Age gap plus online marriage.

[Lil bear 4,149]

57 minutes ago, Boiler said:

OP is showing NY as a location which is different, even so the US system can be a shock.

Pretty much always is, don't you think !! 

[MattJoy 1]

1 hour ago, Boiler said:

OP is showing NY as a location which is different, even so the US system can be a shock.

My SO is in New York 

[yuna628 9,665]

2 hours ago, MattJoy said:

Good day 

 

I was told it is illegal to marry on visa waver program and if I do I can never return to the USA . I would love a small courthouse wedding his family are lovely people. 

Hi OP,

 

So here's the thing. You can certainly get married on a visit. Why? Marriage is in the domain of the state and not of the feds and it does not work the same way as it does in the UK. People visit and marry in the US all the time, as destination weddings are a thing. What you cannot do is come with the intent to marry, stay and adjust. Because people attempt this, it makes the burden of proof on the people doing things properly. Do you have strong ties to home? Do you have evidence of returning home? If you decide to come for a visit, I would recommend that first. Meeting in person and seeing the potential circumstances of the life in the US you will be living. Talking for 2 years is great, but reality is a funny thing, and the immigration process is indeed hard. Get to know each other first, and then if it goes well you could marry during the trip.

 

Age gaps happen. But what you're going to need to focus on is, as you are both of older age and you said your SO has some disabilities - is healthcare. It's expensive. And I hate to tell you that for older immigrants, because of how the system works, you've got an even harder time of it. The potential US spouse has also got sponsorship and affidavit of support to think about.

[Family 3,988]

7 hours ago, MattJoy said:

The man who consulted us on the visa process. 

Do the world a favor and post that “Consultant’s “ name here on your thread.
You would help others reading your story . ..
 

[Big Papa Zone 93]

I'm pleased to see that in terms of "professional" advice, little has changed in terms of its horrendous inaccuracy since my visa journey began some 16 years ago.🙄 One of the first things I learned from this site was that if your case is straightforward (i.e. devoid of any criminality) then "professional" advice is invariably more of a hindrance than a help.

 

Also, your age difference, OP - it's only 13 years. That's hardly an anomaly is it? 

[TBoneTX 45,023]

38 minutes ago, Big Papa Zone said:

One of the first things I learned from this site was that if your case is straightforward (i.e. devoid of any criminality) then "professional" advice is invariably more of a hindrance than a help.

In general, people can be encouraged to do it themselves.  However, some people lack the time, organizational skills, or both.  For them, professional assistance can enable timely and complete fulfillment of subjectively daunting documentation requirements.

[WoodlandsFamily 12]

I think you should definitely visit him and his family at least once or twice before marrying and preferably marry him in person. Once your green card is sorted you can move to the US. You need to show lots of evidence of your relationship in photos and conversations to be able to push the application through. It's going to take at least 18-24 months from when you apply. Can he visit you here or is that not possible? You mentioned mobility issues. Good luck to you!