Seeking a Green Card

[Edward and Jaycel 544]

1 minute ago, Ontarkie said:

So messed up leaving the house, and soon her coaches will tell her that. Get into a lawyer asap. Do not ever be alone with her at this point. 

 

OP - I can't tell you how important the last part of this is. PROTECT YOURSELF. Please. You even mentioned in a previous post that you realize what lengths someone as desperate is this will go to immigrate here. 

[csh2020 16]

8 minutes ago, Ontarkie said:

Yes ask about annulment it will not hurt. 

Giving evidence that is true is not being vengeful. You were used and supplying evidence will only help protect you. If USCIS decides to look into it that is totally up to them. You are just providing the truth. I would also provide the lawyer you talk to this also. Make sure you give that lawyer all the nitty gritty details. This again is to protect you.

So messed up leaving the house, and soon her coaches will tell her that. Get into a lawyer asap. Do not ever be alone with her at this point. 

Last question. How much information would you give USCIS? I'm debating on telling them everything or just saying we were incompatible, divorcing her and washing my hands of the whole thing. That is the only hesitation of withdrawing the petition. Remember that I just filed it in December. So, it hasn't even been reviewed yet. I only filed the I-130 and not the I-485 for purposes of merely establishing that a marriage exists. So, very little has been done at this point. 

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[csh2020 16]

6 minutes ago, Edward and Jaycel said:

 

OP - I can't tell you how important the last part of this is. PROTECT YOURSELF. Please. You even mentioned in a previous post that you realize what lengths someone as desperate is this will go to immigrate here. 

She messed up because now immigration doesn't know where she is. Neither do I.

[csh2020 16]

One last question. At which point should I change my social media? Because there are still photos of us, and I'm listed as married on FB. I'm not sure if it is a big deal or not but I do not want to look complicit at this point. But I still have to keep this hush hush from the church for at least a few weeks to have room to sort this all out. Remember, my housing is connected to this marriage not failing. 

 

Edited 7 hours ago by csh2020

[Edward and Jaycel 544]

10 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

Last question. How much information would you give USCIS? I'm debating on telling them everything or just saying we were incompatible, divorcing her and washing my hands of the whole thing. That is the only hesitation of withdrawing the petition. Remember that I just filed it in December. So, it hasn't even been reviewed yet. I only filed the I-130 and not the I-485 for purposes of merely establishing that a marriage exists. So, very little has been done at this point. 

 

I would keep it simple - After being married, you discovered that you and your wife are physically and emotionally incompatible, she has now abandoned the marriage and disappeared and that you plan to file for divorce or an anullment. The links provided by @Melancholic Mage above give you a great template and since you just filed last month, I would send the letter to the service center listed at the bottom of your I-797C receipt notice you received for the I-130.

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[Ontarkie 14,487]

10 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

Last question. How much information would you give USCIS? I'm debating on telling them everything or just saying we were incompatible, divorcing her and washing my hands of the whole thing. That is the only hesitation of withdrawing the petition. Remember that I just filed it in December. So, it hasn't even been reviewed yet. I have not filed an I-485 only the I-130 for purposes of merely establishing that a marriage exists. So, very little has been done at this point. 

Personally I would tell them I am withdrawing due to false pretense of (name). That the marriage will be dissolved. Then add the FB user name even if it is an old account. She could still be posting on it with the privacy settings to keep you from seeing anything new. Her New FB name and send a print of that other FB page. Then I would wash my hands of her. 

 

You need to remember she did this to your daughter as well. She needs to be protected also. I would also go to your church sooner the better, so they can be there to help you through this. 

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[Ontarkie 14,487]

3 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

One last question. At which point should I change my social media? Because there are still photos of us, and I'm listed as married on FB. I'm not sure if it is a big deal or not but I do not want to look complicit at this point. But I still have to keep this hush hush from the church for at least a few weeks to have room to sort this all out. Remember, my housing is connected to this marriage not failing. 

 

Are you 100% sure you will get booted for this? 

 

[Edward and Jaycel 544]

1 minute ago, Ontarkie said:

Personally I would tell them I am withdrawing due to false pretense of (name). That the marriage will be dissolved. Then add the FB user name even if it is an old account. She could still be posting on it with the privacy settings to keep you from seeing anything new. Her New FB name and send a print of that page. Then I would wash my hands of her. 

 

You need to remember she did this to your daughter as well. She needs to be protected also. I would also go to your church sooner the better, so they can be there to help you through this. 

 

This is actually better than what I wrote. You definitely want to do your best to protect any future potential victim of her scam by being 100% forthcoming about why you are withdrawing.

[csh2020 16]

1 minute ago, Ontarkie said:

Are you 100% sure you will get booted for this? 

