"I Love Female Orgasm"

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Book Review

Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller are sex educators and Brown graduates who have pretty much dedicated the last few years of their lives to educating people about the complex and wonderful female orgasm.

What I really like about the book is that it is incredibly inclusive—no heterosexism here, no assumptions that their readers are sexually-active or experienced, no intimidation factor. Instead reading I Love Female Orgasm is like having a little sex therapy session with the least judgmental guru on the planet.

To be fair, some of it will seem basic to the “I already have my tool box of sex toys and I know how to use them” set, but for the rest of us, I think I Love Female Orgasm is filled with really important tips about some of the more elusive kinds of orgasms—multiple, during intercourse, and that old unicorn in the sky, female ejaculation.

By the by, 70% of women, despite Hollywood’s portrayal, don’t come from intercourse alone. I find this fascinating—why is it that the image-makers (screenwriters, directors etc.) continue to promulgate the myth that every woman has orgasmic intercourse? Women are made to feel “broken” and men are made to feel inadequate. Who’s benefiting from this continued misinformation?

I also think the book has exciting potential to be a much-needed resource for men. Sometimes heterosexual or bisexual women get tired of articulating exactly what gets them off. Hell, sometimes they don’t even know. This book allows men a window into some of the lesser know possibilities. And let’s face it, dudes definitely need some sex ed beyond fake-### porn, the embarrassed dad sex talk, and the locker room.

http://feministing.com/archives/007650.html

[mawilson 2,133]

Who have you been talking to, Steven?

Repeat after me: there's no such thing as female orgasm.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Who have you been talking to, Steven?

Repeat after me: there's no such thing as female orgasm.

I saw one once. I was looking up in the night sky and it zipped across my view. I even made a wish.

[Jaseball 0]

It's my opinion that for both men and women what get's them off is more about timing, speed, the right sensations, which is much easier for the person 'driving the car,' - picking the position, controlling the speed, hitting the right spots, etc.

Also, after a few times with someone you have a pretty good grasp what areas they are extra sensitive in, what really turns them on, etc.

I think the most critical sex advice is for long time couples, married folks, etc. Being creative, romantic, spontaneous, or surprising them in different areas or trying out new things is very hard to do, but critical in maintaining the spark in the relationship.

The only real concern I had with female orgasm is making sure my girl wasn't faking, was adventurous, and truly enjoyed the experiences. Heck, if your partner is faking or really doesn't enjoy sex, that is a big problem and turn off.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

It's my opinion that for both men and women what get's them off is more about timing, speed, the right sensations, which is much easier for the person 'driving the car,' - picking the position, controlling the speed, hitting the right spots, etc.

Also, after a few times with someone you have a pretty good grasp what areas they are extra sensitive in, what really turns them on, etc.

I think the most critical sex advice is for long time couples, married folks, etc. Being creative, romantic, spontaneous, or surprising them in different areas or trying out new things is very hard to do, but critical in maintaining the spark in the relationship.

The only real concern I had with female orgasm is making sure my girl wasn't faking, was adventurous, and truly enjoyed the experiences. Heck, if your partner is faking or really doesn't enjoy sex, that is a big problem and turn off.

David, you do realize that just because a woman derives great pleasure from intercourse doesn't mean she'll reach the point of climax? Most women never reach orgasm through intercourse, so either there's a lot of women who are sexually frustrated or they've found other ways to reach orgasm.

[no name 1]

Who have you been talking to, Steven?

Repeat after me: there's no such thing as female orgasm.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

It's my opinion that for both men and women what get's them off is more about timing, speed, the right sensations, which is much easier for the person 'driving the car,' - picking the position, controlling the speed, hitting the right spots, etc.

Also, after a few times with someone you have a pretty good grasp what areas they are extra sensitive in, what really turns them on, etc.

I think the most critical sex advice is for long time couples, married folks, etc. Being creative, romantic, spontaneous, or surprising them in different areas or trying out new things is very hard to do, but critical in maintaining the spark in the relationship.

The only real concern I had with female orgasm is making sure my girl wasn't faking, was adventurous, and truly enjoyed the experiences. Heck, if your partner is faking or really doesn't enjoy sex, that is a big problem and turn off.

Being an explorer has its perks Going where no man as gone before

[rebeccajo 14]

Who have you been talking to, Steven?

Repeat after me: there's no such thing as female orgasm.

Uh. Really.

David, you do realize that just because a woman derives great pleasure from intercourse doesn't mean she'll reach the point of climax? Most women never reach orgasm through intercourse, so either there's a lot of women who are sexually frustrated or they've found other ways to reach orgasm.

LOLOLOL..........................

I love it when men talk about something they don't know squat about........

[Marilyn. 340]

what i find funny is that a lot of men consider sex to mean just doing the deed, when there is so much more to sex...

[AnaAndDaniel 0]

what i find funny is that a lot of men consider sex to mean just doing the deed, when there is so much more to sex...

oh realllly?

Daniel

:energetic:

[almaty 19]

It's my opinion that for both men and women what get's them off is more about timing, speed, the right sensations, which is much easier for the person 'driving the car,' - picking the position, controlling the speed, hitting the right spots, etc.

Also, after a few times with someone you have a pretty good grasp what areas they are extra sensitive in, what really turns them on, etc.

I think the most critical sex advice is for long time couples, married folks, etc. Being creative, romantic, spontaneous, or surprising them in different areas or trying out new things is very hard to do, but critical in maintaining the spark in the relationship.

The only real concern I had with female orgasm is making sure my girl wasn't faking, was adventurous, and truly enjoyed the experiences. Heck, if your partner is faking or really doesn't enjoy sex, that is a big problem and turn off.

Being an explorer has its perks Going where no man as gone before

hmmm...sounds allot like the tagline for ####### honeymoon

[Marilyn. 340]

Who have you been talking to, Steven?

Repeat after me: there's no such thing as female orgasm.

Uh. Really.

David, you do realize that just because a woman derives great pleasure from intercourse doesn't mean she'll reach the point of climax? Most women never reach orgasm through intercourse, so either there's a lot of women who are sexually frustrated or they've found other ways to reach orgasm.

LOLOLOL..........................

I love it when men talk about something they don't know squat about........

but isn't it true... aren't there some women who can't achieve or haven't yet achieved orgasm through intercourse?...

[mawilson 2,133]

I love it when men talk about something they don't know squat about........

Ooh yeah, because there's so much to know about sex.

[Marilyn. 340]

what i find funny is that a lot of men consider sex to mean just doing the deed, when there is so much more to sex...

oh realllly?

Daniel

:energetic:

you have to start a woman up.... you can't just put her in 1st and except her to drive....

lol.. not sure if that analogy works

[no name 1]

David, you do realize that just because a woman derives great pleasure from intercourse doesn't mean she'll reach the point of climax? Most women never reach orgasm through intercourse, so either there's a lot of women who are sexually frustrated or they've found other ways to reach orgasm.

but isn't it true... aren't there some women who can't achieve or haven't yet achieved orgasm through intercourse?...

Big difference between Steven's 'most' and your 'some'.........