Fiance Disapeared !!

[Logres 0]

Pretty sure his friends gave him the standard stereotype horror story warnings about foreigners doing whatever it takes to come to the US. The stories about people who come over to kill their future spouse, marry for a green card/naturalization and divorce them, get pregnant by their lover back home and come to the US and say the kid is the USC's, etc., etc.

The OP already stated his friends didn't know this girl, but unfortunately he is in one of those nightmare situations where the fiancee had ulterior motives for coming here and used the USC for a visa for whatever reason.

I'm not sure those are 'standard' stories exactly......... my friends were all very suppotive of me moving because I gave them the chance to meet my future-wife.

If the friends didn't meet the girl, then maybe the advice should be that in the future friends do get to meet their intended.........

I see you are UK and USa match. Your SO coming from a 1st world country is much differnt than one coming from a less developed and wealthy country. I am quite sure that if she was from Japan or the UK no warnings from friends would have been issued. I am sure that fraud steming from other 1st world countries is rather low. i have done some traveling, middle east, europe, brasil. I have seen some messed up stuff. Until you travel to a less fortunate country, you don't realize how good we have it.

I am the SO and am from the UK. My now wife has significantly more money than me, so I think that her friends would have been equally justified in questioning my intentions.

[Logres 0]

Hardly taking offense. There are a lot of 'she's' and 'hers' in the first post and that's what was confusing me. I think it's a little much to think that I just don't want to believe that bad things can happen. And it seemed at points that it was more about wanting people to ask about salacious details than immigration advice. Which made me think 'bored person telling a story' rather than 'fiancee just disappeared,' because in a lot of the real cases people don't want to give any details, let alone speculate publicly on their fiancee's proclivities.

I apologize since that seems not to be the case.

A couple immigration-related bits: Your fiancee is NOT illegal in the U.S. at the moment. It's day 12 or 13 of a 90 day visa, and there's no requirement that the fiance and fiancee stay in the same location together during that time. She may not INTEND to marry you and thus maintain her legal status, but right now she's as legal as I am. Even if you called ICE with her location today, they're not going to be able to deport her. And like meow mix said, ICE probably won't do anything anyway. They're underfunded, and they concentrate on the violent and criminal offenders. That's why the fiance process is so complicated; they know that once someone's here, it's very hard to get them out.

Second thing, you may want to call the cops. They won't deport her and they don't have jurisdiction in that other state. If she is in another state. You seem to be getting the run around from her family and they might not even know. But look, if your fiancee has used you for entrance into the country, one thing USCIS might wonder is whether you were in on it. They will probably never follow up on it, but it's in your interest, even if you think the cops can't do anything, to have a paper trail that looks like you were honestly taken by surprise when she disappeared. Plus, that's what you do when someone you love disappears while you're at work.

DITTO to everything from Caladan!

[Lona.C. 16]

If this was happening to me I would be reporting her missing with the police....

Hope it works out for you...

Kez

Someone suggested this. Another posted the police would do nothing. I tend to believe they would do nothing. And besides, I don't even know what state she is in. I know for sure she is not in my state.

Well lets just prey that nothing has happened to her.... I can see the police saying to you... "So your partner disappears, you have no idea where she is, or if she is ok and yet you did not feel it was appropriate to report her missing" All I know is that if my husband disappeared and I did not know where he was and had had no contact with him for 24hrs I would be reporting him missing....

But I guess you know best...

Kez

I agrea even if the police cant do nothing at least they will have it on file that you did take action and I would also start to copy any letter or e mail you send and keep it in your own record for future evidence , so you can prove you didnt just sit there doin nothing , ( I would even print this thread )

when you file and they cant do nothing for 90 days , what if she contacts you after 70 or 80 days knowing her visa will expire and she will get deported if she doesnt aply the rules ,

what if she trys to say baby am sorry and gives you a tra la la about how much she missd you and loves you and still want to marry you ,

if thats the case you have prove of no contact since she disapeard I do hope nothing bad happend to her , but if her intentions where to come to the states and become a citizen without the mutual feeling of a long term partnership to you ,

am sorry to say but I say report her the sooner the better , because thats one of a reasons why the waiting list for interview for people like me (and so many others) with real intentions of being together with the man I love is so long ,( I know some might say what does that have to do with our cases ? well the uscis has to work on every case and if its a like this and its ahead of us , it puts us back a file ) Not to the fault of the U.S.C , but alone to the benefitionary

if her intentions was to decieve you from the start thats abuse right there i am sorry to hear about your case wish you the best , Lona

[maya62 7]

The OP has been given the options currently available. "Cancelling the K1 visa." is not one of them. Her visa has been used, so is of no use now. Her I-94 is good for 90 days. If she doesn't marry him during those 90 days, her I-94 expires and she begins an overstay status. He has no control over any of this. His last control point would have been before the visa was in her passport and hand. Once in her hand, she could have flown here and never seen him, had she chosen to do so. (Perhaps because he bought the ticket and knew her itinerary.)

For another 80 days, he has no recourse with any immigration authority. Then he can notify USCIS that the marriage did not occur and any other information he has.

It's a regrettable circumstance made even worse because there IS no recourse at this time and little if any later.

Jon, I have read this whole thread, I feel for you, I don't think you're a troll, and although the temptation might be to act sooner rather than later to avenge your situation, I think the wise thing to do here is to wait before acting. There is that 5%. I can't imagine what her story might be, but it is conceivable that this can be explained...

