Family/Friends unsupportive

[Ban Hammer 13,325]

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charles
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Edited October 16 by Ban Hammer

[EmilyW 1,430]

5 hours ago, Bunninuts said:

 

@EmilyW Thank you for your comment. I'm sorry you experienced that and am glad there has been a positive outcome. I kind of hope your kids do lick their knife, carefully

 

 

They started, once we told them the story of the troubles we had when we first got together.  A typical Australian response to misplaced / ignorant authority, and as a wink to, and defense of, their mama.  

[TexasRafael 134]

That is unfortunate but concentrate of your life and make it happy with the one you have chosen.  If they come around much the better but if they do not, move on. 

Edited October 17 by TBoneTX
multiple repetitions removed

[ilikepotatoes 57]

I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I went through the same thing with my family. My father and one very close family friend were the only ones who were supportive of my relationship and plans to marry my now husband. All of my other relatives accused him of being all kinds of horrible things (a scam artist, a trafficker, etc.) and they did everything in their power to try to sabotage our plans. One aunt even called our home in the middle of the night, screaming at my father for allowing me, his adult daughter, to marry. Three years later, and only one of those relatives has made an effort to meet him.

 

My husband is the most wonderful human I’ve ever known, and I knew in my heart that we were going to make it work. So we did. I did make him aware of the hostility, which I think is important to do. They deserve to know the whole situation, even the messy family dynamics. But the most important thing to know is that, while it may be painful to not have their “approval,” what they think shouldn’t really matter at all. Your relationship is your choice and your business. Your happiness and contentment should not depend on whether your relatives accept it or not.

 

I used to let my own family issues eat me up inside, and I’d be lying if I said it isn’t still hurtful when I let my mind go there. BUT we cannot change the way people are. It’s up to them to make those changes, and sometimes they do….and sometimes they don’t. So, the best way to move forward is really to live and let live. Enjoy this time with your fiancé, and try not to let the negativity spoil the precious memories you are making right now!

 

Wishing you the very best!

[TBoneTX 45,223]

Again, time together and familiarity (the unknown becoming known) should prove the ticket in most cases.

 

Time heals all wounds.

In addition, time wounds all heels.  

[hplusj 135]

Sorry this has been your experience, OP.

 

I will say though, that "don't judge a book by its cover" goes both ways.

 

I'll save further, potentially incendiary commentary for the political forum