Seeking a Green Card

[SalishSea 18,225]

3 hours ago, csh2020 said:

This has strengthened my stance on illegal immigration because I now see evidence of how it is harmful

This statement makes NO sense.   A person's moral character and behavior has nothing to do with their immigration status.

 

You could just as easily have petitioned a spouse who did the same thing to you.

Edited January 30 by SalishSea

[SalishSea 18,225]

1 hour ago, csh2020 said:

But I still have to keep this hush hush from the church for at least a few weeks to have room to sort this all out. Remember, my housing is connected to this marriage not failing. 

Not very christlike of them.

[Crazy Cat 42,574]

1 hour ago, csh2020 said:

Here is what I wrote...

 

I am writing to withdraw the I-130 petition filed on behalf of my wife, (her name) in December 2023. Receipt no: XXXX and A# XXXX. I married her out of good faith and true love on my part, but I discovered through many of her words and actions that it was not reciprocated. Please see the attached discovery. I have other reasons to believe that she did not marry me for the right reasons. Moreover, we are not physically or emotionally compatible. She abandoned our marriage by moving out of our home as of yesterday not saying anything to anyone. I have no idea where she is. So, I will be filing for a divorce or annulment asap.

Make sure you specifically withdraw both the I-130 and the I-864 associated with her I-485 (adjustment of status) by receipt numbers with names and her A number.  I hope you  fid peace. 

Edited January 30 by Crazy Cat

[OldUser 7,912]

4 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

Make sure you specifically withdraw both the I-130 and I-485 by receipt numbers with names and her A number.  I hope you  fid peace. 

I-485 isn't OP's petition and cannot be withdrawn by OP. I-130 and I-864 can be withdrawn by OP. This will cause I-485, I-131, I-765 closed due to underlying case withdrawn.

Edited January 30 by OldUser

[Crazy Cat 42,574]

8 minutes ago, OldUser said:

I-485 isn't OP's petition and cannot be withdrawn by OP. I-130 and I-864 can be withdrawn by OP. This will cause I-485, I-131, I-765 closed due to underlying case withdrawn.

I should have said the I-864 which is associated with her I-485.  Thanks.   I'll edit...

Edited January 30 by Crazy Cat

[Edward and Jaycel 797]

2 hours ago, csh2020 said:

I only filed the I-130 and not the I-485 for purposes of merely establishing that a marriage exists.

 OP reported they did not file the I-485, only the I-130

[Crazy Cat 42,574]

7 minutes ago, Edward and Jaycel said:

 OP reported they did not file the I-485, only the I-130

Oh.....Makes it much easier then.  He was never under any I-864 obligations. 

Edited January 30 by Crazy Cat

[Edward and Jaycel 797]

Just now, Crazy Cat said:

Oh.....Makes it much easier then.  

 

Definitely!

[Ontarkie 14,556]

1 hour ago, csh2020 said:

I am about 90% sure. They were ready to put me out over marrying so quickly because it calls into question my "fitness to lead" based on an impulsive judgment. I told them that I am certain that I made a good decision and that if it fails then I will step down and never pastor again. I put my reputation and position on the line for her because I truly had no idea that this would happen.

I'm so sorry it went that far. I truly hope you can save your position with the church. You did fall for her and truly loved her. Yes you put everything on the line, but hopefully they will understand that you were 100% into this and she fooled you all. I will keep my fingers crossed they will understand. If not I pray you find a better church to take you one with less judgement. 

[csh2020 18]

6 hours ago, Family said:

As there were no dates in your original post, I assumed everything happened more recently..so 2024. 

 

Since marriage lasted over a year, it may make annulment a little more challenging in family court. 
 

It should however give you some leverage in arguments to keep your position. Even most carefully planned / sound judgement marriages can fail . 

 

I stand corrected. It was December of 2024. The marriage lasted about 6 months since July 2024. We actually lived together less than 4 of those months since she would not move in until September. Sorry, I'm in a cloud and type the wrong year. 

[TBoneTX 46,294]

OP, we're all human beings with human failings.

Everyone also has the power of forgiveness within them.

Have faith in every aspect of what you're now facing.

[csh2020 18]

One more question: I am going to send the withdrawal letter in the morning via certified mail after getting it notarized today. I have two versions. One version reads as: 

I am writing to withdraw the I-130 PETITION FOR ALIEN RELATIVE, filed on behalf of my wife, (name). Receipt # XXX and A# XXX, notice date: (date of notice of action). I married her out of good faith and true love on my part on (date of the wedding), but I discovered through many of her words and actions that it was not reciprocated. Therefore, I have plenty of reasons to believe that she may not have married me for the right reasons. We are furthermore not physically nor emotionally compatible. She abandoned our marriage by moving out of our home, by not saying anything to anyone. I have no idea where she is. So, I will be filing for a divorce or annulment asap. 

 

The second version is simpler:

I am writing to withdraw the I-130 PETITION FOR ALIEN RELATIVE, filed on behalf of my wife, (name). Receipt # XXX and A# XXX, notice date: (date of notice of action) because the marriage is not viable. We are not physically emotionally compatible. She has abandoned the marriage and so I plan to file for a divorce or annulment.

 

The reason I ask this question is that I am not vindictive, and I do not wish to cause unnecessary harm to her. I just have to wonder if the first version comes across as a bit accusatory. I suspect that she married me for a Green Card (as evidence shows) but I can't prove it beyond a doubt. At this point I am willing to let bygones be bygones. BTW: I need to correct myself and say that the FB posting about her boyfriend was over a year before we met. I read the date wrong. It was posted Feb 2023 not Feb 2024 (the year we met). So, I won't even bring that part up in the divorce/annulment or to UCSIS. There is no need because it is a non-issue. I just want to keep things simple and move on with my life. The marriage is over for certain. Enough people were harmed by this. Thoughts?

 

 

 

[Crazy Cat 42,574]

I like the 2nd version....specific, succinct, matter-of-fact.  It was very well done, imo.  Just my opinion.

 

You can (and should) include specifies in your marriage termination documents.  Good luck. 

Edited January 31 by Crazy Cat

[Edward and Jaycel 797]

11 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

I like the 2nd version....specific, succinct, matter-of-fact.  Just my opinion.

 

You can (and should) include specifies in your marriage termination documents.  Good luck. 

 

Agreed 100%

[TBoneTX 46,294]

Yes, second version.