Seeking a Green Card

[csh2020 47]

3 hours ago, W199 said:

As others have said, you should cease all communications, and do all divorce negotiations through your attorney.

 

To help prevent her from harming other USC, you can try to collect proof, and tell USCIS them about the bribe she offered you. Though with no proof, it may not help. But it won't hurt you. In fact, it can protect your USCIS reputation in that you are not selling a GC.  Again, everything except withdrawing the I-130 won't help, but I don't think it will hurt to try. But it may be fruitless. 

 

If you have medical insurance, you should see a therapist ASAP to understand why you think you love despite knowing nothing about her for the most part, not to mention being abused and manipulated by her.  Repeat, see a therapist ASAP, if for no other reasons to help deal with the divorce trauma and even bring your daughter.  Even though you may be a therapist for others, you can't treat yourself.

 

 

Thank you so much for the advice but frankly, I'm not concerned with my USCIS reputation because I won't be sponsoring any more immigrants for two reasons. First, it's highly doubtful that I will marry again and second, I'm really only open to American citizens when I'm ready to date again. 

[mniceguy16 198]

9 hours ago, csh2020 said:

I'm just curious and learning. How do immigrants know about VAWA? I really think that is what this is. Again, thanks for VJ for educating me on this; otherwise, I would not have any idea and would probably agree to see her.

Ok, to answer your question real quick, Me being an immigrant, on My visa interview day in Kyiv, Ukraine, the CO took out time and asked Me if I knew what was vawa and if I read about it, so yeah Vawa is openly explained to all intending immigrants, your soon to be ex spouse has some coaches so she must know about vawa by now, reason why she is trying to keep texting you that you yelled at her and her only wanting to meet in public, those are antics of someone building a vawa case.

Edited March 15 by mniceguy16

[csh2020 47]

8 hours ago, mniceguy16 said:

Ok, to answer your question real quick, Me being an immigrant, on My visa interview day in Kyiv, Ukraine, the CO took out time and asked Me if I knew what was vawa and if I read about it, so yeah Vawa is openly explained to all intending immigrants, your soon to be ex spouse has some coaches so she must know about vawa by now, reason why she is trying to keep texting you that you yelled at her and her only wanting to meet in public, those are antics of someone building a vawa case.

What you are saying is sobering. I was wondering why she tried so aggressively yesterday to get me to meet with her. She never texts me but then she was texting nonstop from about 2pm until about 7pm trying to persuade me to meet with her. The strange thing was that she would not accept meeting in public. It had to be at home. She was using every excuse in the book by saying things like she wants to see me one last time before she leaves for good (she supposedly has a ticket waiting on her), promising intimacy, and then saying she could come to sign papers. I told her to meet me at UPS to sign in front of a notary. She refused by only agreeing to meet at the house. She said that she could either spent the night or leave after saying proper goodbyes.  After being told no, she said she was coming anyway. I told her it would be a wasted trip because I wouldn't be home. I told her I would be out working, which was true. I do some independent work on the side, so I keep myself busy. It had me stressed because I had no idea why this odd behavior. In either case, I got home later and spent the night at home. Didn't hear anything else. 

It was very odd because this aggressive behavior was coming from the same woman who avoided me for months. She said she had a lawyer and would leave the papers signed with him before leaving. 

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31 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

What you are saying is sobering. I was wondering why she tried so aggressively yesterday to get me to meet with her. She never texts me but then she was texting nonstop from about 2pm until about 7pm trying to persuade me to meet with her. The strange thing was that she would not accept meeting in public. It had to be at home. She was using every excuse in the book by saying things like she wants to see me one last time before she leaves for good (she supposedly has a ticket waiting on her), promising intimacy, and then saying she could come to sign papers. I told her to meet me at UPS to sign in front of a notary. She refused by only agreeing to meet at the house. She said that she could either spent the night or leave after saying proper goodbyes.  After being told no, she said she was coming anyway. I told her it would be a wasted trip because I wouldn't be home. I told her I would be out working, which was true. I do some independent work on the side, so I keep myself busy. It had me stressed because I had no idea why this odd behavior. In either case, I got home later and spent the night at home. Didn't hear anything else. 

