for a year now. and my marriage is failing. my husband told me that he realized he wasnt inlove with me. this ahppened after he met another girl and started helping this girl in her restaurant. thats when everything changed, he doenst show any affection towards me anymore and seemed not to care anymore. he is always away and he is always witht his girl, i dont know if they have a relationship coz he keeps telling me they are just friends. they are seen together on wee hours in the morning and she calls him 12 am 2:30. also this girl is married to an american but she doesnt love him they just had an agreement that she will come here to marry him. they sleep in different rooms basicaly this is illegal. anyway i want to know if anyone can help me with a dvice or anything. i know if we divorce now my green card will be void and its possible ill be deported back to the philippines. we dont have joint accounts nor kids. i know these are the evidence that i can show the immigration that i entered this marriage in good faith and it is not my fault why this is failing. but i have evidence of him emailing other women and chatting with other women behind my back and they are asians too. so basically he is cheating. can i consider these things that he is doing as emotional abuse to me? and also if anyone can advice me on how i can report him to the immigration so he cant get any women outside the US, our divorce will be his 3rd divorce already. and i wanna report this girl also to the immigration. if anyone have some advice regarding this i would greatly appreciate it...thank you

I understand ur situation, and its funny how intend to report everybody to the immigrations. Even the American girl? What are they gonna do with her? Deport her to the US ? In your situation, I think u do have a good case here. If i was in your shoes, I would continue gathering evidences of him cheating like u have been doing. u can do a little bit more by waiting for an opportunity for him to abuse you. If you know he's cheating, just look for a perfect time to get in his business. That's going to make him mad and possibly hit you. Then u can call the cops. Look for two or more opportunities like that and make sure u save the police report numbers for each case. Then u can go ahead and file for a divorce. When its time for your removal pf conditions, all the letter u have as well as your police report are enough to prove that u were a victim of abuse, so u're filing independently. Wait... if u've been here for a year, didn't y'all ever file taxes together..? If u did, then that is a good reason to show ur marriage existed, no one would file taxes with a stranger u know.. U can switch the tables around like that. All the best.

I'm glad I'm not your spouse. Sounds like you have it all planned out.

[StillThePrettiest 3]

firstbenjamin, I don't think I have ever seen worse advice

[JoeMama 0]

I understand ur situation, and its funny how intend to report everybody to the immigrations. Even the American girl? What are they gonna do with her? Deport her to the US ? In your situation, I think u do have a good case here. If i was in your shoes, I would continue gathering evidences of him cheating like u have been doing. u can do a little bit more by waiting for an opportunity for him to abuse you. If you know he's cheating, just look for a perfect time to get in his business. That's going to make him mad and possibly hit you. Then u can call the cops. Look for two or more opportunities like that and make sure u save the police report numbers for each case. Then u can go ahead and file for a divorce. When its time for your removal pf conditions, all the letter u have as well as your police report are enough to prove that u were a victim of abuse, so u're filing independently. Wait... if u've been here for a year, didn't y'all ever file taxes together..? If u did, then that is a good reason to show ur marriage existed, no one would file taxes with a stranger u know.. U can switch the tables around like that. All the best.

When and where did you get a degree on being able to give marital/immigration advice? To, actually suggest someone envoke abuse, is absolutely ignorant to maintain status. You, straight up, suck! I'll be honest, suck it ho!

[Mags 112]

hi to everyone. i am a filipina and i had been here in the US for a year now. and my marriage is failing. my husband told me that he realized he wasnt inlove with me. this ahppened after he met another girl and started helping this girl in her restaurant. thats when everything changed, he doenst show any affection towards me anymore and seemed not to care anymore. he is always away and he is always witht his girl, i dont know if they have a relationship coz he keeps telling me they are just friends. they are seen together on wee hours in the morning and she calls him 12 am 2:30. also this girl is married to an american but she doesnt love him they just had an agreement that she will come here to marry him. they sleep in different rooms basicaly this is illegal. anyway i want to know if anyone can help me with a dvice or anything. i know if we divorce now my green card will be void and its possible ill be deported back to the philippines. we dont have joint accounts nor kids. i know these are the evidence that i can show the immigration that i entered this marriage in good faith and it is not my fault why this is failing. but i have evidence of him emailing other women and chatting with other women behind my back and they are asians too. so basically he is cheating. can i consider these things that he is doing as emotional abuse to me? and also if anyone can advice me on how i can report him to the immigration so he cant get any women outside the US, our divorce will be his 3rd divorce already. and i wanna report this girl also to the immigration. if anyone have some advice regarding this i would greatly appreciate it...thank you

I understand ur situation, and its funny how intend to report everybody to the immigrations. Even the American girl? What are they gonna do with her? Deport her to the US ? In your situation, I think u do have a good case here. If i was in your shoes, I would continue gathering evidences of him cheating like u have been doing. u can do a little bit more by waiting for an opportunity for him to abuse you. If you know he's cheating, just look for a perfect time to get in his business. That's going to make him mad and possibly hit you. Then u can call the cops. Look for two or more opportunities like that and make sure u save the police report numbers for each case. Then u can go ahead and file for a divorce. When its time for your removal pf conditions, all the letter u have as well as your police report are enough to prove that u were a victim of abuse, so u're filing independently. Wait... if u've been here for a year, didn't y'all ever file taxes together..? If u did, then that is a good reason to show ur marriage existed, no one would file taxes with a stranger u know.. U can switch the tables around like that. All the best.

Inciting your partner to hit you is appalling advice, I suggest that further suggestions of this nature be kept to oneself...