 

I am about 90% sure. They were ready to put me out over marrying so quickly because it calls into question my "fitness to lead" based on an impulsive judgment. I told them that I am certain that I made a good decision and that if it fails then I will step down and never pastor again. I put my reputation and position on the line for her because I truly had no idea that this would happen.

[csh2020 16]

8 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

I am about 90% sure. They were ready to put me out over marrying so quickly because it calls into question my "fitness to lead" based on an impulsive judgment. I told them that I am certain that I made a good decision and that if it fails then I will step down and never pastor again. I put my reputation and position on the line for her because I truly had no idea that this would happen.

Here is what I wrote...

 

I am writing to withdraw the I-130 petition filed on behalf of my wife, (her name) in December 2023. Receipt no: XXXX and A# XXXX. I married her out of good faith and true love on my part, but I discovered through many of her words and actions that it was not reciprocated. Please see the attached discovery. I have other reasons to believe that she did not marry me for the right reasons. Moreover, we are not physically or emotionally compatible. She abandoned our marriage by moving out of our home as of yesterday not saying anything to anyone. I have no idea where she is. So, I will be filing for a divorce or annulment asap.

[Family 4,217]

2 hours ago, csh2020 said:

An annulment would bar her from doing this again? Thanks for that information. I'm trying to protect the next poor sap. Would you think a divorce and withdrawing the petition would do the same thing?

In your withdrawal letter to USCIS, you do not have to go into details or allege fraud . Simple letter that you withdraw I-130 and I-864 as the marriage is not viable . Sign, notarize it and mail it original. You can upload a copy to your USCIS account ( for I-130), assuming you change password so she has no access to it. 
 

Who prepared the I-130 ? DIY or she has an attorney?

If she is in removal ( Immigration Court) then there is no I-485 or I-864 yet. 
 

If you get  annulment no immigration attorney can help her overcome the permanent bar, as it will be be based on fraud and all you have to do is raise the points you made on this thread . 
 

Getting a divorce/dissolution leaves her wiggle room to raise VAWA arguments as basis for end of this marriage. 
 

I know you are sharing from a vulnerable place , and I am an advocate for victims of domestic violence , plus a bleeding heart liberal …BUT experienced enough to tell you that details such ‘’pillow over her face ‘’ during intimate moments can be quickly be advanced by her as evidence that you abused her. 

 

I am speculating here, but I am inclined to think she will be filing a VAWA very quickly and that is the reason she left abruptly and cut contact….Stop texting her
 

Again, what or how she figures out her immigration path will not affect you, even if she files and is successful with a VAWA, 

 

All you have to do is send out withdrawal and go to family court and start your annulment or dissolution.

 

 

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[Family 4,217]

13 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

Here is what I wrote...

 

I am writing to withdraw the I-130 petition filed on behalf of my wife, (her name) in December 2023. Receipt no: XXXX and A# XXXX. I married her out of good faith and true love on my part, but I discovered through many of her words and actions that it was not reciprocated. Please see the attached discovery. I have other reasons to believe that she did not marry me for the right reasons. Moreover, we are not physically or emotionally compatible. She abandoned our marriage by moving out of our home as of yesterday not saying anything to anyone. I have no idea where she is. So, I will be filing for a divorce or annulment asap.

You nailed it 

[Edward and Jaycel 544]

24 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

Here is what I wrote...

 

I am writing to withdraw the I-130 petition filed on behalf of my wife, (her name) in December 2023. Receipt no: XXXX and A# XXXX. I married her out of good faith and true love on my part, but I discovered through many of her words and actions that it was not reciprocated. Please see the attached discovery. I have other reasons to believe that she did not marry me for the right reasons. Moreover, we are not physically or emotionally compatible. She abandoned our marriage by moving out of our home as of yesterday not saying anything to anyone. I have no idea where she is. So, I will be filing for a divorce or annulment asap.

 

This is perfect... Like Family said, bring it to a Notary Public and sign it in front of them so they can notarize it and send it in with a trackable express shipper. (USPS is probably the best here since I would bet the Service Center address at the bottom of your NOA 1 is a P.O. Box) I would even attach a copy of your NOA1 to the letter.

[Family 4,217]

25 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

December 2023.

As there were no dates in your original post, I assumed everything happened more recently..so 2024. 

 

Since marriage lasted over a year, it may make annulment a little more challenging in family court. 
 

It should however give you some leverage in arguments to keep your position. Even most carefully planned / sound judgement marriages can fail . 

 

[Lil bear 4,328]

57 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

I am about 90% sure. They were ready to put me out over marrying so quickly because it calls into question my "fitness to lead" based on an impulsive judgment. I told them that I am certain that I made a good decision and that if it fails then I will step down and never pastor again. I put my reputation and position on the line for her because I truly had no idea that this would happen.

Consequences are rarely predictable   There are no “good” ways out of this only some which are much worse and others which are  a bit better. Own up.. face up to out .. protect your daughter and move on with life