Long Distance Marriage, need to know the steps

[EmilyW 1,519]

OP, this is just my opinion so take it for what it's worth.  I believe you are worrying about proving the bonafides of the relationship because, in your own mind, you know this is moving very quickly.  Not saying you have doubts necessarily, but you've known each other for three months and have spent three weeks together which is enough time to know if you agree on big life issues, but not necessarily long enough to truly know each other.

 

The good news is, you will have plenty of time after filing to get to know each other and I suspect that, as time goes on, you will feel more and more confident about the process, as you become more and more settled in your marriage.

 

As @Crazy Cat recommends, it would be helpful to have the US citizen participate here, so that we can support you BOTH on this journey.  

[EmilyW 1,519]

Mods, this is one of two identical threads.  Can someone please merge?

 

 

[Crazy Cat 42,160]

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[percmutt 0]

5 hours ago, EmilyW said:

OP, this is just my opinion so take it for what it's worth.  I believe you are worrying about proving the bonafides of the relationship because, in your own mind, you know this is moving very quickly.  Not saying you have doubts necessarily, but you've known each other for three months and have spent three weeks together which is enough time to know if you agree on big life issues, but not necessarily long enough to truly know each other.

 

The good news is, you will have plenty of time after filing to get to know each other and I suspect that, as time goes on, you will feel more and more confident about the process, as you become more and more settled in your marriage.

I understand the sentiment, but I'm sure that I have found my other half and I want to spend the rest of my life with them. It's just that a lot of other people I've talked to about this are supportive but afraid that I am rushing things. And I'll admit, I guess we kinda are, but you can't apply normal relationship dynamics to something that's long distance, we really can't afford the time to wait like an extra year or two of dating just to settle on this (especially with Trump in office), hence why we're getting married at 9 months.

 

I'm worried about proving the evidence of our relationship because a lot of people provide financial entanglement, like joint accounts or proof of having lived together. But since we're across the continent from each other all we can really do is provide photos, receipts of museums we've been to, screenshots of social media posts and our messages and I'm afraid of not having a strong case.

Edited Sunday at 04:51 PM by percmutt

[Crazy Cat 42,160]

4 minutes ago, percmutt said:

I'm worried about proving the evidence of our relationship because a lot of people provide financial entanglement, like joint accounts or proof of having lived together. But since we're across the continent from each other all we can really do is provide photos, receipts of museums we've been to, screenshots of social media posts and our messages and I'm afraid of not having a strong case.

Couples living in separate countries are not expected to have joint accounts, joint property, etc.  Best evidence is that of time actually spent together.