Married or Maiden Name: Last Name Debate for the Modern Woman

[no name 1]

A name is nothing more than a way of identifying you. Being insecure based solely on your name is funny as he!!.

Sorry, who are you implying is insecure over their name?

[Nancy2015 2]

I took hubster's last name. No one here can pronounce mine My maiden name never struck me as a long one, but it turned out to be long for native English speakers.

A name is nothing more than a way of identifying you. Being insecure based solely on your name is funny as he!!.

It may be, but when your name means something like "gay" and "#######" combined in one word, and all the kids at school pick on you, then there's a chance you may become insecure. I was born with a last name like that. I changed it through court when I was 16, and my life changed dramatically after that. For the better.

Now I have another last name again, and I'm liking it

[KaiserD 12]

I never really think of the name change being a "feminist" issue anyways if your last name is the same as your father

Aye! I don't talk to my father's family any more, and was more than willing to change my name to increase that distance. I would have kept it if it had been a Cornish surname though.

I can tell now that there would have been some grumbles from his family if I hadn't changed it, I can see it now "what's wrong with our name?" ...bleh

[C and J 1]

My mother-in-law was incredibly surprised when I took my husbands last name. I honestly don't understand why, it was a complete non-issue to me to lose my surname and, after all, she took my father-in-laws surname when she married him.

I liked the thought of sharing a surname with my husband Gave us a united identity. My soon-to-be sister-in-law will not be taking my brother-in-laws surname though, she will be keeping her surname officially and using his name "socially". The choice is hers but, she is still in college and as far as I know has no professional reputation around her maiden name. I would be really interested to know her reasoning behind that but daren't ask

[M4rinus 1]

We will both take each others name.

Mine will come first for the sake of tradition

but I will add her name behind mine and she will put my name in front of hers

So we will be

Mark Schot Bakke

Amy Schot Bakke

What we'll do with kids when if and once we have those, we havent talked about yet.

[~Nini~ 2]

In Chinese culture it's rather unusual for the wife to take her husband's name - however, my mother and my dad's sister both took their husbands' respective last name when they got married.

My mother has never raised any objection about what name I should take after marriage - after all, she took my dad's last name and then went back to her maiden name after their divorce - but my future sister-in-law asked me which name I would take after marriage. His name is a common Jewish one, while mine is derived from my ethnicity.

The more I've thought about it, the more I like the idea of just adding my fiance's name to my own (no hyphens!) because I want to share the same name that he does. For me, my maiden name is part of my cultural identity, which I don't want to abandon (or be accused of giving up). I don't see it as an insecure or feminist idea to keep it. I find that by taking a husband's surname is indicative of truly joining the family and I know that Bee's family will be pleased that I did it, but I know they'll be equally pleased that I'm keeping my own.

Edited August 31, 2007 by Nini & Bee

[Ta Ta 1]

I can't wait to have my fiance's name.

[Teacher 0]

I was adopted and have already had one name change in my life. This situation is something that I am thinking about. Adopted children struggle with identity and I've been through this already. It was painful.

My fiance is very supportive and he is fine with whatever I chose. I may just add his last name to mine or use mine financially and for work related reasons and use his in social situations. Not sure yet. It is expensive to change all your documents. Plus I don't know if my students could pronounce his last name!

I've noticed that Hispanic women keep their last names most of the time.

[trueimage 0]

I can't wait to have my fiance's name.

YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Teacher 0]

I know a girl who's last name is Blose. She can't wait to change it.

[Kiv 32]

I took my husband's name, I liked the Idea since he asked me:

Do you want to be Mrs. W? and give me this pretty ring that I am using since.

I don't really mind.

[dora2X 0]

I gladly changed my last name to my husband name and then keep my maiden name as my middle name. in this country where i grew up! ussually happen that the maiden name automatically be middle name. and when they have kids the children middle name will be the mother's maiden name.