Seeking a Green Card

[Crazy Cat 42,992]

6 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

I'm truly considering reporting her.

She might be unknowingly setting a trap for herself.  Once she makes a VAWA claim, she will be putting herself on their radar. A failed case could result in her deportation.

[csh2020 51]

2 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

She might be unknowingly setting a trap for herself.  Once she makes a VAWA claim, she will be putting herself on their radar. A failed case could result in her deportation.

So, I shouldn't report her? Just let her fall on her own sword? Because I would imagine that a VAWA claim will have to be supported with evidence (there is none).

[appleblossom 3,615]

22 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

What is interesting is about two hours before she supposedly "lawyered up", she sent a picture of some things at a store (backpack, etc) and asked me to buy them for her. My attorney's office said the fact that she used the phrase, "I'm going to court" is a dead giveaway that she probably doesn't have a lawyer because people don't go to court. They go to mediation. I would be surprised if she goes to court because of her immigration status unless she actually thinks having a SSN card and a work permit somehow grants her residency. My guess is that, if she does actually have a lawyer, then it is a friend of a friend calling himself a lawyer, as happens so often in the underground illegal immigrant community. They operate outside the system anyway. Sorry to vent. Just tired of the nonsense. I was the one defrauded and it continues.

 

Vent away, that’s what VJ is here for! 

 

Her EAD will be revoked anyway. The problem is that USCIS will confirm that in writing once they process the I-130 cancellation, but it will come to the address on file i.e. yours. 

[Edward and Jaycel 1,081]

57 minutes ago, appleblossom said:

And normally I would say don’t bother with reporting her, but actually she’s been so calculating that I think it may be a good idea in this instance

 

I would agree with @appleblossom on this one. Normally I would also say don't bother but I think she is dangerous and is exactly the type of person that ICE should be going after. I would also use the online tip form for fraud through USCIS as well so that she's on record there too.

https://www.uscis.gov/report-fraud/uscis-tip-form

[csh2020 51]

26 minutes ago, appleblossom said:

 

Vent away, that’s what VJ is here for! 

 

Her EAD will be revoked anyway. The problem is that USCIS will confirm that in writing once they process the I-130 cancellation, but it will come to the address on file i.e. yours. 

I'm confused. What does the I-130 cancellation have to do with the EAD?

[csh2020 51]

6 minutes ago, Edward and Jaycel said:

 

I would agree with @appleblossom on this one. Normally I would also say don't bother but I think she is dangerous and is exactly the type of person that ICE should be going after. I would also use the online tip form for fraud through USCIS as well so that she's on record there too.

https://www.uscis.gov/report-fraud/uscis-tip-form

But can that come back on me in any way? What concerns me is that she could claim that I was part of it (not true) or that it could strengthen her VAWA (if that is what she is doing) because I understand that threats to call ICE is a basis for VAWA. Do I understand correctly? She needs to be deported because she is definitely acting on the level of criminal at this point (IMO).

My lawyer said that they are not concerned with immigration but only with the divorce.

Edited Thursday at 01:55 PM by csh2020

[MalloryCat 476]

providing a tip to USCIS can be anonymous

the option to add your own information is optional

[appleblossom 3,615]

6 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

I'm confused. What does the I-130 cancellation have to do with the EAD?

 

Her EAD is only based on having a valid application in the works. Once that’s cancelled, her EAD is too. 

[Edward and Jaycel 1,081]

13 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

What concerns me is that she could claim that I was part of it (not true) or that it could strengthen her VAWA (if that is what she is doing) because I understand that threats to call ICE is a basis for VAWA

 

My thought on this is that she will probably claim all of this anyway and if I were in your shoes I would want to be out in front of it by reporting it on my own instead of having to respond to accusations later. Threats to call ICE as a basis for VAWA is only valid if you actually made those threats to her. You haven't. You have filed for divorce and you are making the report to ICE based on her behavior.

[csh2020 51]

28 minutes ago, appleblossom said:

 

Her EAD is only based on having a valid application in the works. Once that’s cancelled, her EAD is too. 

The EAD was approved based on her having an active I-130? I'm confused. I was thinking it was because she had a Parole Stamp and a a Asylum Petition pending. I noticed that her EAD was approved quickly in 3 weeks of filing if my memory serves me correctly.

[Crazy Cat 42,992]

I think her TPS has been terminated by the current administration.  She is now desperate for a new route to a Green Card.....i.e., VAWA.  I wouldn't be surprised if she is  courting another USC for potential marriage.

[TBoneTX 46,676]

People with pending asylum petitions are deported all the time, and many self-deport.

