Anonymous Posts

[Nessa 23]

There's another way to remain private, I do this a lot: You start a post typing everything that's on your mind that you know will pi$$ off a bunch of people and then you don't hit add reply, just close the window.

[Fandango 1,439]

Zactly! ...not.

If we know that an anonymous poster is in fact a regular member, it makes it easier to know what advice or response we give and how we say it. For example, if a regular member, under a fake account posts about how he thinks his wife might be cheating on him, we could be more direct in finding out how he's come to that conclusion. Right now, it appears that we're only allowed to show them pity and support. As it was pointed out in a thread yesterday, there are two sides to every story, and the best advice anyone can give a poster in a situation like that is for them see it from another perspective.

I've really been thinking about this, and I know I've already posted...but honestly...I have two issues

1) I can't believe you tailor support depending on to whom you give it to.

2) How do you propose you give 'more concise support' to a 'regular member' by 'being more direct in finding out things'......when THEY'D BE ANONYMOUS?

See the hole there?

[Fandango 1,439]

OK folks, I've had an epiphany whilst smoking just now....

Steven....is this thread a by-product of the 'fiancee disappeared' and 'troll' threads? Is there summat you wanna talk about without being barraged by the usual 'you're a troll' bs that normally is thrown around when there's a problem thread?

I think the solution is not to 'validate' members with problems as being 'ok' because 'hey (s)he is a longstanding member'. Rather, it's for everyone here not to jump to conclusions when summat strange is being discussed...no matter WHO the OP is. New members do have problems too...and all these hoops you wanna put in front of people in order to let an older member not go through the motions of starting a new acct and losing those nifty lil hearts and boxes is not the way to go.

I do feel that many people here like to dismiss bs away because it hits too close to home. Please, no one run to Calcutta with that statement. You see it all the time in some regional forums...when one person has issues, the others with the same demographic (USC/country X) start internalizing and worrying about their own relationships.

Also, let's all face it...none of us are really in 'conventional' relationships. IRL, I'm the only person I know who's ever petitioned for a foreign fiance. I'll bet many of the USC's family and friends were like '#######?' when first presented with the idea. So we all have VJ and that makes us feel a sense of camaraderie because there's so many in the same boat. So when one of us has problems, maybe it causes a ripple effect of worry. So it's really a defense mechanism to say 'oh that's a bullsh!t troll there'.

So instead of all these new options and reformatting how posts are made, perhaps we can all just cut some of these second-acct posters a little slack. And if anyone thinks the story is bullsh!t, then just move on. No one's holding a gun to anyone's head...so no one here has to 'help' someone (s)he doesn't wanna....

Wow, what was in that tab?!?!?!?!

[Sinergy 3]

OK folks, I've had an epiphany whilst smoking just now....

Steven....is this thread a by-product of the 'fiancee disappeared' and 'troll' threads? Is there summat you wanna talk about without being barraged by the usual 'you're a troll' bs that normally is thrown around when there's a problem thread?

I think the solution is not to 'validate' members with problems as being 'ok' because 'hey (s)he is a longstanding member'. Rather, it's for everyone here not to jump to conclusions when summat strange is being discussed...no matter WHO the OP is. New members do have problems too...and all these hoops you wanna put in front of people in order to let an older member not go through the motions of starting a new acct and losing those nifty lil hearts and boxes is not the way to go.

I do feel that many people here like to dismiss bs away because it hits too close to home. Please, no one run to Calcutta with that statement. You see it all the time in some regional forums...when one person has issues, the others with the same demographic (USC/country X) start internalizing and worrying about their own relationships.

Also, let's all face it...none of us are really in 'conventional' relationships. IRL, I'm the only person I know who's ever petitioned for a foreign fiance. I'll bet many of the USC's family and friends were like '#######?' when first presented with the idea. So we all have VJ and that makes us feel a sense of camaraderie because there's so many in the same boat. So when one of us has problems, maybe it causes a ripple effect of worry. So it's really a defense mechanism to say 'oh that's a bullsh!t troll there'.

So instead of all these new options and reformatting how posts are made, perhaps we can all just cut some of these second-acct posters a little slack. And if anyone thinks the story is bullsh!t, then just move on. No one's holding a gun to anyone's head...so no one here has to 'help' someone (s)he doesn't wanna....

Wow, what was in that tab?!?!?!?!

forget the tab, what were you smoking?

[Dr_LHA 3]

[ANON]I hate all the moderators[/ANON]

[one...two...tree 2,762]

If there's one thing for certain, had I been able to post this thread anonymously, LisaD wouldn't be all over it like a termite on wood.

[LaL 418]

[ANON]I hate all the moderators[/ANON]

[Dr_LHA 3]

[ANON]I hate all the moderators[/ANON]

Dammit, I thought that was valid BBCode!

[tmma 467]

If there's one thing for certain, had I been able to post this thread anonymously, LisaD wouldn't be all over it like a termite on wood.

Nope-just called a troll....you know how it goes.

[no name 1]

If there's one thing for certain, had I been able to post this thread anonymously, LisaD wouldn't be all over it like a termite on wood.

Nope-just called a troll....you know how it goes.

[Fandango 1,439]

If there's one thing for certain, had I been able to post this thread anonymously, LisaD wouldn't be all over it like a termite on wood.

Stevo, if you think I'm drawn to you like a termite to wood....you really do need to start an anon thread about self-delusion.

It's about content with me...not determined by 'who is the OP and are they valid'

[~*Maria*~ 1]

[ANON]I hate all the moderators[/ANON]

foresees a slap on the wrist in your future

[Sheriff Uling 3]

Here's an anonymous post... YOU SUCK!!!

[Mags 112]

[ANON]I hate all the moderators[/ANON]

foresees a slap on the wrist in your future

Nah, he's only messing.

Aren't ya, Dr LHA?

[~*Maria*~ 1]

Here's an anonymous post... YOU SUCK!!!

:lol:

[ANON]I hate all the moderators[/ANON]

foresees a slap on the wrist in your future

Nah, he's only messing.

Aren't ya, Dr LHA?

I know he is Mags

I'm just messing with him