Seeking a Green Card

[csh2020 15]

14 hours ago, JeanneAdil said:

We honestly care for your heart break but be ever so much more careful in future

My prayers go out to u

 

Doesn't disqualify but another petition would go thru heavy scrutiny as 3 is a lot 

 

 

art is not  heavy but be so very careful as there are many women (and men) trolling online for marriage to USC's and that green card 

and there are USC's taking advantage of some foreigners and many post on here "my USC spouse is abusive, what do I do?"  So, honestly,  USCIS and embassys try to protect both sides, hence there are denials.   

Your new wife may try to say u r abusive so watch your back  

 

And USCIS says this:

Sham marriages, which are marriages entered into for immigration purposes, can have severe legal and immigration consequences. 

 

 

I am going to be extra cautious the next time. And in fact, my next partner will be an American citizen. I'm pretty much done with this whole immigration thing. It is like my son says, with an American, there is zero chance they are looking for a Green Card, but I do know that women (and men) in general are looking for other benefits. So, no more jumping into marriages so quickly. 

[csh2020 15]

20 hours ago, JeanneAdil said:

going to add 1 thing

When she finds out there is possibility she can not adjust if u withdraw the support, she will talk to others and realize that she will not be able to sponsor the "other man"

so don't fall for the "I love you BS" to get u to continue the AOS 

after getting 2 year green card she could then divorce and remove conditions for a 10 year green card (later- the ROC process) with a divorce waiver.  Seen that happen also

Please know there are people who do care and i hope u have good emotional support (real friends and family)

Thank you so much. You live just up the road. I just moved back to East Tennessee from Nashville. What I am going to do is build a support network of friends and try and get busy while trying not to lose everything in the process. Again, I'm not thinking of sponsoring anyone else. If I can position myself, I will probably not remarry and if I do, it will be preferably an American citizen because I'm tired of all of this BS with immigration. Some of these people will go to great lengths to get into this country. She slept on the streets of Mexico for 30 days in the freezing cold with only a sheet and nearly died. She did that after leaving her "true love" behind in Costar Rica. So, if she can do that just to get a slice of the American pie, then I'm sure she is capable of defrauding a USC. 

[csh2020 15]

2 hours ago, Family said:

Just need you to re-read your own words . Think about the planning and scheming required for her to get a ‘’friend ‘’ to chaperone marital visits….for a 40 year old virgin 😂

I am guessing she was scheming for church wedding cause getting married while in removal carries a bigger burden of bonafides .

 

I would not blame you if you filed for annulment instead of dissolution…but know that  USCIS would permanently bar her from getting a green card through another USC marriage. 

 

An annulment would bar her from doing this again? Thanks for that information. I'm trying to protect the next poor sap. Would you think a divorce and withdrawing the petition would do the same thing?

[csh2020 15]

2 hours ago, Family said:

Just need you to re-read your own words . Think about the planning and scheming required for her to get a ‘’friend ‘’ to chaperone marital visits….for a 40 year old virgin 😂

I am guessing she was scheming for church wedding cause getting married while in removal carries a bigger burden of bonafides .

 

I would not blame you if you filed for annulment instead of dissolution…but know that  USCIS would permanently bar her from getting a green card through another USC marriage. 

 

I'm a little confused as to church wedding could strengthen the case of making it look bona fide? Since we were legally married in June (church wedding September), then wouldn't UCSIS look only at the legal wedding? This has been the question floating in my mind. If it was fraud her part (which I believe it was), then why go through the hassle and expense of a church wedding? It would seem that she would want me to spend the money on her immigration case rather than on a wedding. I'm just trying to figure out that piece of the puzzle. 

[Edward and Jaycel 541]

9 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

I'm a little confused as to church wedding could strengthen the case of making it look bona fide? Since we were legally married in June (church wedding September), then wouldn't UCSIS look only at the legal wedding? This has been the question floating in my mind. If it was fraud her part (which I believe it was), then why go through the hassle and expense of a church wedding? It would seem that she would want me to spend the money on her immigration case rather than on a wedding. I'm just trying to figure out that piece of the puzzle. 

 

Because while a "Legal Ceremony" makes you legally married, a big church wedding, with family, friends and community involved is stronger evidence of a bona fide marriage and intermingling of friends and families.

[csh2020 15]

Just now, Edward and Jaycel said:

 

Because while a "Legal Ceremony" makes you legally married, a big church wedding, with family, friends and community involved is stronger evidence of a bona fide marriage and intermingling of friends and families.

 If that is the case, then she has certainly been coached because she isn't intelligent enough to figure that out. She is just a country girl from Nicaragua/Costa Rica. She is not highly educated. 

[Edward and Jaycel 541]

1 minute ago, csh2020 said:

 If that is the case, then she has certainly been coached because she isn't intelligent enough to figure that out. She is just a country girl from Nicaragua/Costa Rica. She is not highly educated. 

 

Like everyone said before me here.... waste NO time withdrawing the I-130 and I-864. Get the letter written today.

[csh2020 15]

2 minutes ago, Edward and Jaycel said:

 

Like everyone said before me here.... waste NO time withdrawing the I-130 and I-864. Get the letter written today.

