Should my spouse know all details of my past marriage/divorce?

[RobpalermoFR 1]

Hello, i am not sure if this topic was discussed i apologize for asking it again..

 

my wife has an interview at consulate in her home country. I am the petitioning US citizen.

 

I came to US as a worker in 2000 and married a US citizen (not fake) which lasted 9 years. I naturulized years ago.

 

I will send my official divorce papers to my wife to bring to the interview. We already submitted it to USCIS and NVC.

 

This is a sensitive topic for some families but does my wife need to know all details (like my previous wife's name, date of previous marriage, how long i was married, why I got divorce, where I got divorced etc)? 

 

Will they ask her about my past marriages?

 

[Edward and Jaycel 587]

Yes they can ask her about all of those things. The consular officer will assume (rightly or wrongly) that if you are in a legitimate marriage, you two will have discussed your past marriage in detail

[Yareth 74]

This is indeed a big yes. The officer could (and probably will) ask about it and assumes that your current wife knows. This kind of openness is expected of a bona fide marriage.

[RobpalermoFR 1]

24 minutes ago, Yareth said:

This is indeed a big yes. The officer could (and probably will) ask about it and assumes that your current wife knows. This kind of openness is expected of a bona fide marriage.

 

40 minutes ago, Edward and Jaycel said:

Yes they can ask her about all of those things. The consular officer will assume (rightly or wrongly) that if you are in a legitimate marriage, you two will have discussed your past marriage in detail

 

Thank you folks, i want to clarify something in case i was not clear.. of course my wife knows about my divorce, and we have nothing to hide. 

 

i'm just asking if my wife needs to know (by heart) date of my previous marriage, date of divorce, full name (first and last) of my previous wife. like as if she is in an exam. Or how we(I and my previous wife) met, how i met my previous wife, where we lived with exact dates..

 

does she(my current wife) really need to memorize all this?

 

thank you if you can clarify this.

[Yareth 74]

I would say that that is not necessary - it would be fairly unreasonable for them to expect that. Remember, "I don't know" is a perfectly legitimate answer (if the interviewee doesn't say that too often).

*edit: The general story should be enough, not exact dates.

Edited 12 hours ago by Yareth

[Dashinka 24,814]

I agree, your current spouse should not need to memorize exact dates of your previous marriage, divorce, etc.  Just general knowledge of your past relationship and immigration histories will go a long way to showing you are in a good marriage now.

 

Good Luck!

[JeanneAdil 6,663]

they can ask especially if there are any big red flags such as big age difference or domestic violence 

big question for CO would be WHY u divorced / dates  are not so important but the year of divorce or separation maybe 

 

If there are children from the 1st marriage,  CO will want to know if u support them and have contact and if they live close and has she met or talked to them

[TexasRafael 145]

Our experience was that the questions on that topic never came up, however, my spouse was well aware that I had been married for over 30 years and was divorced.  The divorce decree was in all the papers that had been submitted with the application.  I think that while I do not believe that they need to know the details, they do need to know that you were married and divorced.  Good luck.     

[KMG 151]

5 hours ago, RobpalermoFR said:

Hello, i am not sure if this topic was discussed i apologize for asking it again..

 

my wife has an interview at consulate in her home country. I am the petitioning US citizen.

 

I came to US as a worker in 2000 and married a US citizen (not fake) which lasted 9 years. I naturulized years ago.

 

I will send my official divorce papers to my wife to bring to the interview. We already submitted it to USCIS and NVC.

 

This is a sensitive topic for some families but does my wife need to know all details (like my previous wife's name, date of previous marriage, how long i was married, why I got divorce, where I got divorced etc)? 

 

Will they ask her about my past marriages?

 

Yes they will ask- and honestly, your current wife should already know this information.  Secrecy may be a red flag.

[Cathi 5,794]

Absolutely!!!!! My now husband was questioned during his interview at the consulate in Amman about my ex-husband.

[RobpalermoFR 1]

1 hour ago, KMG said:

Yes they will ask- and honestly, your current wife should already know this information.  Secrecy may be a red flag.

 

35 minutes ago, Cathi said:

Absolutely!!!!! My now husband was questioned during his interview at the consulate in Amman about my ex-husband.

 

thank you for answers!!! but please understand my question: of course my spouse knows about my past. of course she knows i had a divorce, i didn't have kids.

 

but i am asking: does my wife need to memorize all details like: 

• where i met my ex
• how i met my ex
• when did we get married
• where did we get married
• why did we get divorced

i don't even remember some of this top of my head, if you can clarify it for me, i will appreciate. 

 

 

[Dashinka 24,814]

16 minutes ago, RobpalermoFR said:

 

 

thank you for answers!!! but please understand my question: of course my spouse knows about my past. of course she knows i had a divorce, i didn't have kids.

 

but i am asking: does my wife need to memorize all details like: 

• where i met my ex
• how i met my ex
• when did we get married
• where did we get married
• why did we get divorced

i don't even remember some of this top of my head, if you can clarify it for me, i will appreciate. 

 

 

No, she should be fine just knowing the generalities.  All the details relative to date of marriage, date of divorce, etc. are in the package already.

 

Good Luck!