[moon1968 0]

First of all do not listen to the advice of people that would even sugest that you wait until your husband hits you......That is crazy and could be very dangerous to you.......If your Husband has come out and told you the he does not love you anymore and is seeing other people then I dont think a divorce will be to much of a problem.......Keep doing what you are doing by gathering up all the evidence you can.......about his cheating......Also if you have any incomming mail that is adressed to you where the two of you live keep it .....Envelope and all this will help establish the fact that you live there together......the more you have the better....any credit card bills in both your names?? what about where live?? Do you rent?? if so get a letter from the person you rent from that can state you live there with your husbnad........Anything and everything at this point that you collect and save will be help to you.......I wish you all the best......Sorry that things did not work out for you ......

[firstbenjamin 0]

I understand ur situation, and its funny how intend to report everybody to the immigrations. Even the American girl? What are they gonna do with her? Deport her to the US ? In your situation, I think u do have a good case here. If i was in your shoes, I would continue gathering evidences of him cheating like u have been doing. u can do a little bit more by waiting for an opportunity for him to abuse you. If you know he's cheating, just look for a perfect time to get in his business. That's going to make him mad and possibly hit you. Then u can call the cops. Look for two or more opportunities like that and make sure u save the police report numbers for each case. Then u can go ahead and file for a divorce. When its time for your removal pf conditions, all the letter u have as well as your police report are enough to prove that u were a victim of abuse, so u're filing independently. Wait... if u've been here for a year, didn't y'all ever file taxes together..? If u did, then that is a good reason to show ur marriage existed, no one would file taxes with a stranger u know.. U can switch the tables around like that. All the best.

I really hope this post is badly worded, but somehow that just does not seem to be the case.

Firstbenjamin - your suggestions here are outrageous (look for opportunities for when he can be abusive??). You may want to rethink your words when you post in the future.

I apologize for my wrong choice of words. What I meant is that she needed to have some proof that she's been victimized as much as she said. If everyone here knows she's gone thru all this she talked about, its still no proof without a police report or somethng. You don't have to solicit for abuse, just keep records of it when it happens. Sorry everyone again for my wrong choice of words

[katand7 0]

I'm sorry to hear of your troubles. I would just like to make the suggestion that there are many agencies out there that help battered and abused women. If you do a google search you should be able to find resources in your area. Just put in the town you live in or the name of the closest city and "domestic violence". They usually have toll free numbers where you can call without cost and talk anonymously if you choose. You will find that they can give you information on help with finding legal help etc. They usually offer free counseling and groups where you can reach out and find others in your situation locally.

I myself was in an abusive relationship with my first marriage. I would not have gotten through that time without the support of a local womens group where I live. They were a wonderful resource and I met many great and wonderful women and learned I was not alone.

Don't wait for the abuse to turn physical. Emotional and verbal abuse does a lot of damage on its own. The cycle of abuse is that it will likely turn physical if you stay around because abusers tend to escalate as time goes on.

Also I wanted to say that you shouldn't really worry about reporting the other woman or revenge of any kind. Don't waste the effort or energy. Use everything you have to take care of you and better yourself and your situation. I know things seem bleak now but they can get better if you decide to be strong and make it so.

I wish you all the best. May God bless you.

Kathleen

Edited September 17, 2007 by katand7

[Aussielad 37]

hi to everyone. i am a filipina and i had been here in the US for a year now. and my marriage is failing. my husband told me that he realized he wasnt inlove with me. this ahppened after he met another girl and started helping this girl in her restaurant. thats when everything changed, he doenst show any affection towards me anymore and seemed not to care anymore. he is always away and he is always witht his girl, i dont know if they have a relationship coz he keeps telling me they are just friends. they are seen together on wee hours in the morning and she calls him 12 am 2:30. also this girl is married to an american but she doesnt love him they just had an agreement that she will come here to marry him. they sleep in different rooms basicaly this is illegal. anyway i want to know if anyone can help me with a dvice or anything. i know if we divorce now my green card will be void and its possible ill be deported back to the philippines. we dont have joint accounts nor kids. i know these are the evidence that i can show the immigration that i entered this marriage in good faith and it is not my fault why this is failing. but i have evidence of him emailing other women and chatting with other women behind my back and they are asians too. so basically he is cheating. can i consider these things that he is doing as emotional abuse to me? and also if anyone can advice me on how i can report him to the immigration so he cant get any women outside the US, our divorce will be his 3rd divorce already. and i wanna report this girl also to the immigration. if anyone have some advice regarding this i would greatly appreciate it...thank you

I understand ur situation, and its funny how intend to report everybody to the immigrations. Even the American girl? What are they gonna do with her? Deport her to the US ? In your situation, I think u do have a good case here. If i was in your shoes, I would continue gathering evidences of him cheating like u have been doing. u can do a little bit more by waiting for an opportunity for him to abuse you. If you know he's cheating, just look for a perfect time to get in his business. That's going to make him mad and possibly hit you. Then u can call the cops. Look for two or more opportunities like that and make sure u save the police report numbers for each case. Then u can go ahead and file for a divorce. When its time for your removal pf conditions, all the letter u have as well as your police report are enough to prove that u were a victim of abuse, so u're filing independently. Wait... if u've been here for a year, didn't y'all ever file taxes together..? If u did, then that is a good reason to show ur marriage existed, no one would file taxes with a stranger u know.. U can switch the tables around like that. All the best.

your a wanka firstbenjamin.....i remember you from a few years back when you had the little philipino lady friend of yours who got here, then ran off on you a few days later and then you hung out with her at disneyland. lets not dig up your skeletons now shall we???......some people you just never forget.

[Mags 112]

your a wanka firstbenjamin.....i remember you from a few years back when you had the little philipino lady friend of yours who got here, then ran off on you a few days later and then you hung out with her at disneyland. lets not dig up your skeletons now shall we???......some people you just never forget.

That's enough of that, thank you very much. Any more personal insults such of this nature will result in a topic lock.