It was very odd because this aggressive behavior was coming from the same woman who avoided me for months. She said she had a lawyer and would leave the papers signed with him before leaving. 

 

Textbook for somebody trying to build a VAWA case I’m afraid. She’d have turned up, then with just you and her there and no witnesses, claimed you were physically or mentally abusive to her. Whatever you do, DON’T meet her alone at any point, ideally don’t meet her at all even in public. As said above, leave it all to your lawyer now and cut off all contact.

 

Best of luck to you, I hope you and your daughter can move forward and find happiness.

[OldUser 8,336]

3 hours ago, csh2020 said:

What you are saying is sobering. I was wondering why she tried so aggressively yesterday to get me to meet with her. She never texts me but then she was texting nonstop from about 2pm until about 7pm trying to persuade me to meet with her. The strange thing was that she would not accept meeting in public. It had to be at home. She was using every excuse in the book by saying things like she wants to see me one last time before she leaves for good (she supposedly has a ticket waiting on her), promising intimacy, and then saying she could come to sign papers. I told her to meet me at UPS to sign in front of a notary. She refused by only agreeing to meet at the house. She said that she could either spent the night or leave after saying proper goodbyes.  After being told no, she said she was coming anyway. I told her it would be a wasted trip because I wouldn't be home. I told her I would be out working, which was true. I do some independent work on the side, so I keep myself busy. It had me stressed because I had no idea why this odd behavior. In either case, I got home later and spent the night at home. Didn't hear anything else. 

It was very odd because this aggressive behavior was coming from the same woman who avoided me for months. She said she had a lawyer and would leave the papers signed with him before leaving. 

Yep, if she never called police on you, that was probably her plan. Come to your place without a witness, provoke and call cops on you to help her VAWA. Glad you didn't fall for it.

Edited March 15 by OldUser

[W199 382]

There are a long list of manipulative tactics that she could have been planning. It depends on how clever, stupid, desperate, or cruel, etc she is.  For all you know, she is being manipulated herself through crazy gang or a crazy bf, and had a sick plan for you to die “accidentally” through a “heart attack” with antifreeze (lol, just saw that case on Dateline on tv) so she can get her gc and then sponsor her real bf and family.

 

Or simple sexual manipulation for swaying the divorce judgement in her favor, pregnancy, etc 

 

The point is, why do you care or wonder so much why she wanted to come over.  You knew it was for benefit and games to further take advantage of you, you need to simply report/email/documejt this and any other moves from her it to your lawyer and move on… . And your lawyer needs to order a deposition to either uncover her dirt for the divorce or get her to perjure herself so she can be held in contempt.

 

and  Therapist!!!

 

[mniceguy16 198]

10 hours ago, csh2020 said:

What you are saying is sobering. I was wondering why she tried so aggressively yesterday to get me to meet with her. She never texts me but then she was texting nonstop from about 2pm until about 7pm trying to persuade me to meet with her. The strange thing was that she would not accept meeting in public. It had to be at home. She was using every excuse in the book by saying things like she wants to see me one last time before she leaves for good (she supposedly has a ticket waiting on her), promising intimacy, and then saying she could come to sign papers. I told her to meet me at UPS to sign in front of a notary. She refused by only agreeing to meet at the house. She said that she could either spent the night or leave after saying proper goodbyes.  After being told no, she said she was coming anyway. I told her it would be a wasted trip because I wouldn't be home. I told her I would be out working, which was true. I do some independent work on the side, so I keep myself busy. It had me stressed because I had no idea why this odd behavior. In either case, I got home later and spent the night at home. Didn't hear anything else. 

It was very odd because this aggressive behavior was coming from the same woman who avoided me for months. She said she had a lawyer and would leave the papers signed with him before leaving. 

To begin, I am so proud of you for going this far to protect yourself and daughter. Even if she would have been intimate with you yesterday, she could call the cops and claim you forced yourself on her. What "proper" goodbye does she wanna say after disappearing for 2 months? She has no plans on going back, she simply wants to make you believe she is gone because she knows she is not getting her way this time. I am glad you found this site. I found it at the start of my journey 8 years ago and almost 3 years after being a citizen, I still stick around because this site has more helpful information more than some attorneys will ever have. I really wish you the best in your next steps in finding peace and stability.