Seeking a Green Card

[csh2020 26]

33 minutes ago, Ontarkie said:

You keep trying to keep in contact, she is setting you up for a VAWA. and restraining order. 

She is hiding from you (her logic and plan). You keep trying to locate her by asking her (she fears for her safety so she must stay hidden from you). She agrees to see you in a public place (she fears for her safety again (needs witnesses, probably has a friend there watching everything).  See how easy it is for my to see her side and story. Just think what she can do with the right coaches coaching her.

 

 

She is talking about coming home. Is she is doing that then where is the logic in her coming home? I don't understand that part? It also doesn't make sense the sudden change of heart once she gets her documents as to why she wants to come home. The good thing is that she has been texting me all morning talking about coming home but her focus is mainly on employment. So, if she tries something like that, then I have texts proving that she tried to come home. I also have her recorded audibly offering me $3000. I'm protecting myself. 

[Crazy Cat 42,692]

5 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

The good thing is that she has been texting me all morning talking about coming home but her focus is mainly on employment.

How do you feel about her "coming home"?

[Ontarkie 14,636]

Just now, csh2020 said:

She is talking about coming home. Is she is doing that then where is the logic in her coming home? I don't understand that part? It also doesn't make sense the sudden change of heart once she gets her documents as to why she wants to come home. The good thing is that she has been texting me all morning talking about coming home but her focus is mainly on employment. So, if she tries something like that, then I have texts proving that she tried to come home. I also have her recorded audibly offering me $3000. I'm protecting myself. 

Of course she wants to come home. She knows full well you still need to finish the paper work, she will string you along as much as she can. Promise and say all sorts of things, there it is again her work. If you let her come home you can bet your last dollar it will be to create one heck of a scene she can use against you. Do not fall for it. DO not let her back into your home not even for one second. She is a pro manipulator and you cannot even begin to fight at her level.

Voice recording will not help you much as USCIS will not listen to it.

Get those papers served and make sure you are not alone when you do serve her.

 

[csh2020 26]

2 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

How do you feel about her "coming home"?

I don't have peace about it.

[Crazy Cat 42,692]

2 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

I don't have peace about it.

So, you are considering reconciling?

[csh2020 26]

Just now, Crazy Cat said:

So, you are considering reconciling?

Whenever I see her, it is difficult because I do love her, but I know I'm being played. What's interesting is that she barely texts me and since last night she has machine gun texted me one text after another now that she is ready to come home. But I notice a theme threading all of her texts and that is work-centered. She even said that she wants to get a job to allow her to spend more time with me. She said that after having been away for nearly 6 weeks and 15 hours a day 4-5 days a week, while here. Spend more time with me. That is almost absurd. 

[Crazy Cat 42,692]

1 minute ago, csh2020 said:

Whenever I see her, it is difficult because I do love her, but I know I'm being played. What's interesting is that she barely texts me and since last night she has machine gun texted me one text after another now that she is ready to come home. But I notice a theme threading all of her texts and that is work-centered. She even said that she wants to get a job to allow her to spend more time with me. She said that after having been away for nearly 6 weeks and 15 hours a day 4-5 days a week, while here. Spend more time with me. That is almost absurd. 

Maybe she just needs a place to land temporarily  until she obtains employment.  

[csh2020 26]

8 minutes ago, Ontarkie said:

Of course she wants to come home. She knows full well you still need to finish the paperwork, she will string you along as much as she can. Promise and say all sorts of things, there it is again her work. If you let her come home, you can bet your last dollar it will be to create one heck of a scene she can use against you. Do not fall for it. DO not let her back into your home not even for one second. She is a pro manipulator, and you cannot even begin to fight at her level.

Voice recording will not help you much as USCIS will not listen to it.

Get those papers served and make sure you are not alone when you do serve her.

 

Maybe I'm over thinking, Ontarkie. But what paperwork are you referring to? She has her EAD and SSN card; thanks to the work I did for her in getting it. I'm not sure which paperwork? 

You raise some great points here because she already said that it was "dangerous" living with me because she perceives that I yell at her - though I don't. If you knew me personally, you would see how absurd that statement is. I am extremely passive. 

 

I'm thinking she will be wanting me to help her with employment and obtaining a driver's license. She knows I have several connections here being a teacher and pastor in my birthplace/hometown. 

[Crazy Cat 42,692]

2 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

But what paperwork are you referring to? She has her EAD and SSN card; thanks to the work I did for her in getting it. I'm not sure which paperwork? 

I-485 for adjustment of status....her Green Card paperwork.  Her coach has probably informed her that it is the next step.

Edited 23 hours ago by Crazy Cat

[csh2020 26]

Just now, Crazy Cat said:

I-485 for adjustment of status....her Green Card paperwork.

She said that she can still be deported having an EAD/SSN.

[csh2020 26]

Thank you all for your help and advice. I literally have no one to talk to about this and it is the most difficult experience of my life. My attorney doesn't seem to know since he is not an immigration attorney and is merely focused on the divorce. 

[Crazy Cat 42,692]

22 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

She said that she can still be deported having an EAD/SSN.

Of course she can.  She probably knows that the current administration is canceling some TPS and heavily scrutinizing asylum cases.  Her only certain path to remaining in the US is through you.

Edited 22 hours ago by Crazy Cat

[csh2020 26]

Just now, Crazy Cat said:

Of course she can.  She probably knows that the current administration is canceling TPS and heavily scrutinizing asylum cases.  Her only certain path to remaining in the US is through you.

 When TPS is canceled, what does that mean for her EAD/SSN (which says for employment purposes only).

[csh2020 26]

5 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

I-485 for adjustment of status....her Green Card paperwork.  Her coach has probably informed her that it is the next step.

Coach? I'm not sure who that might be? What do you mean by referring to "coach?" I'm not trying to sound naive but I really don't know what that is.

[Crazy Cat 42,692]

Just now, csh2020 said:

Coach? I'm not sure who that might be? What do you mean by referring to "coach?" I'm not trying to sound naive but I really don't know what that is.

I am certainly not making accusations, but it is not uncommon for "friends" to help a person play the system in order to get a Green Card.  Under the current situation, it may or may not be the case.