Homesickness and AOS

[WillyKid 0]

Hello all! I think the realism of my marriage has set-in on my wife. We recently married and she is terribly homesick! We have not even filed any of the AOS paperwork! And, I do not think she can wait for the AP documentation to be processed. So, my question is this -- if she voluntarily leaves the country, violating the terms of her K-1 Visa, can she re-enter via the K-3 process if that time in our lives comes? Or, would her leaving kill any chances of re-entry? Thanks.

[payxibka 10,045]

She can leave anytime she wants and you can re-apply for another visa if and when the time comes if that is what you end up deciding to do.

[*JG* 2]

She can leave anytime she wants and you can re-apply for another visa if and when the time comes if that is what you end up deciding to do.

The homesickness does lessen with time and acclimation.

[Mrs.J06 4]

When did she arrive?

Any chance that she can hang in there a little longer until at least AP has been approved? Mine took a little less than two months. Can't she give it a try until then? You could file AOS quickly now and with a little luck she could be home for Christmas.

Refiling for K1 orK3 would take quite a while, I would suspect, not to talk about the lost money....

[payxibka 10,045]

Refiling for K1 orK3 would take quite a while, I would suspect, not to talk about the lost money....

K-1 is no longer an option due to marriage.....

[Mrs.J06 4]

Refiling for K1 orK3 would take quite a while, I would suspect, not to talk about the lost money....

K-1 is no longer an option due to marriage.....

Ooops, me bad, sorry (foot-in-mouth-disease)!

[Cécy 44]

According to your timeline, she hasn't been here very long.

You should take the time to talk, but also you as the USC should take her around and get her to enjoy where you live so she will feel better. Have her meet friends, ask girls you know to spend time with her. It hasn't even been a month yet after all.

What is it that she misses from her home country?

Try to work on the issues with her.

If she really needs to go back now, do so and then file for a K3, but talk also about the fact that you are going to be separated again and see if that's worth getting rid of a surge of homesickness.

[misa 2]

If she leaves without AP, you'll need to file either a K3 or CR-1 for her to come back to live. Hopefully you can work it all out though and she can wait for AP.

[*JG* 2]

Less then a month is just not enough time to even settle into your lives together. I really think you guys need to sit down and talk. Jumping ship now just proves there are bigger problems out there.

I know if my husband had proposed this after such a short period of time, I would've said "see ya!" Too much time and money is invested in this whole process to just throw it all away without an effort. And, I would not even consider refiling under some other visa........the time, the efforts, the $$$$, not to mention the emotional tolls.

[Jasman0717 9]

Hopefully she will give it a bit more time. Have you tried getting her involved in something locally, like church activities or volunteer work? That might help if she met some new friends. Good luck

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

I know what your wife is going through, cause my husband has the same thing. He misses his home & country so bad. Yes I said country also. He has gotten used to the life here, the benefits, the ease of life, all the good stuff. But he still misses his friends, he says a lot of the people here are closed in themselves, don't talk freely, and are a bit fake. No one here has free time like they did in his home country.

I say work on the issue with your wife NOW. File AOS, and if need be, you can get an emergency AP at an infopass appt (warning, you better have a real good reason there, not just missing home, otherwise you'll have to wait around 3 months for AP.)

I try to get all the stuff my husband had in his country, for him to have here: movies, papers, ease of communications with family/friends over there. But its still super hard. Comfort here and try to do it one day at a time. I say file everything and plan to go back with her to Ukraine for Christmas. Since there will be a concrete date, she'll have something to look forward to and will be able to get by.

Don't let your fiance sit alone at home, try to get her out with people & girls. Girls doing girl stuff will maybe help get her mind off missing home so much, and more accustomed to her new home with you.

[WillyKid 0]

Well, I guess my wife was more confused that I could have imagined when we married a few weeks back. She just told me that she wants to go home to be with someone else. That she went through the wedding with me because she really didn't know what to do. But now she knows what she wants -- and it's not me. What to do, what to do ?????

[jezz85 0]

I'm so sorry WillyKid

[TracyTN 237]

Well, I guess my wife was more confused that I could have imagined when we married a few weeks back. She just told me that she wants to go home to be with someone else. That she went through the wedding with me because she really didn't know what to do. But now she knows what she wants -- and it's not me. What to do, what to do ?????

I wouldn't stay with someone who didn't want to be with me.

My 'what to do' would be get her the next flight out of town and find myself a divorce lawyer.

[Mrs.J06 4]

Well, I guess my wife was more confused that I could have imagined when we married a few weeks back. She just told me that she wants to go home to be with someone else. That she went through the wedding with me because she really didn't know what to do. But now she knows what she wants -- and it's not me. What to do, what to do ?????

Well, that's different then. Sorry to hear that WillyKid.

Good thing you didn't file AOS yet.

In that case I would agree with TracyTN's advise