Red flag proving relationship with my wife -- parent's don't know yet...

[mustafammdoh 1]

Just now, Boiler said:

Of course not, she can always move to you, Immigration is a two way street. The important issue is that you will be together.

We really try to do this , We have great time really when we are together . I offered her to live with me in egypt but she didnt like the idea . Her family , daughter and job are the reason .

[Crazy Cat 43,354]

Just now, mustafammdoh said:

it was 2 weeks ago 

the next one would be next year . When she has the taxes return and is able to bear the plane ticket . 

the interview date is not determined yet but I am considering a transfer to KSA which can make it at the best in next july . 

I am considering sending money after I gathered a good sum . 

 

Good.  The best evidence you can provide is evidence of time actually spent together.  A four year marriage with little time together, along with an age gap can be cured by a lot of time together.

[Boiler 46,770]

Have you met the daughter?

[mustafammdoh 1]

4 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Have you met the daughter?

not physically but we talked on chat and videocalls 

[Boiler 46,770]

How old is the daughter?

[Shaz1 65]

It would be better that she bring her daughter in next visit. So she can get to know you as a father figure.  She can even write a letter for you to the CO.  

[Boiler 46,770]

His parents do not know they have a grandchild

[S2N 84]

28 minutes ago, Boiler said:

His parents do not know they have a grandchild

My read is they don’t have a grandchild, it’s an older daughter from a previous marriage.

 

OP — if your wife has decent credit I would suggest to her she might want to open a travel credit card with a signup bonus to make traveling to see you sooner cheaper/free.

[Boiler 46,770]

Ok Step Grandchild

[wxman22 112]

Since you met, how much total time have you been together, in days or weeks?

Why is she not on this forum?

[mymarriagejourney 115]

The biggest problem is your parents not knowing, honestly.  I am in an age-gap marriage (I am 21 years older than my husband) and my husband is from your same region.  We did an adjustment of status because he was here in the US on a student visa, but prior to him coming to the US, I had met him in Jordan while doing internships in his country.  I had met his parents multiple times during those visits, even though I wasn't presented to them as a girlfriend (because I wasn't yet, honestly).  But, we had photos of me at dinner in his home and from his undergraduate college graduation where his parents and I were present.  During our interview, which was a Stokes style interview where they made us interview separately, they did ask me if I had met his parents.  And, I was able to say yes, many, many times and show that with pictures.  The interview ended after that.  We received a text message of approval that evening.  We've been married for almost 13 years now.  I'm the favorite daugher-in-law.  

 

And, for the record, his parents are also VERY traditional and once our relationship turned from friendship to romantic, my now-husband hid the relationship from them.  We got married (here in the US) without them knowing about it and against my advice to him.  They found out a couple months later because a cousin saw our wedding photos on Facebook (in fact, the same photo you see here on Visa Journey).  His dad called him the night before our green card interview, actually, and said, "Why didn't you tell us? We love her!"  So, it was more than a year of him hiding our relationship and later our marriage for a couple of months for no reason at all.

[pushbrk 13,366]

13 hours ago, mustafammdoh said:

thats true the family is so regressive they wont just reject her but rather hurt her . I told her this before the marriage she accepted and said she just wanted me . At this time , we never cared about gathering evidence , we focused on our relation , which I think no one cares about , as everyone wannas the tangible evidence . it is all about exchanging money to show how super doper the relation is . 

Her sending money to you is not a plus.  My advice is not to mention it.

[pushbrk 13,366]

13 hours ago, mustafammdoh said:

So we should all live stereotypical lives to appeal the culture norms . No care for diversity nor distinction . 

It's not all or nothing.  I mentioned four separate red flags.  The cultural norms are part of the totality of circumstances that will be evaluated.  Best to stop trying to explain, and simply arrange to spend enough time together that the time will overcome the red flags. Of course you have excuses.  Everybody does.  Just get it done.