Seeking a Green Card

[Lemonslice 5,101]

Return to sender any and all mail delivered for her.  Do not open, just return. 

[OldUser 8,784]

9 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

Return to sender any and all mail delivered for her.  Do not open, just return. 

Agreed, it is a criminal offence to open somebody else's mail.

 

Just write "Return to sender" on envelope and drop in any mailbox.

[csh2020 52]

17 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

Return to sender any and all mail delivered for her.  Do not open, just return. 

My attorney said to keep her mail and offer to give it to her. She still has some things left behind (though she hasn't made an effort to pick it up). As per advice of my attorney, they are all stored in boxes. The attorney said do not get rid of anything until the divorce is finalized.

[appleblossom 3,763]

9 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

My attorney said to keep her mail and offer to give it to her. She still has some things left behind (though she hasn't made an effort to pick it up). As per advice of my attorney, they are all stored in boxes. The attorney said do not get rid of anything until the divorce is finalized.

 

Offering to give it her would mean getting in touch with her. I disagree with your attorney completely, she should have changed her address with USCIS (it’s a legal requirement to do so) and if she hasn’t then tough luck on her. Just return to sender anything from USCIS, then USCIS know she’s moved without her telling them, and you don’t have to be in contact with her either, so a double advantage. 

[TBoneTX 46,819]

When you X out her address on her refused mail, also mark out the bar code printed by USPS at envelope bottom.  Sometimes, refused mail will come back to you again because that bar code gets read.

[OldUser 8,784]

32 minutes ago, appleblossom said:

 

Offering to give it her would mean getting in touch with her. I disagree with your attorney completely, she should have changed her address with USCIS (it’s a legal requirement to do so) and if she hasn’t then tough luck on her. Just return to sender anything from USCIS, then USCIS know she’s moved without her telling them, and you don’t have to be in contact with her either, so a double advantage. 

I agree with you. All letters should be returned to sender including USCIS mail. It's not OP's burden to collect and store mail addressed to somebody who doesn't live at the address.

[csh2020 52]

On 3/27/2025 at 9:57 AM, appleblossom said:

 

Her EAD is only based on having a valid application in the works. Once that’s cancelled, her EAD is too. 

Hello everyone! Thank you so much for walking with me through this mess. There aren't enough words to describe how much your advice and encouragement are appreciated. As an update, let me say that she showed up to meet me at my lawyer's office where she signed the divorce papers with the notary present. After signing the papers, she has tried to meet up with me. I told her no I'm not interested. She has been blocked from all communication except one (a phone line) and the only reason I left it open is for her to get her things. The divorce papers are signed by both of us and the only thing left to do is to have a date scheduled for the judge to sign off on them.

 

My Concern:

I discovered that she is now stalking me from across the street. She sits in her vehicle watching my house. And last night, I had a friend over where we with my daughter were watching a movie relaxing at home and she showed up out of the blue to pick up her things. I asked her to come back later because she was interrupting my evening. She was adamant about getting her things at that very moment. She was alone and the positive thing is that I had two witnesses there (my daughter and a friend). I will be contacting my lawyer. She texted me today to say that she hopes I'm happy and will never be back again.

[Crazy Cat 43,324]

4 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

She texted me today to say that she hopes I'm happy and will never be back again.

Sounds like she is still working on the VAWA claim....or she has found another target.

[OldUser 8,784]

9 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

My Concern:

I discovered that she is now stalking me from across the street. She sits in her vehicle watching my house. And last night, I had a friend over where we with my daughter were watching a movie relaxing at home and she showed up out of the blue to pick up her things. I asked her to come back later because she was interrupting my evening. She was adamant about getting her things at that very moment. She was alone and the positive thing is that I had two witnesses there (my daughter and a friend). I will be contacting my lawyer. She texted me today to say that she hopes I'm happy and will never be back again.

Can you get a restraining order?

[csh2020 52]

21 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

Sounds like she is still working on the VAWA claim....or she has found another target.

I'm not sure what you mean by working on a VAWA claim.

Another target?

Explain?

I don't like her showing up at my house unannounced. Luckily there were two people there with me.

 

[TBoneTX 46,819]

Use your doorbell camera or peephole to screen who's there.  If necessary, talk to her only through the closed door -- do NOT open it even a crack.  Inform your lawyer and follow the consequent advice.  A restraining order may be prudent.

37 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

The divorce papers are signed by both of us and the only thing left to do is to have a date scheduled for the judge to sign off on them.

Wonderful -- congratulations!  The weight of the world is lifting off your shoulders.  Handle the residual part above and there'll be no stopping you during your better life ahead.

[Crazy Cat 43,324]

45 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

I'm not sure what you mean by working on a VAWA claim.

Another target?

Explain?

I don't like her showing up at my house unannounced. Luckily there were two people there with me.

 

I mean that she will possibly leave you alone now.  Maybe she is pursuing a VAWA claim against you (she won't need you any more).  Maybe she has found another possible marriage partner to help her get that Green card. Maybe you have served your purpose.  If you haven't already, get her stuff back to her through an attorney.  She would no longer have a reason to contact you again.  Hopefully, you are free.

Edited 18 hours ago by Crazy Cat

[csh2020 52]

I checked in the UCSIS site and the application has not been withdrawn as of yet. I sent the withdraw request in January. It says...

 

Case Was Received and A Receipt Notice Was Sent

On December 20, 2024, we received your Form I-130, Petition for Alien Relative, Receipt Number , and sent you XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX receipt notice or acceptance notice. The notice describes how we will process your case. Please follow the instructions in the notice. If you move, go to www.uscis.gov/addresschange to give us your new mailing address.

 

 

[Crazy Cat 43,324]

2 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

I checked in the UCSIS site and the application has not been withdrawn as of yet. I sent the withdraw request in January. It says...

 

Case Was Received and A Receipt Notice Was Sent

On December 20, 2024, we received your Form I-130, Petition for Alien Relative, Receipt Number , and sent you XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX receipt notice or acceptance notice. The notice describes how we will process your case. Please follow the instructions in the notice. If you move, go to www.uscis.gov/addresschange to give us your new mailing address.

 

 

You have done what is needed to withdraw the I-130.  The divorce also halts the petition since the relationship will no longer exist.

Edited 17 hours ago by Crazy Cat