My wife cheated on me - with a woman!

[rebeccajo 14]

Why the heck do you need our opinion or permission?

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with the sandwich concept. But she shoulda discussed it with you FIRST.

So........if this is real, well......your call any old way, any how you look at it.

Doesn't matter what we think.

[charlie_brown 0]

Why the heck do you need our opinion or permission?

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with the sandwich concept. But she shoulda discussed it with you FIRST.

So........if this is real, well......your call any old way, any how you look at it.

Doesn't matter what we think.

I was just looking for some input. I dont have anyone to ask in person.

Of course, I have had fantasies about this (doesnt every guy?), but i never thought i would actually do it. She's a good woman, really. It's just this one different thing. Don't you have friends that you love even though they have one little "quirk"?

[no name 1]

There's a swinger poll for you somewhere...

[rebeccajo 14]

Is Charles around?

[almaty 19]

There's a swinger poll for you somewhere...

excellent advice sister dev

[no name 1]

Is Charles around?

Charles = Charlie

[*julez* 124]

Why the heck do you need our opinion or permission?

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with the sandwich concept. But she shoulda discussed it with you FIRST.

Becca - you naughty minx!

So........if this is real, well......your call any old way, any how you look at it.

Doesn't matter what we think.

I was just looking for some input. I dont have anyone to ask in person.

Of course, I have had fantasies about this (doesnt every guy?), but i never thought i would actually do it. She's a good woman, really. It's just this one different thing. Don't you have friends that you love even though they have one little "quirk"?

Truthfully, I don't think any of us give a rat's a$$ about your wife's "quirk". And although you have fantasized about the menage a trois, it seems like the reality of having as a legitimate option is freaking you out.

Sure I can love someone, quirks and all. But if my guy were getting it on with another guy "just for the sex" I'd have a MAJOR problem with that. Are you comfortable knowing that while you're off working your socks off, your wife is at home having casual sex with her best friend? Even if when you get home you can join the party?

Maybe you should have some marriage counseling, or individual couseling to help you deal with your feelings about this "quirkiness".

[Laynie 0]

Dear Penthouse Letters,

You will not believe what happened to me as I hardly believe it myself....

She's not like that really, she doesn't even like nudity in movies. She grew up with the best friend and they were always really close, like sisters. Funny thing is, they both seem very conservative. They both want to have kids and have traditional lives. It's just this one little thing. She said if I agreed to go along with it and join them, nobody would ever know.

But now we all know! So much for privacy and the sanctity of marriage and all that bollocks.

Well thats exactly why i asked the question here! Its anonymous. I cant really talk to anyone in person about this. Its too embarassing. People will just think she did that because I am not enough for her (isnt that the standard joke?). In reality this has been going on for a while. Honestly, in bed with me she seems totally normal, so I cant figure it out.

If ya want us to say ya go ahead it's ok then ya we will go for it!

BUT If ya want us to say R U CRAZY then ok we will your CRAZY!!

Enough said!!!!!!

[rouguewave 7]

Dear Penthouse Letters,

You will not believe what happened to me as I hardly believe it myself....

She's not like that really, she doesn't even like nudity in movies. She grew up with the best friend and they were always really close, like sisters. Funny thing is, they both seem very conservative. They both want to have kids and have traditional lives. It's just this one little thing. She said if I agreed to go along with it and join them, nobody would ever know.

Actually, I can identify with this. I used to like nudity in the movies, but then I changed. I'd go to the movies all the time and really used to enjoy myself. But then people used to get angry at me, yelling and screaming, and telling me: "That's disgusting. Put on your God Damn clothes!!!!!" I had to stop because it was quite embarassing.

[eau_xplain 2]

Actually, I can identify with this. I used to like nudity in the movies, but then I changed. I'd go to the movies all the time and really used to enjoy myself. But then people used to get angry at me, yelling and screaming, and telling me: "That's disgusting. Put on your God Damn clothes!!!!!" I had to stop because it was quite embarassing.

:lol:

[eau_xplain 2]

I figured some people would not believe it (I didnt at first either). I mean, should I divorce her over this? She's a great woman, kind and generous, and very attractive. She's just a bit of a free-thinker in this one area. She said this started in her college days, with her best friend who was also her roommate at college. They were really lonely and, well things just happened. The best friend has a boyfriend too, but he doesn't know about it. Oh, and the best friend is really atractive too.

She said I can take my time to decide. I cant believe I'm saying this, but I'm actually considering it.

It's interesting how she and her best friend end up living in the same city/state.

Maybe she didn't marry you for the green card but for the chance to be near her best friend?

[almaty 19]

hmm... good point...she got a taste of honey and do anything for that sweet spot

[charlie_brown 0]

I figured some people would not believe it (I didnt at first either). I mean, should I divorce her over this? She's a great woman, kind and generous, and very attractive. She's just a bit of a free-thinker in this one area. She said this started in her college days, with her best friend who was also her roommate at college. They were really lonely and, well things just happened. The best friend has a boyfriend too, but he doesn't know about it. Oh, and the best friend is really atractive too.

She said I can take my time to decide. I cant believe I'm saying this, but I'm actually considering it.

It's interesting how she and her best friend end up living in the same city/state.

Maybe she didn't marry you for the green card but for the chance to be near her best friend?

No, that other (foreign) woman was a long time ago. Actually things didn't work out with her I married someone else already living here in the US (a USC). I just came back here to post this question because I remembered the diverse attitudes and opinions here. I also remember the skepticism and ridicule, but I decided to risk it because I am looking for input to see if I am making the right decision.

I told my wife I didn't think I could do it, but she said I should just give it a try. She said, "just try it for a while, what do you have to lose?". I have to admit, I have been with several women in my lifetime (but only one at a time!) and I guess I'm OK in bed, but I don't know what to do with 2 of them at the same time. I mean, I only have one #### if you know what I mean. I'm very conservative too and I'm not about to start watching porno to see how it's done!

[thetreble 19]

this is all very hilarious.

[almaty 19]

charile brown..you chopf##k.... i mean, blockhead......you sound to me like you are hung like a hamster..can time you sexual activites with your spouse with a 3 minute egg timer.