Marrying an Older woman as a younger man

[Been_Looking 0]

I have a case of 24M and 54 F (US citizen). We have been living together for the past 5 months, and have been together for 4 months before that. We love each other, and her family and kids also know about me! I have been thinking of getting married to her so we can move into a bigger house and plan our future together! The only thing that’s holding me back is our age difference and cultural norms (South Asian), which will scrutinise us a lot more. I know cases with Age gaps get approved if there's an age difference between an older man and a younger woman, whereas the latter doesn't go through. 

 

She has stated multiple times that she loves me, and I do as well. We are on the same lease, gym membership, and Amazon accounts 

She makes enough to qualify for the financial requirement, but I also can’t provide affidavits from my side because my friends and family are not on par with this.

 

Currently, I am in the United States with an F-1 visa, and I have graduated, but I am nearing my unemployment period because of this bad market! (This isn't the reason for marriage, but I am stating it.) I am hoping if we do get the I-485 receipt, I can take that to colleges that accept it, and can continue on my F-1 visa, thus I am not out of status, as some colleges accept the I-485 receipt. 

 

We haven't filed anything yet. I am in such a mess, I have no idea what to do!

Edited Sunday at 11:30 PM by Been_Looking
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[Been_Looking 0]

I am not sure if I posted on the correct thread, please guide me where else to post it. 

[JeanneAdil 6,872]

Does the USC older female want to marry you?

 

she should join the forum and correspond as those of us who have gone thru the age difference can answer her queries

 

if you returned to India and petition either K1 or CR1,  you face denials as family does not approve and she is past child bearing age 

[Been_Looking 0]

Hi!

 

Thanks for responding back, and surprisingly, I was just looking at several profiles and stumbled upon yours. We did discuss marriage at the very beginning of our relationship, and she did agree, but we didn't talk about it after that. 

 

The other thing is that my family doesn't reside in India, we live in the Middle East, so I am not sure if this helps our case??? I wouldn't be returning back to India, but rather to the Middle East. 

[JeanneAdil 6,872]

8 minutes ago, Been_Looking said:

Hi!

 

Thanks for responding back, and surprisingly, I was just looking at several profiles and stumbled upon yours. We did discuss marriage at the very beginning of our relationship, and she did agree, but we didn't talk about it after that. 

 

The other thing is that my family doesn't reside in India, we live in the Middle East, so I am not sure if this helps our case??? I wouldn't be returning back to India, but rather to the Middle East. 

Same in any Middle East country ,past child bearing age, bene's family (and friends ) do not approve 

your profile says India so, you would still follow same issues any Indian faces -no matter where you would interview outside the US 

Our personal battle took over 5 years K1 in 2009 -denied finally visa issued in 2015

and my wife spent 10 months with me and my family in 5 trips 

we have since then, adopted here in USA

 

Also check what this administration is doing about student visas as this is scary

 

Good list of red flags for marriage are below

https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/red-flags-that-make-uscis-suspect-marriage-fraud.html

 

My wife says need to talk to her as its not cheap, fast, or easy and she says 'really not cheap "

Bring her to VJ

[Been_Looking 0]

Yes, she is well past her childbearing age, and my family and friends do not approve! I haven't even told my family because that's how scared I am. I do have Indian citizenship, so yes, I will face scrutiny! I am sorry your battle took so long! I hate it when Older men just get away with it! USCIS needs to increase their security! Did your family ever come around (husband's family). I will ask my partner if she wants to make an account here, and will update you guys accordingly. 

 

Just to be sure, is your account managed by both of you? Cause I'd like to know who I am talking to, lol. 

[Lil bear 4,418]

1 hour ago, Been_Looking said:

I have a case of 24M and 54 F (US citizen). We have been living together for the past 5 months, and have been together for 4 months before that. We love each other, and her family and kids also know about me! I have been thinking of getting married to her so we can move into a bigger house and plan our future together! The only thing that’s holding me back is our age difference and cultural norms (South Asian), which will scrutinise us a lot more. I know cases with Age gaps get approved if there's an age difference between an older man and a younger woman, whereas the latter doesn't go through. 