And as pushbrk points out, correctly I believe, she is not illegal until the 90 days are up, so contacting ICE right now serves no purpose.

I wish you well. You do seem like a sincere guy.

Maya

[Caladan 19]

Hardly taking offense. There are a lot of 'she's' and 'hers' in the first post and that's what was confusing me. I think it's a little much to think that I just don't want to believe that bad things can happen. And it seemed at points that it was more about wanting people to ask about salacious details than immigration advice. Which made me think 'bored person telling a story' rather than 'fiancee just disappeared,' because in a lot of the real cases people don't want to give any details, let alone speculate publicly on their fiancee's proclivities.

I apologize since that seems not to be the case.

A couple immigration-related bits: Your fiancee is NOT illegal in the U.S. at the moment. It's day 12 or 13 of a 90 day visa, and there's no requirement that the fiance and fiancee stay in the same location together during that time. She may not INTEND to marry you and thus maintain her legal status, but right now she's as legal as I am. Even if you called ICE with her location today, they're not going to be able to deport her. And like meow mix said, ICE probably won't do anything anyway. They're underfunded, and they concentrate on the violent and criminal offenders. That's why the fiance process is so complicated; they know that once someone's here, it's very hard to get them out.

Second thing, you may want to call the cops. They won't deport her and they don't have jurisdiction in that other state. If she is in another state. You seem to be getting the run around from her family and they might not even know. But look, if your fiancee has used you for entrance into the country, one thing USCIS might wonder is whether you were in on it. They will probably never follow up on it, but it's in your interest, even if you think the cops can't do anything, to have a paper trail that looks like you were honestly taken by surprise when she disappeared. Plus, that's what you do when someone you love disappears while you're at work.

DITTO to everything from Caladan!

Except that I meant 90 day I-94. Potato, potahto.

[Logres 0]

Except that I meant 90 day I-94. Potato, potahto.

DITTO to that too......

[Kiv 32]

If this was happening to me I would be reporting her missing with the police....

Hope it works out for you...

Kez

Someone suggested this. Another posted the police would do nothing. I tend to believe they would do nothing. And besides, I don't even know what state she is in. I know for sure she is not in my state.

I agree with reporting it to the police, if you do not know where she is that includes not knowing the state.

Maybe they have easier ways to find out if she used an airplane or another type of transportation.

When I came here, I did not know anybody else but my husband. My Family in Mexico considered him 100 % responsible for me and if I just had dissapeared Inmigration would be his smaller preocupation.

I am sure he would do anything to be sure I was fine.

just my opinion...

I have friends in the police department here. Even with them being friends, i doubt they could do anything. finding one person out of 250 million is slim to nil. I also wish to know that she is fine and healthy. You can't deport a sick person. Just joking. As far as family. It seems her family is part of the deception.

I wish you luck in all the decisions that you take, and hope that both of you get over this in the best way.

[Sinergy 3]

I dont understand tho, why use YOU when she couldve just used the other guy

[maya62 7]

I dont understand tho, why use YOU when she couldve just used the other guy

Imagine she met the "other" guy at the same time she got packet 3 from the Consulate, for example. She could get to the US in a few weeks through the OP, or start all over with someone else. And suppose the "other guy" is not offering marriage and/or is already married and/or is in the US but not in a position to sponsor anyone (ie, illegal himself)?

Lots of possible scenarios here, including a bunch that don't involve another guy at all...

[Sinergy 3]

oki doki, having a morning moment

[GabachaYucateca 0]

The reason that popped into my head as to why she'd use him: the other guy is Brazilian and a PR! But of course this is just specualtion, and really doesn't matter.

Best of luck, Jon, and I feel for you.

[Caladan 19]

I dont understand tho, why use YOU when she couldve just used the other guy

Imagine she met the "other" guy at the same time she got packet 3 from the Consulate, for example. She could get to the US in a few weeks through the OP, or start all over with someone else. And suppose the "other guy" is not offering marriage and/or is already married and/or is in the US but not in a position to sponsor anyone (ie, illegal himself)?

Lots of possible scenarios here, including a bunch that don't involve another guy at all...

Yeah, while I can understand the OP is probably going nuts imagining tons of scenarios, I'm thinking that having a friend in Arizona to stay with and a desire to get to the U.S. is probably sufficient without imagining another boyfriend into existence.

[MKCT 0]

I dont understand tho, why use YOU when she couldve just used the other guy

Imagine she met the "other" guy at the same time she got packet 3 from the Consulate, for example. She could get to the US in a few weeks through the OP, or start all over with someone else. And suppose the "other guy" is not offering marriage and/or is already married and/or is in the US but not in a position to sponsor anyone (ie, illegal himself)?

Lots of possible scenarios here, including a bunch that don't involve another guy at all...

She met another guys at the same time she got packet 3? How? Online? For a short period of time and then decided to leave her SO for someone who barely knows?????

Like Jon said, she didn't know much about this whole process, so if there's the possibility of another "guy" (illegal), she doesn't know what she got herself into.

I agree with Maya, lots of possible scenarios here, including a bunch that don't involve another guy at all...

--Mirla.

[rebeccajo 14]

You should be telling your tale to the missing persons department of your police department, and not to us.

Handy, that internet, isn't it? Instant journal.

[WifeOHunkyJohn 2]

You should be telling your tale to the missing persons department of your police department, and not to us.

Handy, that internet, isn't it? Instant journal.

ouch!