How do I write the letter? Do I email it? Regular mail? Who do I send it to? I have no idea how to do it.

[OldUser 7,539]

4 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

How do I write the letter? Do I email it? Regular mail? Who do I send it to? I have no idea how to do it.

Of course mail, preferebly certified mail to have proof of sending.

You should send to reply address that was mentioned in I-130 petition when you received the mail.

[Melancholic Mage 127]

This may help you.

 

Please note this isn't a sponsored source of VJ or its community, just a little digging I did to give you a guideline of what to do. Write a letter to USCIS, include any numbers pertaining to your case, and honestly, pay for expedited delivery. Stop her in her tracks as soon as possible.

 

https://www.lawfirm1.com/immigration-visas-green-cards/how-to-withdraw-sponsorship-for-immigrant-consequences-of-withdrawing-i-130-i-485/

 

I found this sample letter as well to help:

https://www.soundimmigration.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Sample-request-to-withdraw-Form-I-864-Affidavit-of-Support.pdf

Edited 5 hours ago by Melancholic Mage

[Ontarkie 14,483]

Since you asked about protecting other USC's from her. I would copy print off the FB page that you found. Also include her user name for FB. 

 

From the little bit you shared with us and the little bit of my reading for annulment. I think you have a case, so definitely ask about it too. 

[SL2024 101]

Sorry that this has happened to you but I agree with everyone else on this post. Know your own self worth and value. I think you know and it looks like now you know what you need to do. 

 

I wish you the best of luck in resolving this.

[csh2020 15]

28 minutes ago, Ontarkie said:

Since you asked about protecting other USC's from her. I would copy print off the FB page that you found. Also include her user name for FB. 

 

From the little bit you shared with us and the little bit of my reading for annulment. I think you have a case, so definitely ask about it too. 

Even though she married me for illegitimate reasons, I do think she does care about me though not in a romantic sort of way. I think she grew to care about me as would anyone living with another person. But I didn't reveal the part where when we were intimate that she would cover her face with a pillow. She told me that she has been violated in the past and I thought that was the reason but now I am questioning everything. 

The post about the other person was from a page that she no longer uses, and she posted in February 2023, four months before she married me. 

I think you are right that I should include it but just seems to be vengeful to do that and I am not a spiteful person. I try to get along with everyone and not try and cause harm. I'm truly trying to process this whole thing, and I will send take action very promptly, but I also want to think it through before doing so. I have to sleep at night with my conscience, you know. The last thing I want to do is harm a desperate immigrant woman. 

[Ontarkie 14,483]

1 minute ago, csh2020 said:

Even though she married me for illegitimate reasons, I do think she does care about me though not in a romantic sort of way. I think she grew to care about me as would anyone living with another person. But I didn't reveal the part where when we were intimate that she would cover her face with a pillow. She told me that she has been violated in the past and I thought that was the reason but now I am questioning everything. 

The post about the other person was from a page that she no longer uses, and she posted in February 2023, four months before she married me. 

I think you are right that I should include it but just seems to be vengeful to do that and I am not a spiteful person. I try to get along with everyone and not try and cause harm. I'm truly trying to process this whole thing, and I will send take action very promptly, but I also want to think it through before doing so. I have to sleep at night with my conscience, you know. The last thing I want to do is harm a desperate immigrant woman. 

Yes ask about annulment it will not hurt. 

Giving evidence that is true is not being vengeful. You were used and supplying evidence will only help protect you. If USCIS decides to look into it that is totally up to them. You are just providing the truth. I would also provide the lawyer you talk to this also. Make sure you give that lawyer all the nitty gritty details. This again is to protect you.

So messed up leaving the house, and soon her coaches will tell her that. Get into a lawyer asap. Do not ever be alone with her at this point. 

[csh2020 15]

3 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

Even though she married me for illegitimate reasons, I do think she does care about me though not in a romantic sort of way. I think she grew to care about me as would anyone living with another person. But I didn't reveal the part where when we were intimate that she would cover her face with a pillow. She told me that she has been violated in the past and I thought that was the reason but now I am questioning everything. 

The post about the other person was from a page that she no longer uses, and she posted in February 2023, four months before she married me. 

I think you are right that I should include it but just seems to be vengeful to do that and I am not a spiteful person. I try to get along with everyone and not try and cause harm. I'm truly trying to process this whole thing, and I will send take action very promptly, but I also want to think it through before doing so. I have to sleep at night with my conscience, you know. The last thing I want to do is harm a desperate immigrant woman. 

And what's more is when she would take photos, it would be of herself or with my daughter. I always had to ask her to take one with me. When she would post on social media, she would rarely post one of us together. It was always me doing the posting of us as a couple, though she posted lots of pictures of herself and her with friends. I also found that to be quite odd. 

 

She was also extremely secretive with her phone. I could not even dare to ask her who she was talking to, or she would go into a meltdown thinking I am being "toxic." Everything she did, including the money she made and how she spent it remained a secret. I could not question anything whatsoever. Nothing shared. She had a separate life with her own plans.