Looking to sponsor someone for a visitor visa

[Klolangel 1]

So I met this guy online who wants to marry me from Pakistan. I’m a US Citizen (born here) and never left the country and don’t even have a passport. I wanted to meet him in person before agreeing to marry him, but everyone I know is against me going to Pakistan. He wants me to visit for a summer and get married there and then return to the US to get him a visa. He previously was denied a study visa to the US and tourism visas I guess are difficult for Pakistanis to obtain. How should I go about this situation?

[powerpuff 6,680]

There is no such thing as sponsorship for a tourist visa. He must apply on his own and qualify on his own.
 

I would definitely not marry on the first visit - not only is that a red flag for immigration, but you do not know the person at all. 
 

My advice is to meet in a country that doesn’t require a visa (or offers something like visa on arrival or eVisa) for either of you. Take it slow, there is no need to rush into a marriage with a stranger.

[milimelo 4,475]

Wasn't there a thread couple days ago about a USC woman who brought a Pakistani husband in and he took off after getting his 10-yr green card. I'd read that before deciding to proceed with this guy. 

 

Plenty of red flags already flying - refused visas, wants to get married fast...

[Crazy Cat 41,811]

2 hours ago, Klolangel said:

So I met this guy online who wants to marry me from Pakistan. I’m a US Citizen (born here) and never left the country and don’t even have a passport. I wanted to meet him in person before agreeing to marry him, but everyone I know is against me going to Pakistan. He wants me to visit for a summer and get married there and then return to the US to get him a visa. He previously was denied a study visa to the US and tourism visas I guess are difficult for Pakistanis to obtain. How should I go about this situation?

RED ALERT!!!!! Red flags all over this case.......Caution is advised!!!!  Sounds like he might be visa shopping for any visa which will allow him to set foot in the US.  

Edited October 20 by Crazy Cat

[appleblossom 2,445]

3 hours ago, Klolangel said:

So I met this guy online who wants to marry me from Pakistan. I’m a US Citizen (born here) and never left the country and don’t even have a passport. I wanted to meet him in person before agreeing to marry him, but everyone I know is against me going to Pakistan. He wants me to visit for a summer and get married there and then return to the US to get him a visa. He previously was denied a study visa to the US and tourism visas I guess are difficult for Pakistanis to obtain. How should I go about this situation?

Ooof. Afraid I agree with the others, this has alarm bells ringing for me. 

 

Sounds like he’s desperate to get to the US and I very much hope that he loves you for you, and not for the green card you offer him a route to, but he could well have been online solely to try and snare a naive American. Personally I’d test him by saying you’ve decided you don’t want to live in the US anymore and would like to go and live with him in Pakistan. If he is genuine then he’ll just want to be with you, no matter where in the world that is, so his reaction to that suggestion could be quite telling. 
 

But if he’s from Pakistan then you’ll probably need several visits anyway, or there would be a much bigger risk of refusal. Pakistan is a high fraud consulate, so one meet up isn’t likely to cut it. 
 

If you don’t want to go to Pakistan then you can meet in a third country. Plan to do that several times before filing so you can really get to know him, and build up evidence of a genuine relationship. 
 

Good luck. 

[Boiler 45,445]

He loves her or loves getting to the US, they have never met.

 

Are you also of Pakistan heritage? How did you meet?

 

Perhaps meet somewhere nice like the Seychelles, somewhere you both can get to..

[Daphne . 1,852]

Is this more of an arranged marriage or something? If not, I would be very careful when somebody brings up marriage, especially if you come with the huge bonus of immigration benefits to the US. 

[SalishSea 17,801]

6 hours ago, Klolangel said:

So I met this guy online who wants to marry me from Pakistan. I’m a US Citizen (born here) and never left the country and don’t even have a passport. I wanted to meet him in person before agreeing to marry him, but everyone I know is against me going to Pakistan. He wants me to visit for a summer and get married there and then return to the US to get him a visa. He previously was denied a study visa to the US and tourism visas I guess are difficult for Pakistanis to obtain. How should I go about this situation?

This sounds 100% like a green card (fraud) marriage. 
 

OP, be VERY careful here.   Do not marry someone you don’t know.

[Melancholic Mage 104]

8 hours ago, Klolangel said:

So I met this guy online who wants to marry me from Pakistan. I’m a US Citizen (born here) and never left the country and don’t even have a passport. I wanted to meet him in person before agreeing to marry him, but everyone I know is against me going to Pakistan. He wants me to visit for a summer and get married there and then return to the US to get him a visa. He previously was denied a study visa to the US and tourism visas I guess are difficult for Pakistanis to obtain. How should I go about this situation?

 

This sounds so dangerous to me.

 

Not only has he made it clear he was denied a study visa and tourism visa, but the fact he outright says he wants to marry you when you HAVEN'T EVEN MET YET? Your friends and family have every right to disagree with your plans to go to Pakistan. It's VERY CLEAR he's trying to get into the USA no matter what.

 

Please think of yourself. A lot of these cases on the forum turn into domestic violence once the marriage is all said and done and he's actually entered the USA. Don't throw your life away. Marriage is supposed to be an oath built on love and trust. It's quite evident there's none of that to be found here - regardless of what he's told you.

[KMG 125]

10 hours ago, Klolangel said:

So I met this guy online who wants to marry me from Pakistan. I’m a US Citizen (born here) and never left the country and don’t even have a passport. I wanted to meet him in person before agreeing to marry him, but everyone I know is against me going to Pakistan. He wants me to visit for a summer and get married there and then return to the US to get him a visa. He previously was denied a study visa to the US and tourism visas I guess are difficult for Pakistanis to obtain. How should I go about this situation?

Don't go to Pakistan as a single woman, and get rid if this guy. He is only looking for a Green Card.

[JD2 72]

15 hours ago, powerpuff said:

My advice is to meet in a country that doesn’t require a visa (or offers something like visa on arrival or eVisa) for either of you. Take it slow, there is no need to rush into a marriage with a stranger.

@Klolangel if you want to meet in a 3rd country, you can use the website passportindex.org.  From that website, assuming he has a Pakistani passport, Qatar gives both US and Pakistan passport holders visa on arrival.  Just one example.  He won't get a B1/B2.  Most likely best option is CR-1/IR-1.  Be careful and good luck.

[SJinCA 22]

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everyone I know is against me going to Pakistan.

 

Listen to them. For God's sake, when every single person in your life whose opinion you value is giving you the same answer, listen to them. Do not under any circumstances travel to Pakistan as a single woman to meet a stranger. I don't care how often you've talked online, anybody can be anyone online. This person is a stranger to you until you've spent at least some time together in-person.

 

What would you do in the (incredibly likely) scenario that you arrive there, and your love interest turns out to be a completely different person than how they represented themself online? What if he takes your passport? What if he becomes abusive or violent?

 

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I met this guy online

 

How did you meet this guy exactly? Is there some backstory, did he just message you out of the blue? Even in a conservative culture like Pakistan's, talking about getting married to someone you've never met in-person (or at least, who you don't know through friends/family) is a red flag. 

 

There are plenty of horror stories on this forum and others like it of people who realized their long-distance partner was a completely different person than how they presented themselves at first. You should really read some of those stories to understand exactly what you might be getting yourself into in the entirely likely event that this man sees you as a means to an end, rather than as someone to build a life with.

[Pinkrlion 2,715]

I would check to see if he is already married in Pakistan. 

[DELTAFOXTROT 48]

5 hours ago, Pinkrlion said:

I would check to see if he is already married in Pakistan. 

Good Answer......