Family/Friends unsupportive

[Bunninuts 11]

Most of my family and friends have been very supportive however one important family member and one friend have not been. The politically climate in the US is sticky with judgement around anyone migrating here.

 

Have you dealt with this? Recommendations? I never imagined I would experience this around something that is meant to bring family and friends together. Having finally found a person I want to spend my life with, I wanted to share that joy with people closest to me. It's a heartbreaking experience. I haven't told my fiance yet. Has anyone had to have that talk?

 

Thanks for any support you can offer 💜

[appleblossom 2,169]

13 minutes ago, Bunninuts said:

Most of my family and friends have been very supportive however one important family member and one friend have not been. The politically climate in the US is sticky with judgement around anyone migrating here.

 

Have you dealt with this? Recommendations? I never imagined I would experience this around something that is meant to bring family and friends together. Having finally found a person I want to spend my life with, I wanted to share that joy with people closest to me. It's a heartbreaking experience. I haven't told my fiance yet. Has anyone had to have that talk?

 

Thanks for any support you can offer 💜

 

Really sorry to hear this. Have you spoken to them about this? If your family member and friend aren't supporting your choice or relationship, I'd be having a serious talk with them and explaining the impact their judgement has on you. They need to understand that it's your choice, that you're happy, and that if they truly loved you, they'd support you no matter what country your spouse is from. If they aren't prepared to do that, I wouldn't want them in my life personally. 

 

It is really tricky at the moment, even as a 'safe' immigrant (white and with a green card) I certainly feel very unwelcome thanks to Trump and his anti-immigrant rhetoric. I avoid speaking to people when I'm out now so that they don't pick up on my accent. If he wins, we're out of here, most other immigrants we know have said the same thing. I just wouldn't feel safe staying which is awful. 

[Boiler 45,092]

I have never really noticed anything, well thinking back maybe once many years ago.

 

Where are you moving to?

[Bunninuts 11]

41 minutes ago, Boiler said:

I have never really noticed anything, well thinking back maybe once many years ago.

 

Where are you moving to?

I live in the US and my fiance will be joining me here. Maybe the question of where to move was for Appleblossom.

 

The change in how immigrants are treated has intensified this year with politicians commentary.

 

The judgment against immigrants is why one family member and one friend are not supportive. One thinks my fiance is using me for a green card and the other thinks they should stay in their own country. I'm not sure if country of origin have an impact for others but spanish being a first language always has had negative judgment.