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[kusjes1229 0]

Hiya,

I posted on here a while back saying that my ex bf and I were going to be filing a k1 visa. Well, he just broke my heart today and told me he is not coming over here no matter what so I guess I no longer belong on these boards. Anyhow, wishing everyone on here good luck and it was nice chatting with you albeit briefly!

[Mags 112]

If you want your profile deleted you need to contact Captain Ewok with your request. He will also, more than likely, see this thread aswell.

Sorry to hear about you and your fiance. Best wishes for the future.

[knuffels 0]

Dear all,

I am writing this letter because I am desperate and I want to reach out to other people who may have been through the same for help and advice.

I am considered the "culprit" in this history and I want to explain why. Firstly the situation is very complicated. My fianceee and I met in June 2005 and the moment I saw her I felt that that was it, the searching for my one and true love was over and I had finally met my soulmate. I will never forget the moment I first looked into her eyes,all I felt was love and I am convinced she is the best thing that could have ever happened to me.

If only things had been less complicated, by now we should have been husband and wife and on the beginning of our life's adventure together. Things however, were complicated. First of all we have been on different shores now since April. My fiancee couldn't hack life in Glasgow, Scotland anymore and left for America, also I totally understood this because her mom has a medical problem and she wanted to be there for her in this difficult time. Secondly, I have a son, a 4,5 year old boy whom I love very much and this puts me in a bit of a heart-breaking dilemma conflict situation. I mean, it seems as if all the odds are against us. I was feeling very unhappy in Scotland as well due to a lack of friends and a -to say the least- strained relationship with my ex whom my son lives with. Whatever my fiancee really thinks I can assure you I have no intention of ever getting back with this woman again as she has done a good job of destroying my life. I guess I am doing a good job at that too now and I feel as if I have blown my one and only chance at happiness.

Yes, I plead guilty, I do find it hard to leave my boy behind, I would much rather have him with us in America, but it doesn't work that way and he will grow up in Scotland with his mother. Last July I came to visit my true love in NY and brought most of the stuff over she left behind and we had a great time, happy to be together albeit not long and treasuring those moments we could spend together, dreaming of better days to come and we were using the short time we had to plan our K1 petition. I was stupid and promised her all sorts of stuff : I am going to leave Scotland and go back toBelgium where my mom and dad and sister still live and we will do the visa application from there. Pure stupidity if you ask me know : as if there wasn't enough pressure on our relationship with being seperated and all and the visa application is a bit daunting as well. I then didn't move to Belgium as I didn't feel ready to leave my boy behind just yet. he is just starting primary one and I want to be a part in teaching him how to read, write,count etc.

This is not all, there are many more factors that seem to work against us, it's enough to make you paranoid. But I know one thing : I still love her and I am in a lot of pain right now. I feel as if a part has been ripped out of me and it's the part that really matters, the part that can love and sing and dance and smile and all the other things in life that are the best and are free.

I want her back and I want to never let her go... I begged her, please don't leave me, maybe we can live in Belgium or do this or that... It's enough to drive anyone crazy, your head is all over the place.

I wish she could see I am no liar, I am just going through very difficult decisions.

Also she doesn't want to live in NY anymore and only stayed there bc I thought it would be a good place for us to get settled in married life and build up some savings and then move to the countryside with a house with a porch and a dog and a white picket fence, you know that dream. Wwll, I still have that dream and I want you to know, Kusjes1229, that I would follow you wherever you want to live on that distant shore.

In fact I would do anything for you and the whole world can know it because I will shout it of the rooftops : I love you with all my heart and I just wish this nightmare could be over.

It is not fair that people who are meant to be together eventually get seperated under the burden of being made to live so far away from another for such a long time, only because of national boundaries. Too many things can go wrong and there should be alaw against this.

Have any other people been through this sort of scenario, any other beneficiaries who have kids and want to be a good father/mother at the same time as being a significant other. I would love to hear from you and how you got through this.

Can anyone help us?

I still have hope in my heart... And my hope is that eventually with God's help we will be married because I feel confident that once I'm over there and we will finally be together forever then everything will be ok. Sure, I will miss my boy, and sure my ex will do everything in her power to make our life sour by e.g. pretending my son just got ill the moment he was supposed to come visit us in America, but I feel confident love can conquer all this.

Knuffels

PS I am sorry if I left some things out, I wrote this down as good as I could as I am really hurting at the moment and I hope it's painted a fairly complete picture. Any input would be welcome.