Is one time visit enough

[JeanneAdil 6,749]

2 hours ago, Crazy Cat said:

Your US spouse needs to come and join this conversation.

this is vital as it will be up to her to submit proof of a real relationship and a bona fida marriage (which it doesn't appear to be the case)

 

she is the one who has not traveled frequently to spend time with u which can not be explained by the comment "can not get time off work"

we have vacation time every year -the norm is 2 weeks off 

 

Too many red flags 

1. vast age difference

2. cultural differences

3. How about education differences and social backgrounds?

3. religions of both?

4. Secret wedding/ keeping this from either family?

5. Woman is past the age to bear children /which is expected in Nigeria

6. Marriage soon after you met

 

The ones in bold we already know about 

[SalishSea 18,313]

6 hours ago, Byndimge00 said:

She’a 50. I’m 36

Even less of a chance than no chance.

 

how about if she comes to Nigeria to live with you for a few years first, so that you can establish a bonafide marriage?

 

 

[dwheels76 5,484]

Okay let me chime in and clue you in on Lagos and what probably will happen because this has been happening alot. Your case will go to the fraud department and you and your spouse will wait and be scheduled at some point for a Stokes interview. They will call her and you both will be ask same questions and they need to match.
It is now 2024 it's going on 4 years. No way in America does anyone not get time off. 4 years no Sr. You are trying to demonstrate to the embassy you are in a bonafide marriage. You have a age gap which really isn't that bad. Me and my husband s is much bigger. But marrying first visit and never going back is a Big read flag.
I have even in the last 2 years see the CO tell the petitioner if you want your spouse to get a Visa you need to fly here and see them. They aren't playing.

[Lemonslice 5,043]

Forget about immigration, and think about it... who would not try to see the love of their life for four years?  Long distance relationships mean some time apart, and some sacrifice (time, money, etc.) - but, visiting each other is part of the deal. 

 

Would you be able to help pay for her tickets to visit you?  Has she looked into taking an extended leave from work to visit you for a few months? Have you tried to meet her in one of the Caribbean countries where you can travel without a visa? 

What efforts have you done to be together?

 

 

[Byndimge00 8]

10 hours ago, JeanneAdil said:

this is vital as it will be up to her to submit proof of a real relationship and a bona fida marriage (which it doesn't appear to be the case)

 

she is the one who has not traveled frequently to spend time with u which can not be explained by the comment "can not get time off work"

we have vacation time every year -the norm is 2 weeks off 

 

Too many red flags 

1. vast age difference

2. cultural differences

3. How about education differences and social backgrounds?

3. religions of both?

4. Secret wedding/ keeping this from either family?

5. Woman is past the age to bear children /which is expected in Nigeria

6. Marriage soon after you met

 

The ones in bold we already know about 

Oh well when I get there I’ll let you all be aware of the miraculous God of celestial

[TBoneTX 46,541]

1 minute ago, Byndimge00 said:

Oh well when I get there I’ll let you all be aware of the miraculous God of celestial

God is completely powerless in the face of the consulates, especially Lagos.

[TBoneTX 46,541]

Thread is moved from the Bringing Family of USCs forum to the CR-1 Process forum.

[TBoneTX 46,541]

6 minutes ago, Byndimge00 said:

Oh well when I get there I’ll let you all be aware of the miraculous God of celestial

You asked; people are telling you what needs to be overcome.  Prayer will have zero impact in your circumstances.  And you need to answer the remaining questions from JeanneAdil.

[Edward and Jaycel 993]

12 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

You asked; people are telling you what needs to be overcome.  Prayer will have zero impact in your circumstances.  And you need to answer the remaining questions from JeanneAdil.

And remember that “God helps those that help themselves”… You and your spouse need to start taking an active role in this process and help yourselves. Lots of good advice has been given by the knowledgeable members here. You’d do well to listen

[pushbrk 13,288]

I'll just chime in and say there is no point in your wife even filing the petition until she can come spend some significant time with you there in Nigeria.  It's useless to even count all the red flags.  Nobody can see through them anyway.

 

People do what is important to them.  They find a way.  That she hasn't even found a way to start the process in four years, is really all that matters.

[JeanneAdil 6,749]

Has your USC wife filed the petition for spouse?

If not , why?

If she has not applied,  she needs to visit (at least once a year during her vacation time like she did when she came to marry)

if she was free to take time from work to meet u,  she can do the same now to strengthen your relationship 

 

If she cares to learn what she needs to do, please have her come online here in VJ

Advice here in VJ is honest to let all know the hardships of being apart and what needs to be done for immigration 

 

My wife got me here by making several trips to Moroc and spending time with me and family

it took us 6 years to get my visa 

[JeanneAdil 6,749]

12 hours ago, Byndimge00 said:

Oh well when I get there I’ll let you all be aware of the miraculous God of celestial

you are not taking all that we say seriously

my wife applied in 2009 for K1 for me

we were denied and she came to Moroc and we married and she applied in 2010 for spouse visa

we were denied again and she made 3 more trips (10 months total) before we were approved in 2015 

she also added me to tax returns as we were married and a lot of other things to prove our relationship was real

 

We, here,  are all very serious and our answers are from experience /not meant to offend but in honest, very honest , answers to your question according to the country (embassy) you go thru and issues people have had in the past 

 

but if your wife is not willing to help you by meeting you again,  there is not much we can do to help