 

To confirm:  Do not respond to -- but do save and document -- any further contacts from her.

 

If your lawyer is restricting himself to the divorce only, you should decide whether to notify ICE, or the FDNS officer at your proximal USCIS office.  If the former, it's unclear how, when, or whether the agency would react; if the latter, you would submit all backup documentation, submit it, never hear anything again, and never learn a final determination or outcome.  Up to you whether to proceed.

Edited Thursday at 02:35 PM by TBoneTX

[appleblossom 3,615]

7 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

The EAD was approved based on her having an active I-130? I'm confused. I was thinking it was because she had a Parole Stamp and a a Asylum Petition pending. I noticed that her EAD was approved quickly in 3 weeks of filing if my memory serves me correctly.

 

Oh apologies, I forgot that bit, thought it was on the basis of her spousal application. But as said above, her TPS is going to be terminated soon anyway (July IRRC?). 

[csh2020 51]

39 minutes ago, appleblossom said:

 

Oh apologies, I forgot that bit, thought it was on the basis of her spousal application. But as said above, her TPS is going to be terminated soon anyway (July IRRC?). 

She has a pending Master Hearing for Deportation court date set for 2026. When the TPS terminates, will that court date be cancelled?

 

The USCIS case status has not been updated. I haven't heard anything back about them cancelling the I-130. It was about three weeks ago when I sent it through certified mail. I did confirm that it was received.

Edited Thursday at 03:16 PM by csh2020

[mam521 2,369]

On 3/14/2025 at 11:53 AM, csh2020 said:

She is proclaiming her love for me. I told her love is expressed by honesty and openness. If she loves me then she will prove it by telling me where she is staying and working. She would not. I even told her that if she will tell me where she is living/working, I will consider dropping the divorce and working toward reconciliation. She still refused to tell me. 

 

On 3/14/2025 at 12:03 PM, csh2020 said:

You think I'm being baited?

 

So I've just spent the past little bit playing catch up here, reading the last 8 or so pages.  

 

You are 1 million percent being baited and you NEED to keep communication to lawyer ONLY.  Your statement that I bolded above will be used against you.  She will try to create the illusion that you are emotionally abusive and that your lover for her is based entirely on condition.  In that statement, you've given her an ultimatum.  That looks bad, even though that's not your intention.  It's imperative that you throw off this mask of naivety.  Irrespective of you stating you're not a vindictive person, you need to really stop trusting everyone else to be like you.  This woman is looking out for herself only and will take down whomever gets in her way, however she feels she needs to, to get the job done.  The painful reality is SHE DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU. 

 

On 3/14/2025 at 4:52 PM, W199 said:

If you have medical insurance, you should see a therapist ASAP to understand why you think you love despite knowing nothing about her for the most part, not to mention being abused and manipulated by her.  Repeat, see a therapist ASAP, if for no other reasons to help deal with the divorce trauma and even bring your daughter.  Even though you may be a therapist for others, you can't treat yourself.

 

THIS.  You have a 15 year old that seems to be a bit forgotten in all of this.  She, too, will have been traumatized by all of this and she too, has been a victim of abuse.  She will be watching carefully now on how you navigate your way back through.  You seem to fall hard and fast and I know you have your church community, but that doesn't always help you understand the underlying drivers for why you've behaved as you have and why you can't come to terms with ending a relationship with an abuser.  You need a professional to help unpack all of this.  

 

Additionally, I wouldn't even be worried about who you date in future, be it a foreigner or an American, at this juncture.  You have so much trauma that requires addressing before you're even ready to think about that.  Will Smith once said that he wasn't responsible for his wife's happiness; that statement is 100% true.  At the end of the day, YOU are responsible for YOUR happiness and if you have a loving and supporting partner who contributes to that happiness, that's really the ultimate goal.  Isn't that what you want for your daughter, too?  For her to see that she can be a strong, confident person and the people she curates into her life should be ones that raise her up, not bring her down?  

 

2 hours ago, csh2020 said:

My lawyer said that they are not concerned with immigration but only with the divorce.

Your lawyer is a divorce attorney, so of course they aren't concerned with the immigration portion.  It's not their wheelhouse.  

 

I really hope you heed the advice given by many here and can begin to reassemble your life.  You've begun the mechanical things like withdrawing the I-130 and filing for divorce.  You've started to lean back to your community, but there's still a lot of work to be done.  Please, think about your child and how you want her future to be, the people you want her to choose to surround her and her perception of success and happiness.  

 

Best of luck 🍀