Filed I130, got pregnant

[OldUser 6,979]

36 minutes ago, yuyul said:

This also worries me, I'm wondering if its because of the "advance stage" of pregnancy or is it due to lacking of insurance in case something happens?

 

At the same time, I also wonder about those who does babymoon😂:

It's simply because US (at least CBP, DOS) doesn't want people coming to the US to give birth... There's a whole thing about "anchor babies" (sorry for the term used) the upcoming administration is likely to address with their policies.

 

You can get CRBA, but you have to actively prove you're eligible to pass the citizenship, which is a higher burden then just giving birth in the US. Many aren't eligible for CRBA and would not be able to pass citizenship, but otherwise would have had US citizen children by birth if were allowed into the US during pregnancy.

 

Plus airlines also need to be prepared for complicated situations and higher risks linked to pregnant passengers.

Edited December 11 by OldUser

[pushbrk 12,994]

18 hours ago, OldUser said:

It's simply because US (at least CBP, DOS) doesn't want people coming to the US to give birth... There's a whole thing about "anchor babies" (sorry for the term used) the upcoming administration is likely to address with their policies.

 

You can get CRBA, but you have to actively prove you're eligible to pass the citizenship, which is a higher burden then just giving birth in the US. Many aren't eligible for CRBA and would not be able to pass citizenship, but otherwise would have had US citizen children by birth if were allowed into the US during pregnancy.

 

Plus airlines also need to be prepared for complicated situations and higher risks linked to pregnant passengers.

AND, just to add, if the US Citizen Parent cannot pass citizenship at birth, they just petition the child for an IR2 visa.  When they use the visa to come live with the USC parent, they are immediately citizens upon arrival.  Pick the cat skinning method appropriate for the circumstances.

[GingerZebra 7]

On 12/11/2024 at 2:17 AM, yuyul said:

Hello @GingerZebra,

 

I have reached out to SG embassy, and they did mentioned "should the USC parent not be around, he/she may authorized the non USC parent".

 

But I will be walking in to the embassy sometimes next week to find out more!

Good luck! I think every embassy is a bit different so hopefully you can get some answers, we cannot just walk in here. 

[GingerZebra 7]

On 12/11/2024 at 2:18 AM, yuyul said:

This also worries me, I'm wondering if its because of the "advance stage" of pregnancy or is it due to lacking of insurance in case something happens?

 

At the same time, I also wonder about those who does babymoon😂

No I was 11 weeks pregnant, and had really good insurance to cover me with anything pregnancy related.

It was honestly a nightmare experience, nobody helped me or anything. 

[GingerZebra 7]

On 12/11/2024 at 2:42 AM, OldUser said:

At least you didn't fly all the way to the US to be denied entry and placed on return flight...

Not really the point.. I shouldn't have even been allowed past check-in and security to then be at the plane and put on the phone, to be denied and left alone with no explanation or help/advice about what to do next in the middle of an airport pregnant and alone. 

 

I was actually given very bad advice on what to do because nobody knew. 

I lost so much money as I had a return flight.. 

I also had a bleed due to stress... we are lucky that's as bad as it got. 

 

I did my whole pregnancy entirely alone... I won't even go into anything else.

[yuyul 1]

I thank all of you for your valuable input for this topic!!

 

I definitely learned alot😂, I don't think I would risk taking a "babymoon" to US then.

 

Time to find out more about CRBA or the IR2!!

[OldUser 6,979]

2 hours ago, GingerZebra said:

Not really the point.. I shouldn't have even been allowed past check-in and security to then be at the plane and put on the phone, to be denied and left alone with no explanation or help/advice about what to do next in the middle of an airport pregnant and alone. 

 

I was actually given very bad advice on what to do because nobody knew. 

I lost so much money as I had a return flight.. 

I also had a bleed due to stress... we are lucky that's as bad as it got. 

 

I did my whole pregnancy entirely alone... I won't even go into anything else.

I'm sorry you had to go through this.

[GingerZebra 7]

10 hours ago, OldUser said:

I'm sorry you had to go through this.

Thanks, It's honestly one thing after another for us! Now I'm looking after her entirely alone as the visa wait times are so long and my partner obviously cannot stay with us and has to go back to the USA to work and only do visits; which is difficult because that means taking unpaid time off which we can't really afford... and on top of visa stuff for me we have to go through this entire process to get her a passport and SSN which can be difficult because we're not married yet

[yuyul 1]

7 hours ago, GingerZebra said:

Thanks, It's honestly one thing after another for us! Now I'm looking after her entirely alone as the visa wait times are so long and my partner obviously cannot stay with us and has to go back to the USA to work and only do visits; which is difficult because that means taking unpaid time off which we can't really afford... and on top of visa stuff for me we have to go through this entire process to get her a passport and SSN which can be difficult because we're not married yet

You can do this!!!❤️

I have only just received receipt of my i130, its gonna be a long wait for us to be reunited too!

[GingerZebra 7]

5 hours ago, yuyul said:

You can do this!!!❤️

I have only just received receipt of my i130, its gonna be a long wait for us to be reunited too!

Thank you!

 

We got ours 92 days ago. We were going to get married just before the birth but the process of getting a visa for my partner to do that ended up being denied too close to his flight for us to be able to do anything about it and we didn't want him to miss the birth. It left us as having to go for the fiance visa for me.

 

Obviously everyone waiting on visas knows it's hard, Like you don't know how long to plan for, I had to renew my rental agreement but who knows if I'll get the whole agreement done or if I'm gonna have to try and buy myself out of it... you can't plan for anything and that's very difficult; but when there's a baby involved and it feels like a family is split apart it's Another level, because I don't want to have to pay too much for shipping items I have to be so sure that she's going to use things that are bought for her etc, she misses out on her dad, I miss out on help... I really don't have a good support system here (that's if you can even count them as a support system) because I've been entirely alone since he Had to leave to go back to work.

 

I know that once we finally move everything is going to be so much better and so much easier, it's just very difficult currently to feel like she's getting everything that she should be And to even have things for self care for myself when honestly it's more like a survival.. And that's not including all the worry I have about different parts of the visa process.

 

I'm definitely stronger than I thought I was though I don't feel it but I really am looking forward to the next visit!!