 

She has stated multiple times that she loves me, and I do as well. We are on the same lease, gym membership, and Amazon accounts 

She makes enough to qualify for the financial requirement, but I also can’t provide affidavits from my side because my friends and family are not on par with this.

 

Currently, I am in the United States with an F-1 visa, and I have graduated, but I am nearing my unemployment period because of this bad market! (This isn't the reason for marriage, but I am stating it.) I am hoping if we do get the I-485 receipt, I can take that to colleges that accept it, and can continue on my F-1 visa, thus I am not out of status, as some colleges accept the I-485 receipt. 

 

We haven't filed anything yet. I am in such a mess, I have no idea what to do!

Your situation will raise significant questions   Very strong documentation and extensive knowledge of each other will be required to satisfy the officer that this is a genuine relationship and but primarily for immigrant purposes. Not too day off can’t be successful but it will be challenging. Good luck 

[Lil bear 4,418]

Moved to Adjustment of Status from student visa as this represents the OPs current situation 

Edited yesterday at 01:16 AM by Lil bear

[Boiler 46,796]

It is approvals but will not be easy, one of those cases where I would recommend a component lawyer

[JeanneAdil 6,872]

1 hour ago, Been_Looking said:

Yes, she is well past her childbearing age, and my family and friends do not approve! I haven't even told my family because that's how scared I am. I do have Indian citizenship, so yes, I will face scrutiny! I am sorry your battle took so long! I hate it when Older men just get away with it! USCIS needs to increase their security! Did your family ever come around (husband's family). I will ask my partner if she wants to make an account here, and will update you guys accordingly. 

 

Just to be sure, is your account managed by both of you? Cause I'd like to know who I am talking to, lol. 

yep, both of us respond here /Adil likes to advise when its the bene/ that's why he talked till he went to bed as he goes early to work

his family i met long before we married as i volunteered my work experience in Morocco and worked with his aunt and she introduced us

i lived with them in Morocco and most were at celebration of marriage /MIL is here with us now

 

its late here now so i leave also 

good luck to you and blesses for your future

 

[Been_Looking 0]

6 hours ago, Boiler said:

It is approvals but will not be easy, one of those cases where I would recommend a component lawyer

We don't want a lawyer, as it can be very expensive, and most of the work is going to be paperwork. I do understand you're trying to say we need to have a lawyer to guide us better, but I have read many cases of lawyers not taking the case seriously and misfiling paperwork

[carmel34 3,688]

9 hours ago, Been_Looking said:

We did discuss marriage at the very beginning of our relationship, and she did agree, but we didn't talk about it after that. 

This is the biggest red flag of all.

[smilingstone 306]

3 hours ago, Been_Looking said:

We don't want a lawyer, as it can be very expensive, and most of the work is going to be paperwork. I do understand you're trying to say we need to have a lawyer to guide us better, but I have read many cases of lawyers not taking the case seriously and misfiling paperwork

 

You don't need a lawyer to help you fill out the paperwork. You need an immigration professional to help you pitch your request in the best possible way, because on the face of it, what you describe sounds like one of the most typical cases of marriage fraud. Your visa is coming to an end and you are pushing forward with marriage after a 9 month relationship with an older USC. 

 

Not saying that this is the case, but if that's how it comes across here, then there's high risk of it seeming that way to USCIS. Your case is unlikely DIY'able. 

[Boiler 46,796]

3 hours ago, Been_Looking said:

We don't want a lawyer, as it can be very expensive, and most of the work is going to be paperwork. I do understand you're trying to say we need to have a lawyer to guide us better, but I have read many cases of lawyers not taking the case seriously and misfiling paperwork

 

I said competent lawyer, last week Hacking had a case on his show of a big age difference and was talking about the biggest difference his firm had handled, yours is more.

[Crazy Cat 43,421]

13 hours ago, Been_Looking said:

I have a case of 24M and 54 F (US citizen)

Be ready to explain exactly what a 24 yo and a 54 yo have in common.  Be ready to explain how you cope with the cultural differences.  Step 1 is to get married.

Edited yesterday at 01:01 PM by Crazy Cat